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PolishgirlatKSA -> BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 3:04:20 AM)
BDSM A Reality or a Dream? I thought a lot before writing this. I am Polish but I am abroad working for a British company. I have been thinking about BDSM for three years since I started knowing a boyfriend back home and he started introducing me to what he called BDSM. He used to ask me to stay home naked and when he is around I should walk on my hands and knees like a dog. Somtimes I laughed and other times I felt this is stupid and would stop it. What I loved in this relationship two basic things. The first is rough sex he used to do with me, the other is the wonderful real spankings I got and the tears that used to roll from my eyes. Sometimes I liked it more when he did it in the presence of a mutual male friend of ours, and when that friend shared sometimes in spanking me. But all the rest of the Taboo are not real. I asked seven of my girlfriends who did it or used to do it , and they all agreed with me. I do not say that there are no real sadists and masochists, all I am saying they are very few. On Collarme, you meet hundreds of men pretending they are ones, and you could be more than sure that they have not even spanked a girl, while you meet others that think they will find a girl the second day he sends a note to her asking her to meet him[:)]. Others are frustrated becasue they spend hours and hours trying to find someone real. I myself made my advert casue I had so many questions to be answered related to BDSM and spanking. Some of those who responded wrote asking when can we meet, proving they did not even complete reading my advert, as I mentioned I am abroad and may meet during my summer holidays, that I need now a friend older and experienced in BDSM and spanking to write to me. Some I thought real and started writing and I started sharing some very private things in my life, even sent pictures, but then their e-mails starter getting shorter and shorter until they were two lines , so of course I stopped writing.[:@] I need other opinions and I hope they are serious. This wen has been built beautifully for people of different minds to talk and exchange ideas and know each other. Maria

Aileen1968 -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 3:09:10 AM)
It's real. Very fucking real...

WilliamAugustine -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 4:39:08 AM)
With you Maria? This is just my dream. ;)

lally3 -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 5:02:52 AM)
you know hun, my firm belief is this: the moment you stop thinking about it as BDSM and kink and start thinking about it as just a part of the relationship you seek you project that out, it shows and eventually someone will come along who is D who just happens to enjoy BDSM as part and parcel of the relationship they seek too. its a way of being, that for a number of people is just that, it cant be separated from who and what they are, they think and feel it every day. its no different to being vanilla - its just what we are and not so much what we do - lots of people seeking dont 'do' anything for long intervals because they have noone to 'do' it with - doesnt stop them from being who they are for a minute. so, yes its very real - its who we are - youre just in for the long haul like the rest of us until someone comes along who will make it all fall into place for you.

RedMagic1 -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 5:30:55 AM)
My own BDSM dream is to dominate a bunch of horny-ass punks by harvesting their emails on a kinky social network, by sending them an offline address so we can talk about BDSM and spankings "in total privacy." Hey, it works on Facebook. Check it out. http://blog.wordtothewise.com/2008/04/address-harvesting-through-social-networks/

IrishMist -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 5:34:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 My own BDSM dream is to dominate a bunch of horny-ass punks by harvesting their emails on a kinky social network, by sending them an offline address so we can talk about BDSM and spankings "in total privacy." Hey, it works on Facebook. Check it out. http://blog.wordtothewise.com/2008/04/address-harvesting-through-social-networks/ LMAO RM [:D]

sobayblackmaster -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 5:44:14 AM)
isn't part of all this the allure, the ambivalence? isn't it about pushing limits, from within and without? maybe people-whether Dom/sub or Master/slave just need the right partner/chemistry to open up that part of themselves.

pompeii -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 6:34:58 AM)
It's real, and it's not real. Fantasies are real and they're not. Desires are real, and they're not. Conversations are real, and they're not. On the topic of the conversations petering out, realize there's a half life of about a half dozen emails for any conversation with a person who remains a stranger to you. Basically, after about a half dozen emails, the conversation will have gotten to the point of meeting, or not. If it gets to the point of meeting, which is rare, as you've found out, even for a gorgeous woman (which surprises me being a regular joe), then there's plenty to discuss. However, if you don't meet after about a half-dozen emails, well then, there's just not much more to say after a while. Especially if the first two words from him were "wanna f**k?" Given all that, and subtracting out what appears to be obvious attention-getting beauty, your experiences are quite normal. YMMV of course.

MarsBonfire -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 6:46:22 AM)
From the sound of it, you tried some things and liked them, and you tried others, and found they did not work for you. That is pretty much everyone's experience. Those who are into BDSM don't immediately practice everything... Like good food, or music, there is lots of variety, and everyone has their favorites. Basically, you are asking the age old online question: "Are these people "real" in their desire for this?" The answer is, yes, they are. But their desires, and yours, might be incompatible. Learn to filter, young lady.

CatdeMedici -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 6:53:55 AM)
It is what you define it to be---to some it is a dream/fantasy, for others it is life---for Me like beth said, it is to Me as My blue eyes--a key part of who I am.

DarkSteven -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 6:54:24 AM)
Damn. I wish I could meet the girl who posed for the pics.

xxblushesxx -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 7:04:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Damn. I wish I could meet the girl who posed for the pics. DS and Red hit it on the head. I'm not going to mention the thread that got pulled last weekend.

pompeii -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 7:14:54 AM)
quote: I wish I could meet the girl who posed for the pics. I hadn't read the profile, just looked at the thumbnail next to the original post. Having read the profile, I instantly see what you mean. We've been snookered ... I revise my answer: Yes "Maria". It's real. Very real. Send $10 to me and a SASE and I'll prove how real it really is. xxoxx

RedMagic1 -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 9:43:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Damn. I wish I could meet the girl who posed for the pics. You're in luck! She lives in Colorado! But... she's nilla... and gay.

DarkSteven -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 6:46:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Damn. I wish I could meet the girl who posed for the pics. You're in luck! She lives in Colorado! But... she's nilla... and gay. That's okay. Bet it takes less than an hour for my Domliness to "convert" her for life.

Lockit -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 6:54:11 PM)
LOL... I knew I forgot something in Colorado.

DesFIP -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 7:12:26 PM)
A full relationship cannot be maintained on nothing but indulging of sensation play. If that's all that constituted your criteria for a search for a partner, then of course the relationship wouldn't last. But who is responsible for choosing a partner that unwisely? You. Learn to select partners on less shallow criteria, on shared moral values and compatible vanilla activities as well as sex and play and you'll have a better chance at a successful relationship. As there are many of us here who looked for something more than just a liking for spanking, and who have long lasting relationships, obviously a relationship including bdsm can work. You are the only constant in all your relationships, if they all fail then it is your fault.

slavegirljoy -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 8:55:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PolishgirlatKSA BDSM A Reality or a Dream? I do not say that there are no real sadists and masochists, all I am saying they are very few. On Collarme, you meet hundreds of men pretending they are ones, and you could be more than sure that they have not even spanked a girl, while you meet others that think they will find a girl the second day he sends a note to her asking her to meet him[:)]. Others are frustrated becasue they spend hours and hours trying to find someone real. Maria It's too bad that you're having such a hard time finding a "real" sadist because they really do exist. There may be some pretenders on CM, but my Master is a "real" sadist and i met Him on CM. And, if you ever happen to visit North Carolina, He would be more than happy to let you feel just how real His sadism is. He does much more than spank but, when He does spank, He leaves marks. BTW, there are other sites to search for someone into BD/SM, if you're not having any luck on CM. joy Master David's erotic-domestic slave

Lordandmaster -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 9:08:48 PM)
It depends on what you mean by "few." As a percentage of the general population, sure, there are few sadists and masochists. In absolute numbers, there are millions. Maybe the problem is that you have not met enough of them in Riyadh. And Collarme profiles are not a good sample to work with. Yes, there are many "real sadists" on Collarme (the guy with the elephants in his avatar is one of them), but there are many more profiles from fakes, hackers, lonely men at night, and God knows who else. quote: ORIGINAL: PolishgirlatKSA I do not say that there are no real sadists and masochists, all I am saying they are very few. On Collarme, you meet hundreds of men pretending they are ones, and you could be more than sure that they have not even spanked a girl, while you meet others that think they will find a girl the second day he sends a note to her asking her to meet him[:)]. Others are frustrated becasue they spend hours and hours trying to find someone real.

MarcEsadrian -> RE: BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong (12/10/2008 11:57:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PolishgirlatKSA BDSM A Reality or a Dream? Hope I am wrong. It's not without a sense of accompanying irony that while reading this post I recollect mentioning the trend of "sock-puppeting" today in another thread. Edited to add: And what if reality is nothing but a big cosmic wet dream? Then BDSM is really screwed.

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