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knotslandingdom -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 12:15:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit LOL... respect and trust are built in four emails??? Damn... I am old! This is e-dating. Everything happens faster over the internet. It's also been known to happen over a couple of drinks at the bar, too. It might not happen to everyone but it does happen.

Lockit -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 12:19:33 PM)
Trust and respect doesn't come after a few emails or drinks in a bar. Okay, you might trust them enough to take them home for a night... you might trust someone online enough to call or meet them... but all that isn't trust or respect as I see it. I do wonder though. It is something we often rush to opinionate on when someone bitches about someone complains of someone acting too fast because of a picture in different states of dress or undress. Does being sexy or not afraid to show a bit off mean that someone else has a right to act on their sexual desire thinking one is cheap or easy because of the picture? I would think it takes a bit more than that. I mean... come on... some people think high heels or a smile are a come on. We are at an adult site and we will have pictures... does that give someone the right to take liberties?

Lynnxz -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 12:27:09 PM)
Goes along with "Look but don't touch"

knotslandingdom -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 12:29:51 PM)
All he did, according to the OP was make a statement about "do you want something hard"... This comment in his 4th email resulted in the OP being offended. Just saying that if the mere mention of "something hard" in email #4 is offensive to her or too soon and can wreck what sounded like a budding relationship, she might want to make that very clear in her profile. As it is, her pics and what she has written could give some men the impression that talking about "something hard" wouldn't be such a bad thing. Just saying.....

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 1:03:26 PM)
Well I don't know what kind of pictures the OP has on her profile, but I do agree with knotslandingdom in that people who do have nude or sexually suggestive pics on their profile shouldn't be surprised when they receive sexually suggestive emails.

Lockit -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 1:08:40 PM)
I had my prim and proper pics up and got all kinds of crap in my email... it doesn't matter what you are wearing or not wearing... an idiot is going to be an idiot... someone aggressive with no respect is going to continue to be. I've also had those that came on all nice... with my fully clothed pictures... numberous emails with nothing to provoke them and they went all sexual all of a sudden. To me... it doesn't matter what you do or don't do... there will always be someone who decides to push a point.

kiwisub12 -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 1:43:20 PM)
Do you want something hard? Hmmm - a hard time? a hard cheese? a hard life? oh,oh - i know, a diamond!!!! He was wanting to give you a diamond! Thats about the hardest thing i can think of. I just think the OP has a dirty mind, and mistook the Minnisota mans intentions. He obviously feel in love and wanted to get engaged, and married! Shame on you for putting salacious intentions into his inocuous email. Tsk tsk. [:D]

marie2 -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 1:54:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel Well I don't know what kind of pictures the OP has on her profile, but I do agree with knotslandingdom in that people who do have nude or sexually suggestive pics on their profile shouldn't be surprised when they receive sexually suggestive emails. To some of these horny desperate fuckers, showing your neck is sexually suggestive.

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 2:00:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 quote: ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel Well I don't know what kind of pictures the OP has on her profile, but I do agree with knotslandingdom in that people who do have nude or sexually suggestive pics on their profile shouldn't be surprised when they receive sexually suggestive emails. To some of these horny desperate fuckers, showing your neck is sexually suggestive. LMAO, you're right Marie. [:D] When I had my profile still up on the other side, just the sight of my long black hair had horny hair fanatics emailing me. Go figure! [;)] However, my point is that often people complain about being approached in a sexual manner, when they're putting themselves out there in a sexual manner. For some guys (not just the horny net guys), they just can't win for losing because women often send very mixed signals.

KatyLied -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 2:03:52 PM)
quote: How dare he be sexually attracted to you after four online conversations! Exactly! Any discussion of hardness should wait until the fifth exchange of conversation. [:D]

kiwisub12 -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 2:17:20 PM)
The fifth? Damn, i so misread that page of the handbook - i've been sending out emails discussing hardness after the third. no wonder i keep getting rejected! [:o]

marie2 -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 2:31:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 quote: ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel Well I don't know what kind of pictures the OP has on her profile, but I do agree with knotslandingdom in that people who do have nude or sexually suggestive pics on their profile shouldn't be surprised when they receive sexually suggestive emails. To some of these horny desperate fuckers, showing your neck is sexually suggestive. LMAO, you're right Marie. [:D] When I had my profile still up on the other side, just the sight of my long black hair had horny hair fanatics emailing me. Go figure! [;)] Just so we're clear, it wasn't your hair that did it for me, it was your cleavage. And I've been wanting to lick whipped cream off your boobs ever since. (even if I have to use a step stool to reach)

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 4:10:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 quote: ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 quote: ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel Well I don't know what kind of pictures the OP has on her profile, but I do agree with knotslandingdom in that people who do have nude or sexually suggestive pics on their profile shouldn't be surprised when they receive sexually suggestive emails. To some of these horny desperate fuckers, showing your neck is sexually suggestive. LMAO, you're right Marie. [:D] When I had my profile still up on the other side, just the sight of my long black hair had horny hair fanatics emailing me. Go figure! [;)] Just so we're clear, it wasn't your hair that did it for me, it was your cleavage. And I've been wanting to lick whipped cream off your boobs ever since. (even if I have to use a step stool to reach) What's halfway between New Jersey and Louisiana? [sm=hyper.gif] I'll bring the step ladder, you bring the whipped cream! [sm=flash.gif] [sm=flowers.gif]

lally3 -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 4:38:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: knotslandingdom After all, your profile states: I am seeking a man who is interested in taking control of me both inside the bedroom and outside the bedroom to a certain degree. A relationship where i know my place and that place is to keep the man I am with happy and defer to his will. I do get pleasure from pleasing and I am eager to do whatever he likes once I respect and trust him. sorry, are you saying theres something wrong with these statements - just wondering. i think that on an adult site nudity is erm... fine, isnt it? whenever anyone comes up with unimaginative, boorish, wanker-style shite like that i either blank them because its too boring, or i go for it.... and roast him, depends largely on what sort of day ive had.

aravain -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 5:01:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: knotslandingdom All he did, according to the OP was make a statement about "do you want something hard"... This comment in his 4th email resulted in the OP being offended. Just saying that if the mere mention of "something hard" in email #4 is offensive to her or too soon and can wreck what sounded like a budding relationship, she might want to make that very clear in her profile. As it is, her pics and what she has written could give some men the impression that talking about "something hard" wouldn't be such a bad thing. Just saying..... I would argue that she shouldn't do that in order to assure that those people who are playing with her are found out early. I would rather reject more often because I've seen the true(er) nature of a man, than make it easier for players to string me along longer. Does he try to steer it that way because I'm sharing naughty pictures? (I'm not)... well then, it doesn't matter to me... because that's someone who's playing and not being real, to me. I want his reactions (and initial actions), unchanged by me as much as possible because it helps me to determine (much earlier) whether or not it would work out.

Aszhrae -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 5:53:48 PM)
Girl personally has more respect for a domme that isn't doing the full reveal in her profile pic. Honestly, what self-respecting domme worth their salt would. Really. Girl may get some slack from stating this, but isn't being sub/slave about having respect in his/her dom/me. Girl certainly thinks and believes so.

knotslandingdom -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 6:02:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lally3 quote: ORIGINAL: knotslandingdom After all, your profile states: I am seeking a man who is interested in taking control of me both inside the bedroom and outside the bedroom to a certain degree. A relationship where i know my place and that place is to keep the man I am with happy and defer to his will. I do get pleasure from pleasing and I am eager to do whatever he likes once I respect and trust him. sorry, are you saying theres something wrong with these statements - just wondering. i think that on an adult site nudity is erm... fine, isnt it? whenever anyone comes up with unimaginative, boorish, wanker-style shite like that i either blank them because its too boring, or i go for it.... and roast him, depends largely on what sort of day ive had. I'm not saying that at all. There's nothing wrong with what she wrote or with the sexual pictures of herself on her profile, especially on this BDSM website. I'm saying that if she wants men to write to her and not venture into any sex talk then she might want to consider making that more clear in her profile. She's got pics of her naked ass on a public website and a man who's had an exchange of friendly emails with her decides to mention "something hard" and she gets offended by it to the point that she posts a thread about it. She's advertising herself with pics that are sexual and saying she wants a man to take control of her "both inside the bedroom" and out. So, if she gets upset when a man she has been corresponding with makes a comment about "something hard", she might want to reconsider the messages she's sending out with her profile pics and statements.

Lockit -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 6:07:54 PM)
This would be your own personal opinion Aszhare. You have a problem with nudity? No self respecting domme would show her nude body? You always get mad when people judge you... yet... looky here! There is nothing wrong with the human body and nudity and if you cannot believe that a nude domme is not self respecting, you assume a lot or judge a lot. quote: ORIGINAL: Aszhrae Girl personally has more respect for a domme that isn't doing the full reveal in her profile pic. Honestly, what self-respecting domme worth their salt would. Really. Girl may get some slack from stating this, but isn't being sub/slave about having respect in his/her dom/me. Girl certainly thinks and believes so.

Aszhrae -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 6:34:00 PM)
Yes girl does Lockit. Girl did say that she would probably get slack for making the statement, but girl was just sharing a thought and belief. Just as you do and others have. Just being fair and being just as opinionated as everyone else that like posting in the forums and making judgments. Just read the posts and see just how many pre-judge based on what is stated or shared.

Lockit -> RE: Dear other submissive types.... (12/9/2008 6:39:11 PM)
Then maybe you won't cry foul... loudly and often when other's do it to you!

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