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RE: soft or hard option - 12/19/2008 3:03:42 AM

MidMichCowboy

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Who said men are afraid to show their "soft" side. That is bullshit.
I am a man, a retro-sexual. I played hockey, football, rode rodeo and yes, I loved an occasional fight to let off steam.
I'm a big guy and when all hell breaks lose, it's my job to take control, keep my head, and get everyone through it. That doesn't mean I don't feel the emotions, it means my responsibility at that time is to put them in a drawer inside and help others first.
I'm a man. I beat the crap out of a 19 year old drug user who was trying to hit on my 14 year old daughter. I held my grandmother as she lay dying in the hospital and softly cried. When we were chasing cattle home from summer pasture and got hit by a freak blizzard, I rode in sleet and snow and moved the herd home. I've worked on drilling rigs, construction and ranching. I now sit in an office and type on a computer and get paid for it. I like theater and ballet. I like a good boxing match. I am always going to wine tastings, looking for the perfect cab. I have all kinds of good whiskey which I drink straight up. I'm a pretty damn good cook. I still break and train horses. I comfort Sister Ann when she has a bad night in the emergency room. My younger brother still brings out the boxing gloves when we both visit my folks for our matches. My kids crawl in my lap for comfort and safety. I let loose and "take" my woman as I please. I feel warm and happy when we are sleeping together and I hear her soft breathing. My boss is afraid of me (I'm a little outspoken) but I won an award for holding a child who had been in an accident because they were scared and she needed someone to comfort her and take her through ER and for Imaging tests and Labs. She chose me (no, I didn't know her).
I'm a man. I don't ever submit, I don't need to wear women's clothing, I don't have to follow anyone's rules but my own.
I accept others as they are and I expect to be accepted as I am. I

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RE: soft or hard option - 12/19/2008 8:15:34 AM

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the question is despite of all the personal choices there is still the stereotype maleness mancho master inmage out there is it that Men are to afraid to show their soft side ?

Sure that image is out there and there are women who will reject a man if he doesn't fit their stereotype but there certainly are women out there who are LOOKING for a man just like you. As for showing our softer sides, I wouldn't be with a woman who didn't enjoy my softer side. I was gay in another life is a little joke of mine because my feminine side IS so strong. When I moved out, all I had was my hope chest full of wine glasses, a service for eight, table clothes, curtains, etc. I can spend as long in a fabric store as a gun store, actually I can spend far longer in your average fabric store. I love to bake and play happy home maker and love spending time in places like William Sonoma or Le Table. I don't do it in high heels or a dress but that doesn't mean you can't. Learn to embrace who and what you are and understand for some that that image will make them laugh but the one you want is the one who's face lights up in a smile when you bring her a fresh omelette in bed, in my case I would be naked but in yours perhaps you are in a black strapless dress and spiked heels?

Reality is, conforming is easy, throwing your head back and being proud of who and what you are is hard at first, but the rewards are mind blowing.

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RE: soft or hard option - 12/19/2008 8:26:04 AM

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Imo, there is nothing wrong with embracing the masculine and feminine aspects of self and I certainly can appreciate and actually prefer a Dominant male to have certain 'softnesses' as it shows that they're a real person (And that they are a nurturer as well as a leader; the 2 are not mutually exclusive, believe me, I can personally attest to that); not some rooster strutting around the henhouse putting on a show.
It seems as if you're conflicted about these aspects of yourself and that may warrant some serious looking into self either alone and/or with the help of a professional.
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RE: soft or hard option - 12/19/2008 8:28:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy

Who said men are afraid to show their "soft" side. That is bullshit.
I am a man, a retro-sexual. I played hockey, football, rode rodeo and yes, I loved an occasional fight to let off steam.
I'm a big guy and when all hell breaks lose, it's my job to take control, keep my head, and get everyone through it. That doesn't mean I don't feel the emotions, it means my responsibility at that time is to put them in a drawer inside and help others first.
I'm a man. I beat the crap out of a 19 year old drug user who was trying to hit on my 14 year old daughter. I held my grandmother as she lay dying in the hospital and softly cried. When we were chasing cattle home from summer pasture and got hit by a freak blizzard, I rode in sleet and snow and moved the herd home. I've worked on drilling rigs, construction and ranching. I now sit in an office and type on a computer and get paid for it. I like theater and ballet. I like a good boxing match. I am always going to wine tastings, looking for the perfect cab. I have all kinds of good whiskey which I drink straight up. I'm a pretty damn good cook. I still break and train horses. I comfort Sister Ann when she has a bad night in the emergency room. My younger brother still brings out the boxing gloves when we both visit my folks for our matches. My kids crawl in my lap for comfort and safety. I let loose and "take" my woman as I please. I feel warm and happy when we are sleeping together and I hear her soft breathing. My boss is afraid of me (I'm a little outspoken) but I won an award for holding a child who had been in an accident because they were scared and she needed someone to comfort her and take her through ER and for Imaging tests and Labs. She chose me (no, I didn't know her).
I'm a man. I don't ever submit, I don't need to wear women's clothing, I don't have to follow anyone's rules but my own.
I accept others as they are and I expect to be accepted as I am. I

Beautifully said, midMichCowboy! :>
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RE: soft or hard option - 12/19/2008 8:31:14 AM

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Doesnt he just make your heart go pitter patter?

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RE: soft or hard option - 12/19/2008 11:30:43 AM

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A fabulous gentleman, to be sure. :>
Davan

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RE: soft or hard option - 12/19/2008 2:46:53 PM

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It seems some replies have confused your “feminine” comments to mean being submissive. It seemed to me between your post and profile you are saying feminine cross dressing male Dominant Top . . . a Domme in drag?

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RE: soft or hard option - 12/19/2008 3:06:25 PM

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Again I contend that there is nothing wrong with a hard core Male Dominant/Master in a skirt. or is there something wrong with Highland Scotts Male Dominants/Masters wearing kilts?

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RE: soft or hard option - 12/19/2008 7:47:09 PM

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Geesh

Well ... just a note to let folks know I'll probably be off for a week. I'm flying out west to my folks ranch to spend Christmas.

May everyone have a happy holiday.

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RE: soft or hard option - 12/19/2008 9:19:01 PM

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Have a safe trip and a bloody tanfastic time MMC and will look forward to seeing you after your return..

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RE: soft or hard option - 12/20/2008 7:12:20 AM

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there are very few men that i've come in contact with through-out my lifetime that didn't show their soft side; there are even fewer men that felt in order to show their soft side that they had to dress as a female, and for that i feel truly blessed.

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RE: soft or hard option - 12/21/2008 9:13:51 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

It seems some replies have confused your “feminine” comments to mean being submissive. It seemed to me between your post and profile you are saying feminine cross dressing male Dominant Top . . . a Domme in drag?

does one need a label to define ?
does one wear panties and change the man ? if it has to be said then its a wonderful mind set

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