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agirl -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/22/2008 4:19:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CelticPrince quote: ORIGINAL: stella41b Me texting a woman telling her that I was dirty, smelly, cold, wet, nowhere to sleep, no money, hungry, thirsty, alone, confused, frightened.. still street homeless. That I felt I couldn't go on any more. Her texting me back telling me that it didn't matter, that it was breaking her heart for me to be in that way, that she so much wanted to be with me, hug me, and for me not to ever give up hope but to hold out until I found somewhere to live and to have faith in the future so that we could one day be together. That was when I was in Warsaw, Poland, end of November 2005. This is the same woman who texted me to tell me she collected the money I sent her Western Union and bought a coach ticket to London, that she was frightened, scared, that she didn't know English, that she had never ever travelled so far from home in her entire life, but that she cannot wait to be with me and make everything better. I texted her back and reassured her that I would be waiting there for her and it would be better when we are together. This was two days ago. In eight days time she will be here with me in London. There is a Polish saying - ktoś, z którym można ukraść konie - someone with whom you can steal horses. This to me is intimacy. stella, Well to my thinging, that might be sharing a hope, but does not rise to the level of intimacy; but then to each their own. CP You are kidding, right?........That's actually the funniest comment I've read on CM for a very long time. agirl

NorthernGent -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/22/2008 4:45:57 AM)
Sharing your dreams, aspirations, fears, anxieties.

CelticPrince -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/22/2008 10:12:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThundersCry Simple really... Being real with...someone... TC Now that is really simple to the point of oversimplification, come on friend , think about it. CP

CelticPrince -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/22/2008 10:14:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: StrictnSaucy For me its about real sharing. Not having to hold back on anything with your partner and knowing that they are being as equally open with you. For people that look for intimacy it is also important to find a partner that is equally as open to it. You cant be intimate with a floor board! It took me a while to get to this point but now that I am here I am glad I risked getting judged, risked getting hurt. The pay off is worth 10x what the journey cost me emotionally. That was one long journey! SnS i think you have captured in a few words, what it is all about. CO

CelticPrince -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/22/2008 10:16:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: oceanwynds Intimacy is when the self-made prison you keep yourself becomes unlocked by another. Where sharing of old wounds or future dreams can finally come out of the closet. Where you can embrace another person and let them know you still see them as a wonderful person. Where another can embrace you and tell you that you are a wonderful person. wynds, You have made me smile! I agree. CP

CelticPrince -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/22/2008 10:19:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daddysliloneds quote: ORIGINAL: CelticPrince quote: ORIGINAL: daddysliloneds intimacy isn't anything having to do with vibrators and vulnerability to me; it's more the act of sharing something with someone that you don't share with just everyone; it's akin to a prostitute not kissing her johns but she will kiss her husband, etc... it's those small things that distinguish us as more than just another notch on the bedpost; it's being someone who is truly cared for by the other in ways they won't share with anyone else. liloneds, Perhaps not but would you use your bullet in front of anyone else? CP i don't own a bullet or a vibrator, nor do i masterbate while alone. i only do those things for the one i serve, when told, because otherwise they do nothing for me. i can't cum when i'm the one in control, so why bother wasting my time. does that answer your question? liloneds, I stand corrected and it serves as a reminder to never assume. Have a fine Christmas. CP

NefertariReborn -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/22/2008 4:34:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BKSir To me, intimacy is honesty. Pure, unabashed truthfulness. In all things. If that means crying, as a dom, around those close to me, then so be it. It means being able to share openly what is on our minds, no matter how big or small and knowing that it will be received and understood wholly, or at least tried to be. It means loving someone for all of them, their good and strong points but even moreso their faults and weaknesses, and being able to share all of those and work together with them. It also means, being able to wander in and use the restroom while the other person is in the bath/shower, and no one be bothered by it. ;) I've banned this. Tooooo much intimacy. My idea of intimacy? Watching Star Trek at home on a Saturday on the couch in underwear; his head on My stomach. Oops! Don't forget the Orville Reddenbacher.

CelticPrince -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/22/2008 5:19:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: agirl quote: ORIGINAL: CelticPrince quote: ORIGINAL: stella41b Me texting a woman telling her that I was dirty, smelly, cold, wet, nowhere to sleep, no money, hungry, thirsty, alone, confused, frightened.. still street homeless. That I felt I couldn't go on any more. Her texting me back telling me that it didn't matter, that it was breaking her heart for me to be in that way, that she so much wanted to be with me, hug me, and for me not to ever give up hope but to hold out until I found somewhere to live and to have faith in the future so that we could one day be together. That was when I was in Warsaw, Poland, end of November 2005. This is the same woman who texted me to tell me she collected the money I sent her Western Union and bought a coach ticket to London, that she was frightened, scared, that she didn't know English, that she had never ever travelled so far from home in her entire life, but that she cannot wait to be with me and make everything better. I texted her back and reassured her that I would be waiting there for her and it would be better when we are together. This was two days ago. In eight days time she will be here with me in London. There is a Polish saying - ktoś, z którym można ukraść konie - someone with whom you can steal horses. This to me is intimacy. stella, Well to my thinging, that might be sharing a hope, but does not rise to the level of intimacy; but then to each their own. CP You are kidding, right?........That's actually the funniest comment I've read on CM for a very long time. agirl agirl, nope I am not kidding and I read it 3 times, once in reverse and once left to right. CP

CelticPrince -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/22/2008 5:20:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NorthernGent Sharing your dreams, aspirations, fears, anxieties. NG. well I gree but with who? CP

greeneyedreamer -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/22/2008 5:31:18 PM)
I believe intimacy is a blend of many things. It is sharing, enjoying, maybe even disagreeing, but it is an honest sharing of thoughts, likes, dislikes and emotional sensitivity. I believe it is hard to find, harder to keep and almost impossible to break when its there. Ahh but that's me.... Dreamer

StrictnSaucy -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/22/2008 5:33:09 PM)
Thank you. As you started this thread I am curious to your take on it SnS

mummyman321 -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/22/2008 5:37:21 PM)
Intimacy is the unmasking of yourself to make yourself vulnerable in trusting, loving, secure relationship. Intimacy gives your the sense of having a special, unique and distanct bond with another person. It is the sense of closeness, unity and being one with one another. It is the sharing of tenderness, caring, and affection. The sharing of secretes, hidden tales, and private thoughts. And this is only the begining!

MasterSteve57 -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/22/2008 8:12:34 PM)
We all wear protective emotional masks. We have a public mask we wear when on the street, an employee mask, a friend mask, a spousal mask, a neighbor mask and perhaps a parental mask if we have children. Intimacy to me means being with someone you trust enough to drop all your masks and be emotionally naked and vulnerable. Only then can truly deep communication occur. We all need that kind of intimacy. After all, we humans are social animals. It's deep down in our DNA. Social isolation is for us a perversion and is definately unhealthy. The fact that a dom and a sub share a common fantasy (or should I say enjoy reciprocal fantasies), makes a much deeper level of intimacy possible.

NorthernGent -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/23/2008 4:53:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CelticPrince quote: ORIGINAL: NorthernGent Sharing your dreams, aspirations, fears, anxieties. NG. well I gree but with who? CP Friends, partner, family etc.....with whomever you want to let into your life beyond face value.

LaTigresse -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/23/2008 8:08:30 AM)
Using fast reply....... Another thing I see is that, all too often, people confuse physical intimacy with emotional intimacy. Many people will never share deep emotional intimacy with another yet be very comfortable with physical intimacy. Also, I think that there is a difference in that, some prefer to have the emotional intimacy well established before the physical. Others, the emotional comes after the physical, if at all. The biggest problems tend to lie in the misunderstandings between two people of what it means to them, and, the importance or lack thereof.

Kana -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/23/2008 8:10:29 AM)
When two people can drop all pretenses and just stand in front of each other, exposed, vulnerable, secure. Knowing that the partner will not judge and only share. The physical, and I would argue even the mental intimacy, depend on this for me.

LaTigresse -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/23/2008 8:14:11 AM)
For many people though, the physical is the easier part. It's the emotional nakedness that scares the hell out of them.

CelticPrince -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/23/2008 9:28:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: StrictnSaucy Thank you. As you started this thread I am curious to your take on it SnS SnS Well my take is suggested in the original post. Intimacy is that special place that two people can arrive at after an undefined time together. That level of comfort with each other that allows one to hold nothing back in the realm of emotions or need. As I noted it is not necessary for many and some think they have it but really do not as there is alwasys ome reserved that remains within. Thus my take. CP

CelticPrince -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/23/2008 9:30:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSteve57 We all wear protective emotional masks. We have a public mask we wear when on the street, an employee mask, a friend mask, a spousal mask, a neighbor mask and perhaps a parental mask if we have children. Intimacy to me means being with someone you trust enough to drop all your masks and be emotionally naked and vulnerable. Only then can truly deep communication occur. We all need that kind of intimacy. After all, we humans are social animals. It's deep down in our DNA. Social isolation is for us a perversion and is definately unhealthy. The fact that a dom and a sub share a common fantasy (or should I say enjoy reciprocal fantasies), makes a much deeper level of intimacy possible. MSteve, Damn that is alot of marks; might yee have a special closet to keep them in/ thanks for your thoughts. CP

CelticPrince -> RE: What is intimacy to you? (12/23/2008 9:31:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NorthernGent quote: ORIGINAL: CelticPrince quote: ORIGINAL: NorthernGent Sharing your dreams, aspirations, fears, anxieties. NG. well I gree but with who? Got it! CP CP Friends, partner, family etc.....with whomever you want to let into your life beyond face value.

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