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stella41b -> Giving a sensual massage (12/20/2008 2:43:19 AM)
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What could be more relaxing than a deep, sensual massage? What is a massage? To me it is a period of one-sided intimacy, a time of healing hands where through the massaging of the physical you can soothe the emotional, psychological and even spiritual.
Four things are essential for giving a successful massage.. atmosphere, mood, forethought, and of course, someone's body. Timing is important, the most natural time for a massage is after a bath or shower, in the evening, and sometimes in the morning. Forethought means planning, preparation, the choice of location is very important.. Dining room tables successful massages do not produce, best locations are the bedroom, or if you have one, on a sheepskin rug in front of an open fire. Here I'm going to suggest a massage in the bedroom, in the most comfortable, intimate space in the home. If the body is clean then so must the scene and the settings, clean towels, clean sheets, and no outside distractions - switch off the phone, cellphone, lock the door, switch off the TV. .. Light a few candles, ensure the room is warm, put on some relaxing or romantic music.... If you have a multi-disc type CD player select three CDs, use a computer playlist, and if you are using a single CD be sure to loop it. make sure you have oils, masssage oil, scented oil, olive oil even, cocoa butter, or baby oil.. A massage should be a festival for the senses, so ensure that something is scented, whether it be candles, oils, incense, but obviously, not anything which comes out of an aerosol.
Having prepared the scene, you need now to prepare the body and introduce her into a state of mind where she is feeling good about herself, via a warm bath or shower.. be there for her, prepare towels, assist her in bathing as a preliminary, help her dry herself.. It goes without saying that you, the masseur or masseuse, also need to be clean, seet smelling, soothing, and gentle. Adopt a soothing tone to your voice, deliver your words deliberately, but without suggesting you've been smoking the wacky backy.
Allow time for her to become comfortable, lying face down, and sit on the bed by her shoulder, talk to her, listen to her, ask her about her day, listen to her, ask her about her worries, fears, problems, reassure her, comfort her, relax her, give her time to prepare emotionally and psychologically for the massage, to relax herself, unwind, to let go.
Try to feel for that moment when she is ready. Then.... before your hands go anywhere near her body check that they are warm, rub them together if necessary, but ensure that they are warm. Nothing ruins the carefully developed mood and atmosphere of a massage than cold hands, nothing, unless it is rushing.. Nothing to rush over, you have all the time in the world.
Warm hands? Using the tips of your fingers lightly stroke her body from her neck down her back, trace a line down her spine down to her buttocks and then back up again, using gentle stroking movements. Once you get to her neck start to use your hands, gently kneading her skin with your hands using very light pressure down the back of her neck, over her shoulders, first left, then right, press gently on her spine with the base of your palm and twist gently your palm from left to right all the way down to her buttocks, and then using your hands gently knead her back up one side and down the other side. What you are doing here is still preparation, stimulating blood flow through her flesh and preparing her muscles for manipulation, whilst releasing all the fluidy stuff like endorphins which will loosen up her body tissue. This process must be repeated on each section of her body you work on, her arms, her buttocks, her legs, both back and front. I call this stage the pre-massage, or 'smoothening of the body', and skipping it may cause pain, sudden reactions, or even bruising. therefore it's a very important stage of a successful massage. It also helps her to acquaint herself with your touch.
Now we come to the massage proper, for which you will need to have the oil beside you, to be in a suitable position for shifting your body weight to and fro between yourself and her body (nothing ruins a good massage than masseur or masseuse losing their balance, falling over arse over tit, and massagee bursting out laughing), and where th pace slows right down. This time you are using pressure and massaging each area more intensely, so it is best to start on the opposite shoulder to where you are positioned and check with her that she feels comfortable with the intensity of the pressure. Use your body weight to apply pressure, not the strength in your arms and hands (which may cause bruising and possible tissue injury). If you can imagine a crucifix formed of her shoulders perpendicular with her neck and back work from shoulder to shoulder and then from the neck down her back - avoiding her spine. To massage her spine clench youre hands into fists, apply pressure vertically using your knuckles, and wtist them round slowly in 180 degree arcs from side to side. However before you do this place drops of oil on her skin immediately before you massage each area, using approximately a tablespoon measure for each six inch or so square you massage. Stroke the oil over her skin, and using the aforementioned techniques massage the oil into her skin until you can see no traces of oil on the surface of the skin. Apply more oil if you start to feel tension or friction in her skin or flesh.
As you return to each shoulder continue and massage her arms all the way down to her hands and massage her hands in your's, as if you are washing her hands. Work back up her arms, to her shoulders and move in gentler gliding and longer strokes down to her buttocks. When massaging buttocks pour the oil onto your hands as some people are ticklish in their 'crack' and apply more pressure to her buttocks, in fact much more. You can really go to town on her buttocks, massaging them with applied pressure to release all those endorphins and stimulate blood flow. Work the fingers down between those cheeks and knead and push and pull those orbs.
Remember to reduce the pressure as you move onto her legs and down to her feet, paying particular attention to her feet, her calves, and her thighs.. Turn her over onto her back and repeat the process down her front, starting with the pre-massage. Be gentle with her breasts, stroke them gently, applying the oil, and work from the outer edges towards her nipples. Also pay attention when applying pressure to her abdomen and stomach especially around her ribs.. Massage slowly around her lower abdomen, stroke her thighs, including the inside, teasing her genitals before massaging down her legs, her knees and her feet, and comig back work your way back up her thighs again teasing her genitals - don't be afraid of massaging that area (unless she asks you not to) and start again with the massage proper.
A successful massage takes time, intimacy and attention, and developing a good massage technique takes time and practise. Giving your domme a massage is mutually beneficial as it takes away all her tension, stress and anxieties and more intimately than high protocol it enables you as a submissive to focus purely on her and is good for developing that inner sense of discipline.
DISCLAIMER: I am not a qualified masseuse and am to be considered a talented masseuse trained via the Three By Method, By a Domme, By Myself, and By Opportunity. Advice from a qualified or professional masseuse or masseur may differ. Apart from dogs and cats no other animals were used in the development of this technique and none of the dogs and cats suffered any adverse effects and were returned safely to their owners.
This isn't the One True Way of massaging, there are other ways, tips and suggestions.
Please feel free to add or comment or share your thoughts.
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