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StrangerThan -> RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant (12/14/2008 6:15:32 AM)
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery
i think you misunderstood. i have not said anything to Her personally. Nor would i dare. i have never met his wife and i dont plan to either. i just advised him as a mate to stick in and refuse to leave. i think thats reasonable particularly when he said he would do that anyway. i think its unreasonable to threaten to evict a jobless male or a jobless anyone for that matter even with the carrot of $18,000, the point is he will effectively end up on the streets, if he were to rent he would be paying $350 a week for a flat do the maths and he is left with $1,200 for food, that would run out pretty quick and then what, i think She needs to give him just a little more time. its not as if he is doing nothing, he is doing a course, which shows his determination to get back to work, if he were doing nothing She would have a point but he is doing his best to get back into a position where he can earn money. She needs to also realise that there are no jobs out there now anyway, we are in a recession in ireland and She should recognise that. many people are out of work. many married males are out of work, and married women but not everybody is separating and throwing their partner out over it, its very upsetting for him and i feel for him i really do. And the guy She get s in his place if they do separate, will She treat him the same way, it could be me , it could be anyone, i think the guy is right to take a stand, in some ways Feminism has gone too far, does women's rights extend to making life miserable for men , to threatening's a man's security by putting him out of his own home, it shouldnt but if it does its a sad reflection on how selfish some women have become, i say some most Women are fine and honour their partners wishes as She is done and i hope She continues to do i really do but at the moment its tough for him and so unneccessary, i hope She never falls ill thats all i can say and if She does i hope someone is more charitable to Her than She appears to be to him
kevin
I'm not sure I understand the point of this post other than perhaps to garner sympathy. Here's a bottom line for you. Legally there is no slave and no owner. I can say that because Mistress obviously isn't in jail. Legally, they're married. Take this out of the BDSM context and what you have is a marriage gone bad. It doesn't matter why it went bad, doesn't matter who is at fault or who owes anyone anything in terms of being a decent person. At this point, what matters is that it's over. What your friend needs to do is what Beth said, accept nothing and see a lawyer. I don't know about where you live, but in the states it's pretty damned hard to make anyone leave a residence unless there's extenuating circumstances - like abuse. It's pretty damned hard to divorce anyone who doesn't want to be divorced unless again, there are circumstances that will support a judge saying, ok, get out.
This story has evolved from the beginning. Does she owe him anything? Absolutely, and what she owes him is what the lawyers work out. Can she simply make him leave? I don't know. The evolution of this tale seems to tell me that if I say yes because of this or that, you'll give me some reason that won't work, and if I say no because of this or that, I'll get a reason on the other end.
What people are telling you is something that your friend needs to come to terms with himself. This marriage, forget the Mistress/slave/adoration thing, is over. She's had it, done, trying to have him evicted from his own home. I don't know how things work where you are, but in most cases in the US where people are splitting without those extenuating circumstances, no one is going to evict anyone. No one is going to choose what the other gets. If your friend hasn't worked in 18 years, there's a decent chance he's eligible for alimony.
In other words, quit whining. Do what needs to be done and at this point, it's to protect himself legally.
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