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RE: ppunishment - 12/19/2008 12:27:57 PM

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personally, i can't believe you got away with mentioning beastiality in a post.

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RE: ppunishment - 12/19/2008 12:55:44 PM

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Me personally, my punishment would be to not take you back. Then again, I am not a Master...lol

Thats exactly what i would do too.... how will he be able to trust you?

And why isnt he setting his own punishment?

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RE: ppunishment - 12/21/2008 7:25:18 AM

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I think it is a matter of whether your Master was deceived or not. It sounds to me like you feel you were a bit deceptive in your brief relationship. Clearly, Master M thinks the same thing. That being said, if it were me, I would put you through a long series of punishment spankings to drive the point home, coupled with some corner time. All followed with some intimate holding an cuddling to indicate that your behavior will be forgiven.

BTW... I agree with you on the beastiality issue

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RE: ppunishment - 12/22/2008 9:24:48 AM

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And if things were so wonderful, why would you be searching for "Dominant Men" as your profile indicates? In answer to this question, I am letting you know that I have changed my profile to look for FRIENDS ONLY....and I also say in the essay portion of it that that's what I am looking for.

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RE: ppunishment - 12/22/2008 11:05:19 AM

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Yeah... i'm just gonna throw my agreement on the pile.
If the two of you hadn't agreed on monogamy, then you had no reasonable expectation to believe that he'd be pissed if he found out you were talking to another. Another point of contention... why are you coming up with your own punishment (which you don't deserve to start with)? And, why in the hell do you want to be with someone who'd drop you like a bad habit just cuz you did something that torqued him off? i'm guessing you're not gonna get the whole "sub" thing right right off the bat... is he going to dump you everytime you do something he sees as fucking up?

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RE: ppunishment - 12/22/2008 12:34:54 PM

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why are you coming up with your own punishment?
i am coming up w/ my own punishment because He told me to, probably thinking i would be harder on myself than He would be. i will certainly not talk to two Doms @ the same time again. That is for sure! As long as i don't "Master-shop" as He put it, i will be fine...as He said "You are MINE and mine ALONE" when He took me back. Although i still don't understand what was so wrong about what i originally did, seeings how this IS a site where one goes hoping to meet the "right one," so she may need to meet many before making that decision.

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RE: ppunishment - 12/22/2008 12:43:10 PM

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I think I can almost see why you are being punished if you come back. It is not that you cheaed, but that you did not inform him that you were seeing someone else. You let him believe he was the only one you had, without actually lying to him. A lie of omission is just as bad as an outright lie, and that is what he is trying to prove to you.

I dont think he is going about it correctly, but thats just me. I wouldnt be so fast to take you back, regardless of why or how it was that I was lied to. Mainly because I dont know that I could trust you not to leave something like that out again. I would say a very good talk about what is and isnt acceptable information to be shared is in order. Things he needs to know from you and things you are permitte to keep to yourself. I dont see where a punishment is going to correct things, but setting strict ground rules will.

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RE: ppunishment - 12/22/2008 1:30:58 PM

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So, you're going to commit to this one guy? Already? i guess i just go about things differently. i have to know someone for a length of time before i can drop everything else. (Of course, my track record isn't stellar but that's beside the point)
i understand some people get that "click" right off the bat, but i'm not one to drop all cards on the off-chance that will happen. Are you not going to talk to more than one guy at a time because THIS guy says it's the way it should be? Or is that how you want it? Just some food for thought as you are new. Is that how you'd go about dating vanilla? Just because you decide you want to explore a different side of yourself doesn't mean you start obeying someone just cuz he says you should.

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RE: ppunishment - 12/22/2008 8:55:10 PM

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Are you not going to talk to more than one guy at a time because THIS guy says it's the way it should be? Or is that how you want it? To answer this statement, that's what got me into trouble in the first place.....I was talking to more than one Dom at the same time. I talked to & went out with a lot of them actually between this and the "Alt" dating site....it just so happened I was only going out w/ two altogether by the time I got into trouble w/ Master M. I know most Doms want to start controlling from the beginning, but until They are MY Dom for sure, Y have no business controlling ME. I am new, but I do know that much.

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RE: ppunishment - 12/23/2008 6:47:35 AM

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So this guys your Dom FOR SURE? You know him well enough to let him call all the shots?

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RE: ppunishment - 12/23/2008 7:06:02 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TEMPERANCE

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ORIGINAL: KyttynTheMynx

Me personally, my punishment would be to not take you back. Then again, I am not a Master...lol

Thats exactly what i would do too.... how will he be able to trust you?

And why isnt he setting his own punishment?

My thoughts exactly. Tell the guy that you posted here, and my suggestion was that you be made to eat a chocolate bar as punishment. If he doesn't like that, he can quit being lazy and figure out his own freaking punishment.

Bluntly, it sounds like you're in full sub frenzy mode and connecting to any and all men who give themselves the title of Master. Try connecting with your local groups and see who's got a good reputation locally.

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RE: punishment - 12/23/2008 7:25:51 AM

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Okay. I am a sub new to D/s two months ago, & I would like to ask the Masters a question. This is the situation......when I first came onto this site, like with any other dating site, I was seeing more than one Person. Master M (that I was very taken with) got pissed & dropped me when He found out. So I was left w/ the Master D, who I was also very taken with. Then Master D said He was going to have me f*ck His DOG and I bolted away from Him as fast as possible, as we had already discussed my Hard Limits & the fact that I would NEVER do bestiality & He had agreed to that. Then I crawled and pleaded, begged and cried, back to Master M, BEGGING Him to take me back & He did after two days of my squirming and stressing over it (which I deserved and more). Then Master M asked me what I thought my punishment should be. So I am asking You all, what would You do to punish a sub that did what I did? Please, I want to know.

I'm waiting for Master M to reveal he has a pet donkey.

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RE: punishment - 12/23/2008 10:47:20 AM

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hahaha. so I deserved that!

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