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belovedfairy -> Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 5:54:10 AM)

I was just wondering...esp if new and have never been owned; but I would also like to hear from those who ARE owned and long in the lifestyle...



Mercnbeth -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 6:12:18 AM)

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Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness?


no.
it would be the same thing as having doubts that this slave's hair is red or that she is 42.[:)]



Aileen1968 -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 6:13:43 AM)

I never have doubts.  I also don't tend to analyze things.  I just accept and enjoy the feelings I get without wondering about the hows and whys.   Submissive type my entire life, actively pursuing for the past three years or so.



Phoenixpower -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 6:17:04 AM)

No [:)] Still some aspects needs maybe more defined...or more explored *lol*...but overall I do know pretty well who I am [:D]



IrishMist -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 6:21:26 AM)

I have never doubted who I am.



daddysprop247 -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 6:22:49 AM)

nope.



agirl -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 6:31:17 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: belovedfairy

I was just wondering...esp if new and have never been owned; but I would also like to hear from those who ARE owned and long in the lifestyle...



No. I already know that I'm not submissive but I chose to be a relationship with a control aspect. You don't have to be innately submissive to be owned but you do have to be able to submit your will where required.

agirl






NuevaVida -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 6:44:47 AM)

Yes.

For about two months (maybe a little less) after my former owner let me go, I did not feel submissive, did not want to feel submissive, and did not want to be submissive.

I am still not as I used to be. Prior to knowing my former owner I was submissive to just about every and any male. Now it would take someone very special for me to submit to. I am seeing someone now and the dynamic is much different than my past experiences. But I do feel my submission with him. It scares me sometimes, since I am still processing the last situation. But there is no more doubt that it (my submission) exists.



OttersSwim -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 6:48:20 AM)

I am still pretty new to all this.  I feel like I have found something that I have always had, but never had a term for, nor a proper outlet.  I questioned it when I finally came to understand what it was...but from the point of understanding and acceptance of that aspect of my person, no I have not.  Not yet at least.  [:)]



leadership527 -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 7:07:48 AM)

*Laughs*  Wow, tough question.  My wife has doubts ALL the time about the word submissive.  I havent' observed any of that to stop her from doing all those things that one normally might call submissive behaviors... obeying me, kneeling, seeking to please me, etc.   In a lot of ways, my wfie reminds thoughts on it all remind me somewhat of agirl's... a very practical and pragmatic viewpoint on it all.

I don't really have doubts about my dominance... but sometimes I do wonder whether being her Master is what I want.



xxblushesxx -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 7:12:39 AM)

Sometimes.
It is difficult (for me) to be in a long term relationship, and to keep that dynamic up at all times. Especially when I want to kill him. (I'm just sayin'...) *g*
But, I do know what I feel and what I am drawn to, as well.



housesub4you -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 8:43:58 AM)

I went through a period where I tried being a something other than a sub and it just did not work out for me.  I'm glad I looked into the other roles and realized where I was happiest.

Now I have no doubts and I think the experience has made me a better sub. 



littleone35 -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 8:50:51 AM)

No i never doubted i am a submissive.  I always have been one.

Matt's littleone



WalterRego -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 9:12:53 AM)

Sometimes I question whether the things I have done or ways I have acted are consistent with being submissive. I know I am happiest in a submissive position, that I like someone else in charge, that I like rules and being held to them. I know that I get  satisfaction pleasing others and am a happier and "better" person in that state. But then I act in ways which make me think my  lack of humility, or sense of self importance and ego are in conflict with those needs. At those times I have doubts about my submissiveness.



Aszhrae -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 9:53:05 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: belovedfairy

I was just wondering...esp if new and have never been owned; but I would also like to hear from those who ARE owned and long in the lifestyle...


No.
Mistress helped girl do a lot of healing over the years. Both mental and spiritual. It's my life to be submissive and to serve.



monywildcat -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 10:05:40 AM)

While I don't doubt who or what I am, there have been moments where I have doubts that I am putting my all into the relationship.  I get a case of "oh crap, I should have done this, this, and that instead of remaining buried in my book" every now and then.  These moments however, have a way of motivating me to improve. 



agirl -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 10:23:24 AM)

A lot of people look for someone to be submissive 'to'...a home of sorts for their submissive feelings.

It doesn't matter in the least whether I 'feel' submissive or not. I live in the type of relationship that demands it regardless of my feelings.

It makes sense to do what M says, that's been proven over many years before he owned me. Now, instead of him suggesting and advising, he can insist and enforce. The result of this is that I get to where I want to be a lot quicker.

agirl









DesFIP -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 11:05:48 AM)

Are there times I don't want to do what he wants? Of course. I'd rather stay on the computer all night instead of going to bed without him. But usually I get over it. If there's a real problem I talk about it with him. He always listens to me, always takes my feelings into consideration, always treats me as a person of value.



parakeet89 -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 12:41:42 PM)

I'm new and have never been owned, and I've never seriously doubted it. I've doubted whether I can engage in a D/s relationship at this time, but I've never sat there and wondered whether this is truly who I am.



VampiresLair -> RE: Do you ever have doubts about your submissiveness? (12/10/2008 12:58:53 PM)

I can't doubt my submissiveness, and any denial of that cold, hard fact would be...well...just a denial.

DV's Fox



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