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ORIGINAL: came4U
Lesbianosis: NOT a medical term. Some might think of it as a delibitating (change delibitating to delabiatating lol) disease that makes some women prone to not want cock or even sexual contact with the male species. Most men are probably allergic to it. Many other 'straight' women are llikely to think it is hereditary if you want to hang out with them. Also known as (latin) Leslabiaosis Intolerant.
I'm going to come in here and perhaps complicate matters somewhat.
One thing which never ceases to surprise me is the fixation in the minds of (mainly) heterosexuals on someone's genitalia. Seriously, this sort of thing fascinates me no end, especially that mental process which makes them unable to deal with another person until they have worked out what genitalia the other person has and their assumptions which come afterwards.
I'm a transgendered female, I identify myself as a lesbian but I am such because I prefer intimacy and relationships with a woman as a whole, i.e. a complete woman, not just for the fact that she's got a pussy between her legs. My preference has got nothing to do with genitalia, but more with emotional signals they give off. Intimacy to me isn't lying naked in bed next to someone, but being able to correctly give out and interpret emotional signals and be completely open and emotionally transparent with each other.
I'm transgendered, not because I'm a male trying to be a female, but because I'm a female born with a penis and primary male physical characteristics and secondary female physical characteristcs but inside me, the mindset, emotions, genes, erogenous zones and increasing the hormones that run through my bloodstream are female.
The only way of knowing previously was gender dysphoria - unhappiness with my gender. This is a mental condition, not an illness which is controlled by hormones, my own mindset, but also by the way other people treat me. This is why I suffer from depression, particularly anxiety based depression. Gender dysphoria is nothing more than an inner conflict - tension, stress, anxiety - which is exacerbated every time I am perceived as male by someone else, wherein I know and see myself as female.
This has got as much to do with other people as it has with me. There is a marked difference, which is reliable in 95% of all cases, over the way people treat me and perceive me in knowing whether I am pre-op or post-op. Most people really do want to know what I have in my underwear, even if there's no possibility of me sleeping with them.
Human nature I guess.
However what very few people even stop to consider or even think about when they discover that I am pre-op and do have a penis is my relationship with that piece of my anatomy. This is where the crux of the matter though really lies. A male is psychologically very attached to their penis, I am not. To me it's not a penis, it's a birth defect, a scar, it's prevented me having children, experiencing even the most basic aspects of womanhood, and denies me physical intimacy with a partner - something which is just as important for them as it would be for me.
It's cost me a lot of misery, emotional pain, heartache, and disappointment. I look forward to the day when I wake up and it isn't there and I'm prepared to go through all the pain and discomfort for that day.
I chose the phrase human nature carefully, because I can reverse the OP and describe perhaps with a little more accuracy that mental condition known as penis fixation which affects quite a number of men and a number of women too. Part of this is the assumption that a woman, irrespective of her preferences and who she is, needs vaginal penetration in order to feel fulfilled simply because she has a vagina.
This is I guess behind what a lot of people think, or assume, in that once I have my SRS gender reassignment surgery I'm going to want to have a relationship with a man because I will have acquired a vagina and I will need a penis inside me to feel fulfilled. First thing is I'm not changing my gender, but merely removing all what prevents me being me and my own gender - female. Secondly this process has got nothing to do with my sexual orientation.
It's important also to remember that I am consensually accepted by lesbians as one of them, and not universally. I meet the criteria but I am not always compatible with another lesbian, for through my own socialization and conditioning I give off both male and female emotional signals. However many lesbians are, at least in a social context, transgender-friendly, but there are some lesbians who aren't at all trans-friendly, just as there are lesbians who aren't really lesbians but having a pussy makes them think they are.
It really is all down to preferences with whom each and every one of us choose to share ourselves and our bedspace with.
To me there's no such thing as lesbianosis, only a fixation with plugs and sockets, or with genitals, which comes from having a mindset fixated on cultural stereotypes based on stereotypical binary gender based role models.
People are people, everyone is an individual, and release from mental enslavement is always so liberating.
Yes, finally.
Thank you so very much stella. 
For me, personally, girl just finds the whole thought of intimacy with a guy revolting  and girl does not trust them at all beyond being social.
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