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RainydayNE -> RE: How to cope with being physically uncomfortable (12/16/2008 6:58:02 PM)

like others have said, you dont have to be a masochist to be a sub. you said you thought about pain in an erotic context and you liked the idea, though, so i'd say talk to your Dominant about it, because, since you like the idea of it, you might be able to figure out a way for the two of you to incorporate SOMETHING. alot of people like the idea of taking it FOR their D person rather than just doing it to themselves, so maybe that's why it turned you off when you integrated it into masturbating?
even though i'm a masochist, it still takes me to a different "place" when it's something for him.





sexisubi -> RE: How to cope with being physically uncomfortable (12/16/2008 9:47:11 PM)

hey i hear that i am a wuss!! i hate pain, oooh yes i try and tolerate it but when i am actually getting pain, cane spankings, crops, mega nipple clamps... OUCH!!!

when i did it by myself its nost too bad the nipple clamps that is or when i have clit stimultation during it. anyway off topic back to you sorry!! =)

there are other ways D/s can inflict pain without it being so rawr in your face, i personally love the whole care for thing and that is what my Dom loves, i cook, clean, do laundry, make the bed, sit in uncomfortable positions for long periods of time.

you dont need to be a masocist you can try the pleasing thing see if that works, or start out slow and steady make sure you are nice and ready before you do anything tough and rough... ease the pain you do if it is something that you really want. i personally used to use hair clips on my nipples when i masterbated and i loved this... but everyone is different and you have to find what works for you... also know what what you do alone is not going to always feel the same when a partner or Dom/me is involved.

good luck Lavinia =)




eyesopened -> RE: How to cope with being physically uncomfortable (12/17/2008 2:03:03 AM)

My Master is a sadist.  He gets enjoyment out of seeing my discomfort and pain.  I am not a masochist, I don't enjoy being uncomfortable nor the sensation of pain.  What I do enjoy emmensely is particiapting in His enjoyment.  Don't know if that makes any sense.  During our 'playtime' and during difficult physical senarios my focus shifts...away from me and upon Him.   It is my opinion that when my focus is on myself, what pleases me, what makes me hot, what brings me enjoyment, then I am not being submissive at all.  When I focus on Him, then I can endure anything and the pleasure He experiences becomes my own.  Difficult for me to put into words other than to say, try to shift your focus away from yourself and you may find that coping mechanism you seek.




lavinia -> RE: How to cope with being physically uncomfortable (12/17/2008 7:30:00 AM)

Good question, graceadieu.
I guess there are quite a few words that get to me in some way. But I think it's just as much my sense of dirtiness as that of humiliation. But I don't know the exact relationship between the two.




tia111 -> RE: How to cope with being physically uncomfortable (12/17/2008 8:24:50 AM)

Dirtiness and humiliation are great bed partners. But back to the OP ... if you really want your body to be physically aroused by pain you need to condition it. You could try masturbating as usual and right as you cum have pain administered to you in whatever fashion you choose. I personally am not into most pain but there are a few i have found sexually erotic.
So ya, as you learned, you do not have to be able to enjoy pain to be submissive. The two are just under the same umbrella. Learn, enjoy and experiment.




FaithBlue -> RE: How to cope with being physically uncomfortable (12/20/2008 9:23:31 AM)

The first time my D and I were together, he had to gauge my pain thresholds. Didn't tell me what he was doing, just got me into position and started off by spanking me hard, many times. It shocked me, hurt like hell and I was soon sobbing. I expected a warm-up, easing into the hard stuff, but it didn't happen. It was upsetting because I thought I was a wuss, and couldn't take any more, then he told me what he was doing.
Sometimes I can take a lot of pain, sometimes I can't.




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