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SunshineSunny -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 2:51:44 PM)
I Just added that today ...... and the reason i did that is because I am not going to spend ... 100 to 200 dollars to go down there to meet the guy drive 5 hours .. ...... and to top it off I am paying .. my own hotel ... room .. Yes I do expect him to pay for my Transportation.. or he is welcome ... to come over to where i live .. and meet me here .. I have no problems ... So you are telling me that you will pay about .. 500 or more on someone that lives across country ... mmmmm.. no .I would not... and yes I do expect .. him to respect me as he respects me and exchanged kinks and ideas does not give him the right to .. think that I will sleep with him .. we are adults and we are exchanging .. Likes .. i mean other wise how would he know ..So IMagine .. I talk to about .. 5 men so because we get along .. that means I should just let him touch me and use me LOL NO WAY .... Now if he lives about 100 miles away I would pay for my own stuff becuase he is close me and I can come back home .. other then that .. Yes HE has to pay for my transportation .. .. I am not paying to go meet Someone... Maybe you have a good job that pays you over 20 Dollars an hour for you to make that kind of expensese but not Me... Sunny

RedMagic1 -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 2:57:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SunshineSunny Yes HE has to pay .. I am not paying to go meet Someone... Then you will only meet men who have paid to meet you.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 3:01:27 PM)
I just meet people in my area. Thats been my rule.

SingleRarity -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 3:14:08 PM)
When Daddy and I met, I drove two and half hours to meet him. He paid for a meal, and I paid for a meal. When I flew to visit him the second time I bought my own ticket. I was making nowhere near twenty dollars an hour. Please don't put words into my mouth or make generalizations from my posts. I never suggested that you let all men touch you or use you. That's stupid. I simply suggested by seeking out men who are willing to pay your way from the offset, that you're more likely to get skanky sugar Daddy types. If you can't understand that, then you need more help than anyone on the internet can possibly give you. If you meet a man whom you feel strongly about then make a frigging sacrifice. Daddy's Ballerina, e

SunshineSunny -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 3:23:21 PM)
No is no that .. I can dive up to meet someone that is local or no more then 100 on my dime but if a dom is more far away then that .. I need to pay for my own place to stay and I do expect for him to " HElp " me with transportation as I am paying for my own room to stay in .. its just fair .. I Did not mean to put words on your .. mouth ... Sunny

LaTigresse -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 3:28:30 PM)
I have a girl that has been busting her ass at a waitress job, for months, to drive 2000 miles to visit me, with the HOPE that we will get along well enough for her to stay in Iowa. So yeah, your demands seem quite petulant and rediculous to me.

SunshineSunny -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 3:39:47 PM)
well if she has no other responsibility then good for her .. and I am happy for you two but I am not seeking to relocate .. and this only goes for those Doms that wants to meet me and live far from me and they cant come to see me .. ..is just fair for them to help with the transportation i don't see what is wrong with that .. Sunny .

LaTigresse -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 3:45:07 PM)
Okay, so they live too far away for you to pay to travel to them. You cannot relocate, yet you don't want a one night, bit of whoopy. Exactly WHY would you want to do it at all???

camille65 -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 3:50:10 PM)
If you have no plans to relocate then why aren't you seeking local people where spending the night in a hotel isn't an issue? Meet local people at a coffee shop, pay your own way and you're only out a few dollars if you don't like him.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 3:52:04 PM)
Nothing is wrong with expecting help... and nothing is wrong with enjoying it if a man is gentlemanly enough to offer to pay. But the United States is in the worst economic situation since 1933. To say that a man is not really dominant if he can't pay 100% of your travel expenses -- which is what you say in your profile -- tells me that you are living in a fantasy world. A person's sexual orientation is not based on the size of their wallet. Living in the middle of a depression does not make a man a fake dominant.

SunshineSunny -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 3:53:16 PM)
Thank you for your replay I just got mad this morning with an incident i had .. with a So called Dom . Of course I stop talking to him .. .. I did just posted that this morning i was angry .. but it was more for him .. then anything .. I did not do any kind of D/s engagement in our talks but we did exchange some .. likes . the way i posted did look like Petulant and demanding but that is why we have these .. Message boards to ask so we can learn and view other people points of views.. Ty ... Sunny

bamabbwsub -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 4:01:15 PM)
Although I don't think it's a good idea to demand or even expect a man (Dom or otherwise, it doesn't really matter) to pay all of the expenses incurred in visiting, I also don't agree with having one person -- whether male or female, submissive or Dominant -- to pay the entire cost of the visit, especially if they are taking time off work, taking time to drive or fly, etc. For me, I expect pretty much 50/50 for the first meeting; we both put forth some effort and expense, and go from there. I have personally encountered too many men (Doms and otherwise) who take the easiest, most convenient route possible for a meeting, and I put forth all of the time, effort, and expense to meet them. No more. It's 50/50, or it doesn't happen.

parakeet89 -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 4:02:45 PM)
Have you been upfront with these men that you will not have sex on the first meeting? Because if you have been, and they're still willing to meet you + pay for you to visit them, then you probably won't run into these situations. Of course, some of them may try to change your mind once you actually do meet, but there's nothing you can do about it then. You just leave.

SunshineSunny -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 4:03:03 PM)
Thank you all for your replay .. like i mention earlier I had a bad experience with this guy that he said I was his property .. and i was so mad .. I am new to this lifestyle and I really don't know of course I did cut Convo with this guy .. but he was kinda far and expected me to go meet him on my own dime.. It was something I could not do at the time.. I did put this up in here to see and view other people points of view .. and about my English LOL i try my best to express myself it is not my first languge lol .. but you guys have helped me alot in .. how to approch someone .. and I have meet some people on collar me but they are closer to me .and i pay for my own things.. I always have ..and always will .... but if someone that wants to meet me and he is far I really can't make that expense but if he comes to where i am fine .

SunshineSunny -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 4:05:40 PM)
Transportation ... is 50% of the expense .. and i think its fair .. I just can't afford .. to meet Doms out of my area.. but they are welcome to come to me .. but some say they can't cause they work .. I will pay for my own things, my room , my food my things .. but i can't afford everything.. I am thinking now really not to talk to no one any more LOL .... that is not local ... to much Head pain .. Sunny

SunshineSunny -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 4:06:59 PM)
I did not LOL that is why it did not happen hahah I am just asking a question ..... to see other people views and ideas .. Sunny

SunshineSunny -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 4:09:53 PM)
I only speak with people that are .. within my area .. but this Dom was a few miles to far from me .but its over Just asked a question LOL .. that is all .. Thank you all for your replays

LaTigresse -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 4:09:56 PM)
I have an idea. Honestly, it is very similar to my own approach. Be very very honest, from the very first communication. Explain that #1, you cannot relocate and that #2, you don't have the money to travel, then #3, if someone does come to spend time with you, it is on your terms. Then, if they are still interested, explain those terms...aka....no sex. Trust me, if someone likes you enough, they will honour your wishes. I doubt you will have far to look. You are young and pretty. The difference between the approach you were taking, versus what I've given an idea of, is that you are simply explaining your situation, not demanding anything from anyone. It sucks to get pushed around and have unreasonable demands made of you, regardless of which side of the kneel you are on. Just be totally honest about your situation from the beginning and you will have less misunderstanding further along.

SunshineSunny -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 4:12:58 PM)
Yes .. well I do have a language barrier ..lol and my English can kinda suck time .. I am upfront in my things I will not continue to talk to this DOm .. and i am very honest .. I think honesty is very important to get anywhere and he knew it .. but he was just so mean to me .. and he made me feel that i did something wrong .. ... THank you so much for your advise .. :) Sunny

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Meeting a Dom (12/11/2008 4:15:07 PM)
I really dont think shes far fetched. It is not unreasonable for a woman to expect a man to show his ernestness by paying. Whether it be a date or if he cant fly to you and stay in a hotel then to pay for your transportationand lodgings. Its what a gentleman would do. Pay for you and not expect sex in return. But because he places value and sincerity in his interest in a lady. I have found this more than once becuase i dont settle for less.

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