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What information do you like in a profile. - 12/19/2008 8:20:43 PM

needstheOne

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Gentlemen what information do you like to see in a profile when you click on it.

I hate my profile as it is now, but it isn't about what I like.

it is about what the people looking at it like.

< Message edited by needstheOne -- 12/19/2008 8:30:44 PM >

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/19/2008 8:24:06 PM

VampiresLair

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Personally, I prefer a profile where the person shows he is a real person, and not just what he thinks we want to hear to make himself look like the perfect (insert role here). If I am actually going to be interested in you, presenting yourself as a completely false set f ideas which you will likely never actually meet is a bad start.

DV

PS you stand a much better chance at getting more Ladies opinions when posting in Mistress not Master
IMHO of course

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/19/2008 8:29:51 PM

needstheOne

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DOH!!! LOL You know I do you you just might be right about that I will edit the post for the male gender because of that see as there is no way to delete it. LOL

So listing time in LS and skills NOT a good idea in your eyes because it makes me seem fake?

This is why I am asking the question. Because I had all the skills that I have learned over the years listed and very little about what I wanted other than what I was looking for at the top and what type of person I work best with. Other than that I listed nothing that I wanted from a Dom/Domme <but of course to serve and to find out if I could styill take a pounding like I could in the 90's if that what He/She desired>

Right now all I have is my skills that I think would best Serve the One. These ALL can be Proven with one simple call to a friend.

What I was talking about wasn't listing things but what topic do you like to see in the profile.

Not your fetishes.

sorry about that

< Message edited by needstheOne -- 12/19/2008 8:40:10 PM >

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/19/2008 8:37:53 PM

DrkJourney

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Since you are just looking for online, First I would tell something about yourself, to show what kind of personality that you have, so they can see if that's a match, then I would just stick to things that apply to online only....not really a need to say things like you can brush her hair or how you can do house repairs...that is nothing you can experience online.   So you might want to look at profiles and ask an actual online Dom/Domme what he or she likes to see.

Just like VampirestLair said, since I am looking for something in real time, I want to hear about you as a person and not the "slave speak". I have never understood the profiles that go on and on and on about their thoughts on submission (I think the slave should do this and do that) and what they think the Domme/Dom should think and do with their property, etc.   We are on this site, we know the definitions, we really don't need to be told.

Also, just my pet peeve....all the "atm" and "rl", etc. spell it out, what you want.   Kind of just shows me that you don't care enough to take the time to actually write out a profile. You're just slapping something on a page just to have something.

Just my thoughts

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/19/2008 8:40:57 PM

Lordandmaster

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Generally I like to see tits, but, in the absence of visual evidence, a thoughtful paragraph that will give me some idea of who the person is and what distinguishes her from the rest of the world.

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/19/2008 8:47:33 PM

needstheOne

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so a list of what would benefit you as a Dom/Domme is good. no slave speak witch my last profile did not have any of is bad. and I had a beautiful profile as of 7PM tonight but was told it was to long even at just three paragraphs. so this oneit is just slapped together for now. I haven't even done all that capping and uncapping stuff yet. I am working this on the fly. The last profile took me two weeks to make this one sucks big stuff right now. But I will fix That online only thing right now.

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/19/2008 8:53:14 PM

needstheOne

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LOL I don't have any tits so I guess I will have to just stick to the paragraph:) Thank you for your consise answer Lord and master

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/19/2008 10:36:37 PM

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I'm warning you right up front that I am the worst person for profile advice. My own profile literally read that I would write one later for something like My first six months here. There are people much more qualified than Me to give you some direction on the matter. If you'd like to hear some of what others have said on the matter, you can use the search function and look through the "Ask A Mistress" section for some prior replies on the subject.

One thing I will say is that you won't please everyone with whatever it is that you write in your profile. Whatever you put on there, you won't please everyone. The same introduction can be viewed by some as too long, where others think the very same is too short. Some will say it's too much about kink interests and others will say there's not enough information about you. The point I'm making is you won't please everyone, no matter what you write.

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/20/2008 12:33:21 AM

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Truth be told....Mine just says "These would be just words to most. If you want to know Me, then do so by interacting with Me."

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/20/2008 3:41:10 AM

IronBear

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Reading a potential slave's profile, I need the basics:

age rough description (ie BBW or slim etc)
something about experience in the lifestyle,
sexual orientation,
poly/mono
some general BDSM Interests
other outside interests.

This is a basic for me to start a dialogue with him or her... I have no objestions if the slave chooses to write a bpook as long as it is basically logical with reasonable levels of spelling.

Mine for those who have never checked it out could be entitled "That Bloody Bear Has Written A Book". However there are people who do not visit this side and are refered to check my profile out if they want to know something about me. Ideally those who make enquiries are aware of my marital statue, orientations and background. It also contains information about what I am seeking, where I live, our dogs, and warnings for those who do not enjoy canine company together with the deal breakers..

But this is me and it is how I like it..

< Message edited by IronBear -- 12/20/2008 3:44:23 AM >

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/20/2008 5:02:11 AM

sunshinemiss

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To the OP:
Your profile looks pretty good... I'd lose the name though. Get a real name that means something to and about you. What happens when you "find the one"? You gonna change your name? It also is like chum in the water for the sharks.

good luck,
sunshine

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/20/2008 5:27:45 AM

VampiresLair

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quote:

ORIGINAL: needstheOne
So listing time in LS and skills NOT a good idea in your eyes because it makes me seem fake?

If that is all you have to say about yourself and your time and skill set sounds entirely unrealistic, then yes. Whether it is real or not, for instance, if you are 19 and have 4 years in the lifestyle and are an expert on everything you have ever done... you sound like a fake.
To me at least, what you are interested in and have tried is more interesting that how long you have been doing it and how well. How well is completely an opinion, and it isnt my opinion because I havent seen for myself. People who write that they give fantastic massages and things like that sound nice, but I might not agree. My opinion on the verification of your skills and abilities through someone else is, in my opinion, unnecessary as well. Until you get to know someone, and if they ask, then you volunteer that. Not up front.

Its your profile, and you are never going to make everyone happy. If you have 3 paragraphs, so be it thats what YOU want. My Fox has an epic profile, but he likes it.

DV

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/20/2008 5:38:03 AM

needstheOne

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Lose the name would mean I would have to start a whole NEW profile and that no one would know me on CM? You said to pick a name that means something to me. My whole being needs the One but I will comply and close this one and come up with some other name , what I don't know since this one fits me, and lose all my contacts. See ya on the flip side with some boring name like slave_dave. You see I dfon't want them knowing my name. And that is so not me as to be good and likeable

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/20/2008 6:38:06 AM

IronBear

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Of course you could use logic and follow the same path as quite a few here have done by making a new profile for your new name and listing at the beginning that you were "needstheone" but have decided to find a betgter name for CM. This can be folloowed for the first few weeks of posting under the new name of adding this small not as to who you were. Most of your online CM mates will pick it up and adjust..

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/20/2008 7:54:54 AM

royalgoodness

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ok the name has been changed and the old profile nuked. The new name will have to grow on me, for it tells nothing about me but the profile is better. and I have a ton of mail. Oh yea it all of the come on over to yahoo for a chat kind of mail that say they have viewed your profile. LOL oh well at least the profile is much better and explains what I am looking for in a clearer way. But it wasn't sogood at getting rid of the fakers. LOL

I just hope Ms S understood the change or I will not be advising here on your problem tomorrow. lol and there will be no cookies. WAAAAAAAAAAA. I love home made cookies<sniff> hehehehehehe

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/21/2008 8:30:25 PM

DesFIP

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Lose the third party speech please. If a future dominant requires speech restrictions, fine. But in the meantime it will put off anyone who doesn't want to have to abide by your predetermined rituals. Put the vanilla stuff first. Go into detail about what you are passionate about. Your profile states you are funny but doesn't show it. Don't tell, show. I don't get a sense of who you are from reading your profile, and that is what you want it to convey.

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/21/2008 8:56:18 PM

IronBear

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Good point about the third party speech and I'd also loose the baby crap. may be fine in conversation with your Dominant but here it reeks of role play badly done in chats. Almost guaranteed to put a number of people off and take you less seriously. best of luck to you.

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/21/2008 10:10:47 PM

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I agree with IronBear's list but also want to know:

What she wants in her partner,
and whether she has UMs.

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/21/2008 10:23:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
and whether she has UMs.

I never put anything about my children in my profile because, well, it gives me bad feelings that someone could be scanning profiles for women with children. I have mentioned them several pages back in my journal, and occasionally here. But for someone just trolling profiles, they won't see that.

I guess I rely on the men to say whether a woman with children is acceptable to them or not. I do see that alot in profiles.

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RE: What information do you like in a profile. - 12/21/2008 11:05:50 PM

IronBear

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Good idea not adding the presence of lil ones for security reasons. Whilst I never say i don't want someone who has them, it certainly would crop up in early discussions especially if we were looking at live in 24/7 after things have settled and we can reassess each other. For my part, I try to keep as greater distance between myself and kids/teens for personal reasons but have been caught out singing to a bub to settle him to sleep in my arms, changing nappies and just entertaining kids from our neighborhood and of course was talked into playing Santa yesterday at out neighborhood Christmas BBQ when the bloke booked for the gig pulled out fore no given reason at the last moment. Whilst I try to have a child free home, Bruin Cottage is also a safe house for most of the lil ones in our street if crap happens at home and parents are out. Kids just bring back way too many miserable and painful memories so I insulate myself. I will not disallow someone with kids as long as they di not live here with us. I always allow regular time out for parenting with the understanding that in emergencies the trik will have our support to do what she has to do.. Wouldn’t be right not to do this y’know. .

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