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Aszhrae -> Musings..... (12/18/2008 5:34:18 PM)

Now girl has thought about this since other sub/slaves have often posted about how being with their dominants they are able to achieve subspace, a certain mindset. What this thread is asking is how your dominant has touched you in other ways.
Inspirations, ideology, spirituality, or how they have since added color to your lives.
Posts are welcome to give metaphysical perspectives, increased awareness and various other means that have enriched your life as a sub/slave.
Dominants are also welcome to also post how having a sub/slave enriched or made your dominance so much more than simply dom/me and sub/slave.



sobayblackmaster -> RE: Musings..... (12/18/2008 6:24:07 PM)

I just sent this to a friend. Funny you bringing up the topic of how we can touch each other beyond the physical. I can only speak from the ideal as I've not yet consciously experienced that state:

"lastly, I'll tell you something about me that's raw. I just want to feel. that's why I'm on CM, I want to get to that feeling place-mostly physical, but with a spiritual (raw-his bare psyche to her bare psyche) compliment."



chamberqueen -> RE: Musings..... (12/18/2008 6:59:09 PM)

A benefit that I never expected from my relationship was the emotional healing of some very old wounds.  I have found that I can put a level of trust in him that I have never come close to with anyone before in my life.  If I have an emergency I can call him; if I need to share an old secret to cleanse myself of it I can count on him.  When we first met I thought I would be basically a session sub but soon found that I wanted him to be the center of my life.  I have never felt so well balanced or nurtured.  I would never have guessed at what the relationship has turned into and it is a journey that just keeps getting better and better.  It is so much more than just doing as he says and affects virtually every moment of my day.  



Aszhrae -> RE: Musings..... (12/18/2008 7:00:20 PM)

That is what girl is asking.
So much emphasis is placed upon the physical and the psyche. No one ever asks about the spirit, the inspiration that burns within and causes the very essence of being to blaze like a bonfire.
From this feeling you must take the initiative, although it might result in punishment, it has to be done. Soft eyes gaze upwards and inwards.There within the gaze is met a single spark. That tiny light when it is known that the center of being has been found. The dominant has become like heaven and the sub finds themselves satisfied as being the ground. Without the heaven above that feels inadequate, but thankfully that is not happening.
Reading this would perhaps understand what girl is inquiring about.
Understood that some sub/slaves may not want to, and it is also understandable that some dominants might say it is none of anyone's business. That is of course your choice.

Another example of musings or inspiration:
My first mistress taught me how to speak gaelic. Mistress touched me so that girl was kiss by the muse and was inspired to write. Interestingly enough everything that girl did write for her mistress was written in gaelic. At last count, over the period of the last 3 years of being with Mistress, the count was over two hundred poems, songs and ballads, with various letters of love and adoration. Since girl is pagan, even created a few bonding rites in gaelic. When we parted and she took her collar, all that was written for her was given to her. All girl has is the memories as fresh in my mind as if it were yesterday.

Given these examples, how has the muse touched you, how has your relationship inspired you to become more than you ever thought possible.
Do you find that you are a better painter? Better writer? See the world being more colorful, the colors crisp instead of dull?



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Musings..... (12/18/2008 7:32:50 PM)

My experience is the opposite, especially here.  People talk and ask about the spirit and inspiration all the time.



whis31 -> RE: Musings..... (12/18/2008 7:38:01 PM)

with my Master i have found someone i can lean on no matter what! he listens to me rant even when my own family won't because he understands that to come up with a solution i just need to rant were my family hears me once then gives me advice the it's over and some time it just doesn't work. with Master i have someone who cares about me in an emontial sense and physical one too. i took a very nasty fall earlier tonight on some ice and Master was very worried about me! it happened and mom and dad's place my dad just looked at me and asked if i could get up!



slavejali -> RE: Musings..... (12/18/2008 9:00:40 PM)

Master grounds me....this is a very good thing [:D]

Was interesting a month or so ago we rented out a beach house to visit with my kids for a weekend. During the evening bbq one of my sons looks at me earnestly and says " im really happy (insertmastersnamehere) came into your life, he has brought a lot of balance into it.."

I think one of the gifts he has bought me is I think ive slowed down now enough so that I can smell the roses. He has given me an appreciation of  "the little things".



sobayblackmaster -> RE: Musings..... (12/18/2008 9:37:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Aszhrae

Given these examples, how has the muse touched you, how has your relationship inspired you to become more than you ever thought possible.
Do you find that you are a better painter? Better writer? See the world being more colorful, the colors crisp instead of dull?



truthfully my first sub gave me the gift of a curio cabinet, to display some of my artwork and to inspire me. not long after I began taking a ceramics class (the thing I studied in college) at night and on the weekend. I guess that's what you mean. she even wrote of desiring to be my muse.



Aszhrae -> RE: Musings..... (12/18/2008 11:54:48 PM)

Yes sobay', something that was given to you inspired you to pursue another medium of self-expression.

To the others as well that have posted, it really is nice to see how something more came about from your relationship than only the physical.



scarlethiney -> RE: Musings..... (12/19/2008 2:32:13 AM)

Aszhrae for me my relationship with my Master opened in me a depth of feeling that transcended everything else I had ever experienced sexually, emotionally and physically.

I think the word connection is so incomplete. I have felt myself bloom so exquisitely in awareness that anything before this time pales in comparison.

scarlet



RCdc -> RE: Musings..... (12/19/2008 6:01:42 AM)

My musing is that is isn't confined to Ds.  It's not just how D types or S types enhance lives, it's to do with partners and partnerships.  Ones partner can provide inspirations, etc whatever the orientation.   The question is a bit of a mysnomer really because everyone touches people in ways different from anyone else.
 
the.dark.



susie -> RE: Musings..... (12/19/2008 6:47:06 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

My musing is that is isn't confined to Ds.  It's not just how D types or S types enhance lives, it's to do with partners and partnerships.  Ones partner can provide inspirations, etc whatever the orientation.   The question is a bit of a mysnomer really because everyone touches people in ways different from anyone else.
 
the.dark.

 
I agree it is not confined to Ds. I have a Master but it is the relationship between us that is the most important thing. If we were to be "vanilla" overnight the relationship would still be there and would be as good as it is now. People are the important things not the orientation.



Aszhrae -> RE: Musings..... (12/19/2008 1:18:31 PM)

Yes, touched in so many ways beyond the physical and the mind. Increased awareness, inspired creativity. Dominaant becomes the muse for the sub/slave, the sub/slave becomes the muse for the dominant.
Inspiration comes in many forms and those that have answered have shared how being within a D/s as given them so much more than just physical gratification or expansion of their psyche.
They have become inspired deeply, which is what girl has asked and has shared of my own experiences.
How has the muses touched you?
How have they inspired you to become a whole lot more than what you once were before entering your D/s relationship?
The point of this thread as girl has stated is not about the physical and the mental, its about the spirit, its about deeper meaning.
Becoming greater than you once were in being with someone that is your dominant that has awakened something within the sub/slave to a greater degree.
Reader of this gets the idea. At least a little insight into possibilities if they are new to the lifestyle.




SubSwitchControl -> RE: Musings..... (12/19/2008 1:20:14 PM)

hello



Aszhrae -> RE: Musings..... (12/19/2008 1:28:30 PM)

Girl is asking others how to they have become inspired.
Girl referred to a master or mistress or dom or domme, with the generalization of the dominant in a relationship with a sub/slave.
Beautiful things occur as a result of such relationships between dominants and their sub/slaves. Pointing out fault with semantics only has the potential of souring a thread that could result in terminating the thread.
The point of the thread is to inquire as to the beautiful things, musings, inspiration that has resulted in the relationship between the dominant and their master or slave.


Must girl explain (with textbook precision) or defend (with external references) for every thread?



oceanwynds -> RE: Musings..... (12/19/2008 1:41:39 PM)

Sir and i are each other muses.  He has taught me to ride the wind again. He says that he is appreciative that i was able to open him again to the world of magick.

Aszhrae most of my life has been in the areas of the metaphysics, and paganism. Sir has helped me to see life in the practical, and not be obsessed with the other planes. He is taming, but not getting rid of the winds that are part of me.This has been his biggest gift to me.

oceanwynds



susie -> RE: Musings..... (12/19/2008 1:49:39 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aszhrae

Girl is asking others how to they have become inspired.
Girl referred to a master or mistress or dom or domme, with the generalization of the dominant in a relationship with a sub/slave.
Beautiful things occur as a result of such relationships between dominants and their sub/slaves. Pointing out fault with semantics only has the potential of souring a thread that could result in terminating the thread.
The point of the thread is to inquire as to the beautiful things, musings, inspiration that has resulted in the relationship between the dominant and their master or slave.


Must girl explain (with textbook precision) or defend (with external references) for every thread?


And I was pointing out that beautiful things occur in ALL relationships and it has nothing to do with being dominant or submissive. I am stating my point of view just as I am entitled to do on an open thread. If you do not like people commenting on your threads don't post any.



RCdc -> RE: Musings..... (12/19/2008 2:00:22 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aszhrae
The point of this thread as girl has stated is not about the physical and the mental, its about the spirit, its about deeper meaning.
Becoming greater than you once were in being with someone that is your dominant that has awakened something within the sub/slave to a greater degree.
Reader of this gets the idea. At least a little insight into possibilities if they are new to the lifestyle.


I totally get that it isn't just about the physical and that you are focusing on the mental and spiitual association, but again I reply, that BDSM and Ds are not the issue, the person you are with is and that the orientation does not matter.  Now for some people, they can only let go in a BDSM environment, which is all cool for them, but that is there own mental blockage outside of BDSM and Ds relationships.
 
BDSM and Ds relationships are not more spiritual or special than non BDSM and Ds relationships.  It is merely a tool or an orientation of release.  I am stating this so that the 'reader' - particularly new people - don't get sucked into the myth that a BDSM relationship is something groovier and can give them something they can't get from a relationship that isn't BDSM or Ds.  And I am posting this so that people don;t get sucked into the perception that a dominant or s-type can make them more spiritual or a better person.  The only person who can improve yourself is yourself.
 
You can gain just as much spiritual fulfilment from any partner that you have a rocking connection with and that doesn't have to be a dominant or s-type.  It might be a switch, a masochist, a fetishist or the man who does your accounts - if you have a connection and you learn how to communicate.
 
the.dark.



Aszhrae -> RE: Musings..... (12/19/2008 2:03:11 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: oceanwynds

Sir and i are each other muses.  He has taught me to ride the wind again. He says that he is appreciative that i was able to open him again to the world of magick.

Aszhrae most of my life has been in the areas of the metaphysics, and paganism. Sir has helped me to see life in the practical, and not be obsessed with the other planes. He is taming, but not getting rid of the winds that are part of me.This has been his biggest gift to me.

oceanwynds


That's beautiful that your Sir was able to do that for you.[:)] Do you share the wind with your Sir?



MRandme -> RE: Musings..... (12/19/2008 3:08:00 PM)

Greetings,

i have ADHD. i have learned to cope with it, but still have trouble some days. It can be like a control panel with blinking red lights all flashing for attention, and you aren't sure which red lights you need to pay attention to.

When i am with my Master, even just sitting at His feet, talking with Him or listening as He talks to someone else... for that period of time, the control panel has only a few lights and most are not blinking. i feel calm, focused and able to think clearly without distraction. It is a very nice feeling, one i wish i could bottle and take with me.

As far as muse... i used to write. A lot. Since i have met Him, i have felt the need to do so less and less. Writing was an escape, a way to handle stress and escape my everyday life. i don't need that now, so you could say He is my Anti-Muse.

i am not sure if i answered your question or not, to be honest, but this is how He has affected me mentallly.

Regards,

g



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