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RE: Ritual in anticipation of time together - 1/1/2006 12:05:26 AM

Gomez

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ORIGINAL: cinnfulhussy

We obviously didn't get that memo either....
Our first meeting was full of ritual. He told me what he wanted me to wear, and that was perhaps one of the most thrilling aspects for me. I went shopping with his pleasure in mind, and it had me in such a lovely mindset for days!
We did everything they say you are not supposed to do. We met in his appartment, played the first date, did the deed the first date, and as he was inside me for the first time I begged to be his. Hey.... it worked! Going 8 years strong! Not that I advocate others doing the same....
As for ritual, he had me do the all but standard shave for him, wear no panties, wear thigh highs and heels... and he inspected me after giving me a tour of his home. For the six months we lived apart, I ritualized shopping, bathing, shaving and dressing for our time together. It really did change my mindset from everyday student, dog mother and wayward citizen into focusing on being his pleasing slave. He also forbade me to masturbate during the week, save one time. I almost always saved that for my driving down to see him. It certainly ensured that I was hot to trot, thats for sure.
To this day ritual holds an important place in our relationship, and my mindset. I enjoy the structure. Most protocol to me is a form of ritual. We are constantly adding protocol, tweaking, revisiting old rituals. Thanks for the trip down memory lane, Heather my love :)

Ah fond memories of a sub that I had many moons ago, but alas she soon moved on to become a Dominatrix....but reading cinnfulhussy's post brought back many fond memories. Pity she moved on as she was the best sub I have had for years!!

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RE: Ritual in anticipation of time together - 1/1/2006 2:37:56 AM

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Ah fond memories of a sub that I had many moons ago, but alas she soon moved on to become a Dominatrix....but reading cinnfulhussy's post brought back many fond memories. Pity she moved on as she was the best sub I have had for years!!

You might want to look her up. Some of us need to check out the color of the grass on the other side before settling into the original pasture :)

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RE: Ritual in anticipation of time together - 1/1/2006 2:49:35 AM

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Tried looking her up and from what I found, she has moved on to greener pastures in the US. I did hope there for a while that she would come back to where she learnt so much but she seemed to enjoy her new thread and so I let her move on. Was a shame as she was the best sub I had but showing her the other sides of BDSM, I know I (in a way) inspired her to look further and realise what she had the potential to be. In time, there will be a new sub for me that I can inspire and create new memories!! Will be sure to keep you all updated when that happens!

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RE: Ritual in anticipation of time together - 1/1/2006 7:01:35 AM

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I am a huge believer and enforcer in rituals at the onset of the interview process, prior to visit and as the relationship develops. I believe it to be a clear indicator of how well rules will be followed later and how imortant I am to the sub--the first sub I met with last year--did indeed warn Me he was a procrastinator--but I expected that a clean house and a clean car were not impossible tasks to complete--when I arrived, neither had been done, nor had the requested journalling I asked for--this after sending a very expensive leather journal and pen--I was greatly disappointed that My arrival was not enough to spur him out of his normal mode--although we are best friends today, his procrastion still irks Me at times--smiles.

The next sub I met lost his place early on due to lack of following rituals, the simple request to IM every morning and evening out of respect abd because he travelled for work, to keep Me posted on his schedule--very simple requests and he would go for days with nothing--

Currently, I have a sub I am going to meet month's end--he has a daily ritual, morning and evening IM's at a minimum- he missed once at the start for which he will be punished ( this he knows and has not missed a contact since, that pleases Me for he is on the westcoast so time zones can make things harder, but he does it because he wants to---I have had him shave already and work on getting all things smooth. This week he will get the beginning of instructions to prepare--needless to say a clean house and a clean car are of most importance, these both done to a mantra I have written for him.

I always expect a white rose, I only say that once--but expect it remembered--
I make a ritual out of the preparation for the first exam and each subsequent examinations when W/we are together.
Special clothing--I will select his cologne when I arrive, certain events are ritualized as well. I truly believe if you cannot do those things or choose not to do those things, then you are not right for Me--for it does not show committment nor a deep seated willingness to please.

They may be simple, yet if these things cannot be accomplished, am I indeed that important after all?

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RE: Ritual in anticipation of time together - 1/1/2006 7:34:09 AM

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a very expensive leather journal and pen

He was a bad boy not to appreciate those pretty things!
It seems like many rebel against ritual.
I personally find ritual comforting and secure.

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