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outside of play scene -- for male subs - 12/30/2005 5:20:06 PM

Bonfyre911

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Do you look for particular traits when seeking a Dominant Woman? What are some turn offs? Some definite indicators she is a strong Domme?

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RE: outside of play scene -- for male subs - 12/31/2005 8:26:06 AM

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I dont look for a "Domme" I have no interest in just having a dominant.

If she's not my best friend, my mate, then I'm not going to bother.
I am a very simple person, and I dont put up with all the bullshit drama.

My Domme is my partner, and she will think the same. Our relationship will be beyond our lifestyle.

Its no different than choosing a girlfriend. You look for the same traits, and factors, but you also take into consideration their orientation.

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RE: outside of play scene -- for male subs - 12/31/2005 9:32:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: KarbonCopy

I dont look for a "Domme" I have no interest in just having a dominant.

If she's not my best friend, my mate, then I'm not going to bother.
I am a very simple person, and I dont put up with all the bullshit drama.

My Domme is my partner, and she will think the same. Our relationship will be beyond our lifestyle.

Its no different than choosing a girlfriend. You look for the same traits, and factors, but you also take into consideration their orientation.

Well said, KarbonCopy

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RE: outside of play scene -- for male subs - 12/31/2005 10:34:48 AM

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Do you look for particular traits when seeking a Dominant Woman? What are some turn offs? Some definite indicators she is a strong Domme?

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well i don't do the partner bullshit...i am not in this for some romantic nonsense that flutters out in due time.
hell--i've had friendships for over over 25 yrs that finally fluttered out...nothing is forever...not enough love or money to keep people together...but i guess "I" mam the only one that knows it..most all else i guess live in a bubble world.

traits?
how about..a woman that actually knows Her own mind? i find very few actually do.
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turnoffs?
greed/ vanity/selfishness/shallow/dishonest/no integrity/no pride/no commonsense/----

shall i keep going?

strong domme?
basically just knows how to get into your head and can finish your sentences before you do...someone that knows what you are able to eat, able to take for meds,..etc etc..someone that is "always-there" for you...someone that says and DOES...someone that is guaranteed to back you up..without fail.
strong? someone that doesn't back down and walk away when the shit starts ...in life.

is this enough?

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RE: outside of play scene -- for male subs - 12/31/2005 11:10:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: veronicaofML

well i don't do the partner bullshit...i am not in this for some romantic nonsense that flutters out in due time.
hell--i've had friendships for over over 25 yrs that finally fluttered out...nothing is forever...not enough love or money to keep people together...but i guess "I" mam the only one that knows it..most all else i guess live in a bubble world.

traits?
how about..a woman that actually knows Her own mind? i find very few actually do.
\
turnoffs?
greed/ vanity/selfishness/shallow/dishonest/no integrity/no pride/no commonsense/----

shall i keep going?

strong domme?
basically just knows how to get into your head and can finish your sentences before you do...someone that knows what you are able to eat, able to take for meds,..etc etc..someone that is "always-there" for you...someone that says and DOES...someone that is guaranteed to back you up..without fail.
strong? someone that doesn't back down and walk away when the shit starts ...in life.

is this enough?

Your description of a strong Domme interestingly resembles traits described by people involved in loving, enduring relationships when they speak of their partners. Welcome to the bubble world...

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RE: outside of play scene -- for male subs - 12/31/2005 12:52:42 PM

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except Lady...i am not...of that romantic b.s.---
when one gets fed up with the other...they get replaced...and then there are..hard feelings...
not for this little gray duck.
if ya cant flow..
i pack and go
no looking back
know what i mean?

quit/clean/--no muss no fuss

keep your bubble
i like my reality

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RE: outside of play scene -- for male subs - 12/31/2005 1:37:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: veronicaofML

except Lady...i am not...of that romantic b.s.---
when one gets fed up with the other...they get replaced...and then there are..hard feelings...
not for this little gray duck.
if ya cant flow..
i pack and go
no looking back
know what i mean?

quit/clean/--no muss no fuss

keep your bubble
i like my reality

I don't necessarily think that the traits and qualities you mention are part of "romantic bs". I think they are more enduring qualities that go beyond romance. If people are so easliy replaced, I don't think they should have been together in the first place.

Based on all of your previous posts that appear to indicate that you refuse to let your heart and emotions get involved, I really wonder who is living in a bubble. Reality involves taking risks and feeling vulnerable. Creating a wall, or bubble, to prevent "feeling", in my opinion, is not real.

However, you appear comfortable in your life, and that's what really counts.

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Julie

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RE: outside of play scene -- for male subs - 12/31/2005 2:24:25 PM

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Based on all of your previous posts that appear to indicate that you refuse to let your heart and emotions get involved, I really wonder who is living in a bubble. Reality involves taking risks and feeling vulnerable. Creating a wall, or bubble, to prevent "feeling", in my opinion, is not real.

However, you appear comfortable in your life, and that's what really counts.

Be well,
Julie
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YOUR reality..is taking risks...
but "I" have YET to find ONE ...SINGLE Domme...so i just consoled myself to being a 3rd wheel.....
and thusly
SERVICE came into being.
i am JUST service and nothing else.

after my 3 wives had the sheriff waiting for me......i got 1 pillow/1 blanket/1 spoon/1 knife/1 fork/1 cup/1 glass...and a few clothes.......
i trust NO ONE!

i figured out NO woman is worth it.

take care
best wishes to you n yours from me n mine

i am NOT...........trying to keep high jacking here.......
but
for the record Lady?

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