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I need your help my sisters and brothers - 12/13/2008 7:04:59 PM   
michelle1227


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Status: offline 		I am a sub and I've had two masters. .

One found fulfilment in pain. I tried to please him but I could not handle his ..... methods.

My next master was in to mental control. He could get me to do things that I never thought myself strong enough to do.

However neither of these relationships lasted. I married a man that is not in the "lifestyle" because I  thought I could leave this behind

Now, I miss the freedom of being a sub. I miss the combination of pleasure and pain. My husban could never be a master, in fact, I think he would be a wonderful slave.

Is it possible to arrange sessions with a master to keep it a certain level as not to interfere with my current life? Has anyone tried that, do you think it would work?

M
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RE: I need your help my sisters and brothers - 12/13/2008 7:08:04 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		No one here can tell you the answer to that.  Are you talking about cheating or are you talking about an open marriage?

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RE: I need your help my sisters and brothers - 12/13/2008 7:14:41 PM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		Yes it is very possible to be married to one who is not your Dominant .Yet trust and communications must be priority .I would also say you need to find your match in who your seeking as a Top .Know who you are and what your needs are  before getting involved  to deeply with another  Top that does not quite fit either your needs or his .Like your not into blood play and needles  but your master is and  neither are meshing .You both maybe great people but not a good  match .Now that you have a husband have you spoke to him  about this ? does he know of your  needs in bdsm ? will he be ok having another  involved ?I would not suggest you sneak and do it behind his back .  

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RE: I need your help my sisters and brothers - 12/13/2008 10:06:56 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		Michelle,

Do you love your husband? If so, be so careful if you are going to bring this subject up. For a man to be in what he thinks is a monogomous, vanilla type relationship and then you hit him with "you dont fulfill all my needs..mind if i (insert what it is you want here)" Its really gonna turn his world upside down and probably effect the relatonship itself.



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RE: I need your help my sisters and brothers - 12/13/2008 11:11:06 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: michelle1227

Is it possible to arrange sessions with a master to keep it a certain level as not to interfere with my current life? Has anyone tried that, do you think it would work?



Is it possible? Yes.

However, as LA brought up, are you talking cheating or is this something that your husband will be aware of? Have you talked to your husband about this, I don't mean hinting, I mean stating outright that you need this? If I were in your shoes, I'd probably try to get him to start coming to munches and play parties with me. Not play at first but just let him get a feel for things before you start playing.

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RE: I need your help my sisters and brothers - 12/14/2008 8:01:43 AM   
sub4hire


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ORIGINAL: michelle1227
Is it possible to arrange sessions with a master to keep it a certain level as not to interfere with my current life? Has anyone tried that, do you think it would work?
M


I've know a few who were open with their spouses and made things work.  Even inviting their spouses to supervise the sessions.  Inviting the spouses to parties, etc.
You need to communicate.  Otherwise your relationship is going to die.  I've never quite understood those people who are into the scene would marry people who aren't.  It isn't like they "found" the lifestyle after the fact.
Anyway it is a decision you made.  You're going to have to deal with it.  At least give your husband a chance to choose.


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RE: I need your help my sisters and brothers - 12/22/2008 10:37:58 AM   
jen182


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Status: offline 		it is posible yes, you could do it secretivly (not suggested) but i think you should talk to your husband, and explain it to him he might be cool with it you never know

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RE: I need your help my sisters and brothers - 12/22/2008 11:39:23 AM   
SimplyIsaac


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quote:

ORIGINAL: michelle1227

I am a sub and I've had two masters. .

One found fulfilment in pain. I tried to please him but I could not handle his ..... methods.

My next master was in to mental control. He could get me to do things that I never thought myself strong enough to do.

However neither of these relationships lasted. I married a man that is not in the "lifestyle" because I  thought I could leave this behind

Now, I miss the freedom of being a sub. I miss the combination of pleasure and pain. My husban could never be a master, in fact, I think he would be a wonderful slave.

Is it possible to arrange sessions with a master to keep it a certain level as not to interfere with my current life? Has anyone tried that, do you think it would work?

M


I don't see why not, but that's really only an answer you're qualified to give I think.

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