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AAkasha -> RE: Dommes how important are looks to you? (12/30/2005 5:30:20 PM)
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ORIGINAL: talmar
Dommes how important ar a subs looks to you? Subs how important are a Dommes looks to you?
Self confidence and self esteem are important to me, and that often goes hand-in-hand with "good looks" -- but that's all subjective anyway. The entire package has to be appealing, and personality can contribute a lot where traditional good looks may fall short.
What is important is charisma. I've never been attracted to submissives who postured themselves as weak, afraid, meager, or useless. I don't like slumped shoulders, sloppy appearance, mumbled sentences, lack of eye contact.
I also desire a man that takes care of himself -- good hygeine, good health and active lifestyle.
I found that many submissives who thought of themselves as "unattractive" somehow lumped that/merged that into their "submissive idenitity." It all meshed together into a persona of shyness, insecurity, uncertainty, need for direction, desire for a woman to take care of them/pursue them/command them. A lot of them weren't unattractive at all; however, their personality/self esteem led them to not want to make any effort to improve anything about their appearance. It's as if they preferred to stay in their "ugly" (their word, not mine) packaging because to walk with head held high would carry a price tag of accountability, self confidence, and a sense of command -- qualities that did not jive with their submissiveness (in their opinion).
With a simple "submissive makeover" (some new clothes, a hair cut, a shave, a smile) so many sub men I saw transformed into extremely hot properties. I had a fetish for taking young, insecure, overly shy guys and making them over and showing them that being submissive didn't mean they had to be a shy, boring wallflower too timid to approach a pretty woman.
Akasha
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