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SweetEscravo -> Something I've never understood (12/28/2005 11:19:25 PM)
Is there anyone out there who can explain the "Daddy" expression to me? I've never really understood it's use, and I'm wondering if there is anyone who does/uses it. I never thought it would be something I could say with a straight face, but I dreamt about it last night, and now I'm just curious. Anyone who knows anything about it, let me know

newflowers -> RE: Something I've never understood (12/28/2005 11:47:33 PM)
If you do a search, you're sure to find several threads about daddies. For me, Daddy is the authority, his is the greater power and the greater strength, the absolute control - much like one would consider a dominant partner called by most other names. i am his submissive and i take great pride and pleasure in serving him in myriad ways, those domestic and sexual. i obey him and when obeying is difficult, i strive to do so anyway both because obedience is what he wants and because giving to him that which is wants is what i want as well. i could go on here, but i think you get the general idea. In addition to the dominant/submissive dynamic, within me there is a little girl who needs nuturing and safety and protection in a different way than the submissive woman of me. Daddy gives that to me - it is what daddies do - or at least what my daddy does. It is trust and submission on a different level - it is the softest part of me that i entrust to him. As a submissive woman, i am competent and efficient in fulfilling his needs; as a girl, it is authority, power, control, and safety, and the need for his approval in a different manner; he nurtures the most fragile part of me. And so daddy he is. The daddy/little girl dynamic is not about pedophilia and it's not about any lack that results from my - or his - childhood. There are some littles who have particular ages - that is not me and so maybe someone else will write about that. There are some to whom daddy/little girl is about roleplay - that is not me either, but i'm certain someone else may adress that aspect for you. Daddy is the safe haven of my dominant partner. -a-

EMD -> RE: Something I've never understood (12/29/2005 1:42:09 AM)
Bravo, new....there is great knowledge in your words quote: ORIGINAL: newflowers If you do a search, you're sure to find several threads about daddies. For me, Daddy is the authority, his is the greater power and the greater strength, the absolute control - much like one would consider a dominant partner called by most other names. i am his submissive and i take great pride and pleasure in serving him in myriad ways, those domestic and sexual. i obey him and when obeying is difficult, i strive to do so anyway both because obedience is what he wants and because giving to him that which is wants is what i want as well. i could go on here, but i think you get the general idea. In addition to the dominant/submissive dynamic, within me there is a little girl who needs nuturing and safety and protection in a different way than the submissive woman of me. Daddy gives that to me - it is what daddies do - or at least what my daddy does. It is trust and submission on a different level - it is the softest part of me that i entrust to him. As a submissive woman, i am competent and efficient in fulfilling his needs; as a girl, it is authority, power, control, and safety, and the need for his approval in a different manner; he nurtures the most fragile part of me. And so daddy he is. The daddy/little girl dynamic is not about pedophilia and it's not about any lack that results from my - or his - childhood. There are some littles who have particular ages - that is not me and so maybe someone else will write about that. There are some to whom daddy/little girl is about roleplay - that is not me either, but i'm certain someone else may adress that aspect for you. Daddy is the safe haven of my dominant partner. -a-

sweetpettjenny -> RE: Something I've never understood (12/29/2005 2:46:29 AM)
Daddy is simply a title used for a nuturing type od Dominant , called a DaddyDom. New worded it soo well we will keep it at that.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Something I've never understood (12/29/2005 6:19:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SweetEscravo Is there anyone out there who can explain the "Daddy" expression to me? I've never really understood it's use, and I'm wondering if there is anyone who does/uses it. I never thought it would be something I could say with a straight face, but I dreamt about it last night, and now I'm just curious. Anyone who knows anything about it, let me know I'll just add that the "daddy" aspect is usually someone in a dominant position who takes a more nurturing/guiding perspective than simply being dominant and in charge. There's usually a lot more emotions attached to it and a sense of family. There are many people who have "daddies" but aren't necessarily their own dominants. Same goes for mommies.

thetammyjo -> RE: Something I've never understood (12/29/2005 6:28:00 AM)
You can even have a "daddy" or "mommy" who is actually the submissive and caters to the desires of their "little boy/girl" who is the dominant -- think spoiled child model. A very very rare type of relationship but it does exist.

truesub4u -> RE: Something I've never understood (12/29/2005 11:07:02 AM)
I slipped one time and refered to a Dom as daddy during a scene. And lord have mercy, I brought out the pervert in him. Next thing I know, he started telling me about how I wanted my real daddy and all. And got really weird on me. I have NEVER had any sexual thoughts of my father. And to have someone try to put that idea in my head made me sick. Now I'm not knocking anyone elses thoughts or plays on this. To each their own. I use to love to refer to the "DaddyDom" but no more. I learned real fast on that one.

MrBiguun51 -> RE: Something I've never understood (12/29/2005 11:38:42 AM)
several years ago i was dating a girl in her 20s I was in my 40s at the time so I was definitely old enough to be her Daddy we had played together and I had spanked her and tied her up a few times she told me 1 night how her her own daddy used to spank her when she was younger and how wet she always got we would play the Daddy/daughter scene quite a few times after that

FangsNfeet -> RE: Something I've never understood (12/29/2005 11:52:13 AM)
quote: Is there anyone out there who can explain the "Daddy" expression to me? It's an expressive nick name just like any other. Yes "Sir" Yes "Master" Yes "Daddy" Oh "Baby" Hi "Honey" "Uncle" "Uncle" "UNCLE!" Hello "pet" "I'll be your daddy, I'll be your baby, I'll be your buddy, I'll be your friend" TK One day someone will approach or message you "I may not be your father, but I can be your Daddy" When you listen to some old fashioned or elderly couples, you''ll hear both call each other Daddy and Mama. So the term "Daddy" mean different things for different people. There's no specific definition for it. But for most, it's a nick name that means something to them for the one they are with.

LadiesBladewing -> RE: Something I've never understood (12/29/2005 11:58:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross I'll just add that the "daddy" aspect is usually someone in a dominant position who takes a more nurturing/guiding perspective than simply being dominant and in charge. There's usually a lot more emotions attached to it and a sense of family. There are many people who have "daddies" but aren't necessarily their own dominants. Same goes for mommies. Great addition, LA.. and if you don't mind, I'll add something as well. "Daddies" aren't necessarily men, and "Mommies" aren't necessarily women... I've had the good fortune and pleasant experience to meet a few wonderful male "mommies" and several wonderful female "daddies" over the years -- some of them with their bois and grrls who were "gender flexible" as well. Lady Zephyr

angelburke -> RE: Something I've never understood (12/29/2005 3:09:09 PM)
If you watch old Marilyn Monroe movies, she calls her boyfriends "Daddy"...lol, it seems sorty kinky/creepy (depending on your spin) nowadays...but picture the scene.... Her slightly older patron gifts her with a beautiful diamond bracelet and surprises her with with a trip to Europe...and she says (in her little girl breathy voice) "ooooh, Daddy! you shouldn't have! Europe! we are going to have soooo much fun!!!" and throws herself into his arms...giving him a sweet (almost chaste) kiss... They thought that was sorta normal not so long ago...

fldrkhorse -> RE: Something I've never understood (12/30/2005 5:35:55 AM)
Although for me I've always associated it with either a chronological or psychological age difference. That would seem the way a parent/child relationship would be able to flourish.

MHOO314 -> RE: Something I've never understood (12/30/2005 5:50:49 AM)
The " Daddy" concept is pretty common and open, what you don't see because it is still very hidden is the "Mommy" complex---men are still not comfortable with admitting they need that level of comfort and nurture a "Mom" can provide.

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