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stella41b -> RE: How Long did it take ? (12/17/2008 10:44:29 PM)
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Personally the only person I feel who should be looking for 'the one' is a detective working to solve a crime.
Realistically you're not just looking for someone who will accept you, understand you, want o be with you and love you, but also want to stay with you for the rest of your life and share that life with you.
''Eleanor Rigby
Died in the church and was buried along with her name
Nobody came
Father MacKenzie
Wiping the dirt from his hands as he walked from the grave
No one was saved
All the lonely people, where do they all come from?
All the lonely people, where do they all belong?'
The Beatles
There's an awful lot of people out there who are lonely and unhappy because they are convinced they haven't met that one person who is going to stay with them for the rest of their lives. Each and every new friendship and relationship appears to bring someone who doesn't meet their criteria, and so they end up disappointed. There's a lot of lonely people out there who realize too late perhaps that this wasn't the way it was meant to be, and they realize this usually once they learn that all the opportunities they passed up on way back just aren't happening any more. There's an awful lot of lonely, unhappy people out there who are so simply because they are convinced they haven't met their match, and for no other reason. They have built themselves an invisible prison, and appear to have sentenced themselves to life.
There are others also who didn't listen to that inner voice in their soul, who didn't hold out for who they really wanted and needed, who lived their lives for other people, compromsied their dreams and desires and they live, desperately lonely but with someone, trapped in their own emotional prisons. Their happiness is also relative.
'Nothing you can make that can't be made
No one you can save that can't be saved
Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you in time
It's easy
All you need is love, all you need is love
All you need is love, love is all you need...'
The Beatles
Then there are those who pay no attention to either clock or calendar. They know that they are losing contestants in this race we call life against time and age and the race has no predetermined length. Death comes without warning, making life too short, and nothing more thasn an opportunity to live.
They make friends, and some of these friends love them and form relationships with them, and they learn about themselves and about other people, about feelings, emotions, desires, and about love. They're too wrapped up in the present to ever really take too much stock of the future, they match their need and desire to be with someone by action, and spend their time with those who are close to them and who care about them and they do nothing more than reciprocate those feelings. They may not always be with someone, they may not always be loved, but usually they are happy, if only for some small reason which would appear trivial to most people. Each to their own, and all that.
The choice is always there for you to make.
Be well.
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