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thishereboi -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/23/2008 7:19:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel *I'd check yes, but then you would have to agree to it so what would the point be?* Like LP said... we're out there, some more then others, granted, but we are there. I think the biggest thing is that you really need to approach her like she is a person first, then a female person then, maybe, if there is a connection of some sort, a dominant female person. Too many see us as flogger holders with tits and legs. *Jewel* That is so not true, you also make great pillows for cuddling and watching tv.

Madame4a -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/23/2008 7:24:30 AM)
Wow.. do I ever feel your pain right now... I have some similar things going on ... I hate engaging with people who don't know what they want.. at least not consistently... funnily enough, I did tell someone it was clear he just wasn't interested, by his actions, only to have him disagree with me... it made me laugh... yep.. no wonder its difficult... I tell people now that they have a huge hill to climb due to my recent experiences... quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan I just had what is possibly the strangest conversation ever between a FemDom and a male sub. I've been talking with a certain sub guy for the past month or two. For those who read my blog, it's the same one who is deployed overseas. Amid much mutual flirting and not-so-subtle innuendo about the things we'd like to do together when he gets back, including him saying he wants me to break him in fun ways, I stated the following: "You know if I have anything to say about it, I'm going to claim you, right?" Him: "We'll see." Me: "Well, the duration of said claim might only be for a weekend, but for that time...yeah." More conversation followed, in which he said he enjoys our conversations and would like to do things together and see where it goes. I made the point of telling him that A) I'm okay with being in the Friend Zone and won't be upset if he tells me that's all this is; and B) Even if this is more than friendship, I'm still not expecting more than some fun weekends. My gawd, you'd have thought I was proposing marriage. Now, in my experience, most men would jump at the opportunity for some no-strings sexual deviance. Not this one. WTF??? Dude! Are you sure you're a guy? So I asked what exactly he's looking for in a kinky relationship. Not from me, necessarily, but in general. And he couldn't answer. headdesk You know, it's hard to hit your target if you don't even know what it looks like. When he figures out what it is he wants, he said he'll let me know. Translation: "I'm not that into you." Ya know, buddy, ya could have just said that. It's not like I didn't leave you an opening so big you could drive a semi through it. What part of "it's okay if you tell me I'm in the Friend Zone" is unclear? Jeebus fuck. And you men wonder why you have such a hard time finding a Dominant woman.

ShiftedJewel -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/23/2008 9:22:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thishereboi quote: ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel *I'd check yes, but then you would have to agree to it so what would the point be?* Like LP said... we're out there, some more then others, granted, but we are there. I think the biggest thing is that you really need to approach her like she is a person first, then a female person then, maybe, if there is a connection of some sort, a dominant female person. Too many see us as flogger holders with tits and legs. *Jewel* That is so not true, you also make great pillows for cuddling and watching tv. *Thank you for that info... lol I wouldn't know... no one has ever made it that far.* *Jewel*

beeble -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/23/2008 9:56:48 AM)
quote: SimplyIsaac wrote: Swing dead cats often? LadyPact wrote: No actual cats were swung in the creation of this post. Is this some kind of technicality, based on a dead cat no longer being `actual'? [;)] beeble

beeble -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/23/2008 10:03:11 AM)
quote: pinnipedster wrote: And yes, Dominant women are certainly there at munches and lifestyle events, but...well, I have pretty serious inhibitions about approaching a woman who clearly seems to be with someone, and they virtually always are. So I've never figured out how that's supposed to work. Might be worth asking somebody else if they're a couple. She could be just a single playing with another single, hoping for subby right to come along. [:D] And, you know, Dommes are often as nervous about approaching you as they are about approaching them. They're people, too, and, in the grand scheme of things, `Hi, I might be interested in the sort of relationship where I tie you up and spank you' isn't really any easier to say than, `Hi, I might be interested in the sort of relationship where you tie me up and spank me.' beeble.

thishereboi -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/23/2008 10:11:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel quote: ORIGINAL: thishereboi quote: ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel *I'd check yes, but then you would have to agree to it so what would the point be?* Like LP said... we're out there, some more then others, granted, but we are there. I think the biggest thing is that you really need to approach her like she is a person first, then a female person then, maybe, if there is a connection of some sort, a dominant female person. Too many see us as flogger holders with tits and legs. *Jewel* That is so not true, you also make great pillows for cuddling and watching tv. *Thank you for that info... lol I wouldn't know... no one has ever made it that far.* *Jewel* No problems and if you ever find yourself in Detroit, let me know. I can demonstrate that for ya.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/23/2008 10:57:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Madame4a Wow.. do I ever feel your pain right now... I have some similar things going on ... I hate engaging with people who don't know what they want.. at least not consistently... funnily enough, I did tell someone it was clear he just wasn't interested, by his actions, only to have him disagree with me... it made me laugh... yep.. no wonder its difficult... I tell people now that they have a huge hill to climb due to my recent experiences... No joke. I swear, they don't even recognize how difficult they make it for themselves. I did talk to the boy again and it seems like his real problem is the polyamory. His poor little head is spinning because he has no experience with relationships that do not fall into the standard male/female binary. If that's all it is, I can work with it.

ShiftedJewel -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/23/2008 11:35:59 AM)
*And if you are ever in Liberty... well... be careful, I may kidnap you.* *Jewel*

ShiftedJewel -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/23/2008 11:43:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan quote: ORIGINAL: Madame4a Wow.. do I ever feel your pain right now... I have some similar things going on ... I hate engaging with people who don't know what they want.. at least not consistently... funnily enough, I did tell someone it was clear he just wasn't interested, by his actions, only to have him disagree with me... it made me laugh... yep.. no wonder its difficult... I tell people now that they have a huge hill to climb due to my recent experiences... No joke. I swear, they don't even recognize how difficult they make it for themselves. I did talk to the boy again and it seems like his real problem is the polyamory. His poor little head is spinning because he has no experience with relationships that do not fall into the standard male/female binary. If that's all it is, I can work with it. I'm right there with you, yeah, they make it difficult. But I have to be honest here... for a long time I gave up completely on men and searched for a female s-type. Guess what? It isn't any different. Seems to be that the ones that state they are bi are actually saying that they want a dominant male and if a dominant female is involved then that's ok. *And Sylvere? Good luck with that. I hope it works out. And if it does, share the trick with me? Please?* *Jewel*

thishereboi -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/23/2008 11:44:29 AM)
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ShiftedJewel -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/23/2008 11:55:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thishereboi [sm=alien.gif] *Tease.....* *Jewel* *lmao*

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/23/2008 12:05:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel I'm right there with you, yeah, they make it difficult. But I have to be honest here... for a long time I gave up completely on men and searched for a female s-type. Guess what? It isn't any different. Seems to be that the ones that state they are bi are actually saying that they want a dominant male and if a dominant female is involved then that's ok. *And Sylvere? Good luck with that. I hope it works out. And if it does, share the trick with me? Please?* *Jewel* Oh, see...I found a bi fem s-type who was looking for a FemDom. In fact, her profile says she's been "dieing [sic] to submit to a woman." But I agree, female subs can be just as crazy as males. I just have more patience for the female version at this point. As for working with a poly n00b, it depends on how open he is to the idea. In my experience men are okay with non-monogamy as long as they get plenty of one-on-one time and they don't have to listen while I enjoy bedroom time with other male partners. I'll just have to see how well he adjusts to the idea of not being exclusive. At least I don't have to write him off just yet. That's a plus.

Lampstand -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/24/2008 8:52:03 PM)
Has anyone seen my cat ? She has been missing for a few days now. Here...kitty, kitty. To all the Dom ladies out there......you can have all the time with other partners you like, as long as I get to have the first option. Oh ! You must live near me. I don't travel, or not too far. hehe

LadyPact -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/24/2008 9:53:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: beeble quote: SimplyIsaac wrote: Swing dead cats often? LadyPact wrote: No actual cats were swung in the creation of this post. Is this some kind of technicality, based on a dead cat no longer being `actual'? [;)] beeble Now beeble. Do you really think the big, bad Dominant of Oz would hurt cute, little fury things?

E2Sweet -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/24/2008 11:52:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Now beeble. Do you really think the big, bad Dominant of Oz would hurt cute, little fury things? Hmm, I dunno.... Would you be willing to take a polygraph? [:D]

LadyPact -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/25/2008 5:17:39 AM)
What? You couldn't trust a face like this?

beeble -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/26/2008 4:03:03 AM)
quote: SimplyIsaac wrote: Swing dead cats often? LadyPact wrote: No actual cats were swung in the creation of this post. beeble wrote: Is this some kind of technicality, based on a dead cat no longer being `actual'? [;)] LadyPact wrote: Now beeble. Do you really think the big, bad Dominant of Oz would hurt cute, little fury things? Is this some kind of technicality, based on painless death and/or somebody else doing the killing and/or your signature claiming that you're the `big, bad sadistic Dominant of Oz', leaving open the option that the`big, bad Dominant of Oz' is somebody else? [;)] beeble [edited to fix broken quoting.]

LadyPact -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/26/2008 5:52:47 AM)
Now, now, now..... Why would anyone want to kill anything that wants to purr in My ear after I'm done playing with it?

stella41b -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/26/2008 8:51:20 AM)
Well you know, there's Oz and there's Oz.

dominalisa -> RE: finding a dominant Woman.... (12/26/2008 8:09:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: justellmeonce hello,my name is philip....i'm having a difficult time finding a real time relationship with a dominant lady....i have been searching for ltr for a few years... --Where have you been looking so far besides this website? By the way, if you want to stand out then describe on your profile what makes you different than the other sub guys on this site and any skills you may have.

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