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RE: should a slave have a say? - 12/15/2008 6:34:47 AM

chamberqueen

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My Master asked me for a list of fantasies and favorite things early on. After a session I always email him about the things that I enjoyed the most. I do not ask for these things; he has total discretion whether to do them again. However, he has made it clear to me that he wants me to come up with ideas for exciting things for us to do. I enjoy being allowed the input even it the things might never happen.

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RE: should a slave have a say? - 12/15/2008 6:48:14 AM

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I just discuss the hard limits (landmines are included in them) and my medical. I like for them to try all the other things because I sure didn't like the paddle the first time... but love it now. I think that telling the Dom what you like and don't like is kinda taking the fun out of the exploration phase of the relationship. You are suppose to endure things you don't like for HER pleasure.

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RE: should a slave have a say? - 12/15/2008 7:18:27 AM

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I think that your preferences and expectations should be fully discussed BEFORE anything happens. That means letting them know things you love, things you hate, and things that will make you turn around and run. I don't expect to get everything that I like, and I don't expect not to be asked to do something that I don't particularly like. But I do expect the person I'm playing with to respect my hard limits and my health, and not try to force me into something that I have stated I will not ever do.

That should all be discussed before playing, though, not during. If you wait until the scene to say, "Oh wait, I don't do that!" then you're probably going to piss off your partner, and that will likely be the last time you two play together.

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RE: should a slave have a say? - 12/15/2008 7:24:36 AM

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once the rules of the house have been established and then the scene rules have been consented to,i would love to know that Mistress will lead me wherever she wishes to take me and that there is the utmost in trust that she will guide me through it will a firm but understanding and still somewhat gentle hand.

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RE: should a slave have a say? - 12/23/2008 5:11:46 PM

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I have no desire to let the person I'm with know what I want out of a particular scene ahead of time unles ecplicitly asked. I'd rather have her do whatever she'd like and know she truly enjoyed and wanted to do it rather than feel that she was doing something solely for my benefit. Obviously over the course of the relationship, things will be discussed, likes and dislikes will come up and all that, but I'm just not the type of guy who turns this into an agenda driven thing for me.

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RE: should a slave have a say? - 12/23/2008 5:15:20 PM

yourMissTress

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ORIGINAL: irishdan

Should a slave have a say in how a Scene transpires? I mean the true meaning of control would suggest that the domme would be in TOTAL control. so should a slave provide a domme with a list of likes and dislikes?

If the Mistress wants to know, then absolutely, the slave should give her that information.

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RE: should a slave have a say? - 12/23/2008 5:15:48 PM

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Should a slave have a say in how a Scene transpires?

Of course not. The only time a slave should have a say is if the mistress gives him the permission to have a say. Hence, SLAVERY.

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RE: should a slave have a say? - 12/25/2008 7:00:14 PM

TexasMaam

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Old School:
Slave would never have a say.
Submissive would have a say and their input considered but not necessarily followed up on....

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RE: should a slave have a say? - 12/26/2008 4:52:05 AM

malloves69

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i think a slave /sub should have a say ecspecially if he is paying a pro dom

after all its his time to enjoy his kink whatever that may be

just my opinion of course ..mal

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RE: should a slave have a say? - 12/26/2008 4:20:40 PM

sm2dw

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In my humble opinion a slave no. A slave just obeys and follows Mistress's orders, desires and whims...
A sub would have but it depends of his Owner's mood.

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