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cbt4me2006 -> Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/30/2005 11:13:39 PM)
Why is it that I find myself back to "square one" after chatting, then proving that I am for real. Is it my breath? Is it my attitutude? Am I too old? I am an old fucker, btw. I'm real old, LOL. I'm 44, and my face looks like 34, and I only weigh 145. Why am i getting this ignoring? i play by the rules. i follow the lead. i Respect whom i am speaking with. I have a normal attitude, I'm subby, and never pushy. Can anyone help me on this one? Thanks in advance EDIT: i just came to edit this post, and i cannot find a single thing to change, except that there might be a whole lot of FAKERS on this board.

FTopinMichigan -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 5:19:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cbt4me2006 Why is it that I find myself back to "square one" after chatting, then proving that I am for real. Is it my breath? Is it my attitutude? Am I too old? I am an old fucker, btw. I'm real old, LOL. I'm 44, and my face looks like 34, and I only weigh 145. Why am i getting this ignoring? i play by the rules. i follow the lead. i Respect whom i am speaking with. I have a normal attitude, I'm subby, and never pushy. Can anyone help me on this one? Okay...to start, your very first post, to this message board is to "complain." I don't know too many people that will find that attractive. [;)] Your seem to believe that 44 years of age is some ancient bag of bones. Sad! You've probably just alienated more than half of the BDSM community, which seems to have an average age, well over 44. Have you not heard...forty is the new thirty? [:D] I think you might build your own self confidence. You seem to be joking about being an old "fucker" and "only" weighing 145, and you say you "follow the lead." If you don't feel good about yourself, and build on your strengths, as well as take some initiative, you'll stay where you are now. Accept and appreciate your age and wisdom. Accept your weight/size, or work to change it. Celebrate what you look like, and what you enjoy. Don't follow the lead...that's boring and shows a lack of imagination. Take a step forward to show you're different. Make someone notice you....not for your complaining, or small stature, but because you're a confident man, seeking what you know you want, and knowing you can share that with the right person. quote: ORIGINAL: cbt4me2006 EDIT: i just came to edit this post, and i cannot find a single thing to change, except that there might be a whole lot of FAKERS on this board. Fakers? Why...because they won't give you the time of day? I think it IS an "attitude" issue. Feel better about yourself, and others might notice you. K

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 5:51:00 AM)
It takes a lot of time and effort (and exploring multiple venues, not just one online personals site) to find The One, or even the One For Now. I'd suggest watching the language, and the "faker" remarks - presupposing that we're all fake is pretty insulting, especially when your opening remark is about having to prove yourself "for real". Complaining isn't attractive; having a positive attitude is. Remember that Dommes will talk to a lot more potential subs than you will potential dommes; we get tired of the nonsense too and deal with a lot more of it. My suggestion? Spend a little more time talking about yourself as a person on your profile. Post a tasteful picture. Get involved in your local scene, so that when you do contact someone online who is worried about you being real you can invite them to meet you at a munch. Don't be afraid to take polite initiative (vs. harassing behavior - a not so fine line). And put on a crash helmet - it's not going to be an easy ride.

MHOO314 -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 5:56:29 AM)
"vernonica!" She rasps in her Maggie Smith Suthren accent " call the paramedics, we have another potential message board suicide..." First of all, you are new here and I hardly think that 2 days is enough time to decide--also you are indeed new--so fresh produce basically, if you are inundated, screen--- that's why they have profiles, etc. Finally you mentioned "chatting"--most of us here do not use the chatrooms--we opt for the boards as it provides time for thought provoking questions and responses versus chat, I see you are a new poster--so welcome, sit back, read, learn, watch and participate--but know the rules. My advice: this is one of the best sites for real people, but as all sites there are more than its share of wankers--patience.

MstrssPassion -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 7:25:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cbt4me2006 Why is it that I find myself back to "square one" after chatting, then proving that I am for real. Is it my breath? Is it my attitutude? Am I too old? I am an old fucker, btw. I'm real old, LOL. I'm 44, and my face looks like 34, and I only weigh 145. Why am i getting this ignoring? i play by the rules. i follow the lead. i Respect whom i am speaking with. I have a normal attitude, I'm subby, and never pushy. Can anyone help me on this one? Thanks in advance EDIT: i just came to edit this post, and i cannot find a single thing to change, except that there might be a whole lot of FAKERS on this board. I want to submit & I want to do it RIGHT NOW!!! I would say it is your attitude & definitely your approach. You have just joined CM & right away you are being satisfied. In your disgust you lash out & since you had no one in particular to lash out at, you pick the message boards. That's it... I'll tell everyone that they are fakers because I have no one to submit to after being on here for two days & because I posted my complaint at 2 am & they still aren't paying attention to me at 3am... THEY'RE FAKERS, DAMN THEM ALL TO HELL!! [;)]Come on you old fucker, cut us some slack... most of us old fuckers on here are asleep at that time. I'm about 4 yrs your Jr & I know I was dead asleep. Based on the limited amount of info I would definitely say it is your attitude. I would be curious to know how long you have been involved in this way of life. I have been involved for many years. I do have a submissive at this time, but I single for 8 yrs before we met. Have you attended any local functions? Check this link to see what is close to you. http://www.drkdesyre.com/meetppl/orgs/orgskansas.html You mention your age like it is a bad thing... have you only been talking with the 20-something crowd? Any takers? This is your opening line. This comes off like a blatant challenge. Hopefully you can pull yourself out of this train wreck of a post.

LadyJulieAnn -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 8:02:51 AM)
Perhaps take a closer look at the Dommes you are contacting. Do their profiles come across as "normal", serious, and lifestyle-based? It would be nice to get a reply to every email you send out, but the reality is that you won't. The same thing happens to us. Two days is not a long time to find "The One". I would also suggest that you seek out local events and groups and talk with people offline. I can assure you that the majority of Dommes who post in the forum section are not "fakers". Be well, Julie

LadyMorgynn -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 8:10:44 AM)
This is why I never chat on first acquaintance. MANY times the people who will accept a chat request (or ask for a chat) straight away, are only interested in chatting... at least that has been MY experience to date (for others reading this, YMMV). To be honest, your profile indicates your main interest is in playing. So you meet someone also interested in playing, you go chat and play, and that's that. What's to complain about? If you want MORE than that, you have to present yourself differently. And btw, I just turned FIFTY last month, and I can still whip YOUR old ass! quote: ORIGINAL: cbt4me2006 Why is it that I find myself back to "square one" after chatting, then proving that I am for real. Is it my breath? Is it my attitutude? Am I too old? I am an old fucker, btw. I'm real old, LOL. I'm 44, and my face looks like 34, and I only weigh 145.

LadyMorgynn -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 8:15:19 AM)
Hey, hey, watch it! I've got a dozen years on you, and I was up at 3 a.m.! LOL! I was cruising around on some other boards tho, just as well I didn't see this guys post then, because I'm not always as, um, diplomatic as I should be at 3 a.m. ;) quote: ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion [;)]Come on you old fucker, cut us some slack... most of us old fuckers on here are asleep at that time. I'm about 4 yrs your Jr & I know I was dead asleep.

MstrssPassion -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 8:27:31 AM)
quote: LadyMorgynn Hey, hey, watch it! I've got a dozen years on you, and I was up at 3 a.m.! Well this young pup needs her 8 hours. In fact we are having a discussion here this morning about bringing in the New Year. My girl wants to go watch fireworks & I would rather take a look at the back of my eyelids. I'm not being an ol fuddy duddy, I have been putting in 14 hour days 6 days a week at work lately. My point is that many people these days are doing that 9 to 5 (or so) routine & they don't hang out on the net until the wee hours. In fact I would say chat rooms (virtual venues) are pretty much like bar rooms late at night... suddenly those 10 pm 1's start looking like 1 am 10's!

LadyKim -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 10:29:54 AM)
This is like anything in life....... it takes time to find someone that really intrigues you. Not everyone you communicate with is going to be a good match..... no matter what type of relationship you are looking for. As yourself a few questions that might help you figure out why someone hasn't snatched you up yet. Of course, this only works if you are completely honest with yourself. 1. Would you want someone just like you? 2. If someone responded to you like that would you want them? 3 & 4. What about yourself do you not like? Does this come through to others when you communicate with them? 5. How is your self confidence? 6. How is your sense of humor? 7. Are you sincere in your communications or saying what you think is the right thing to say? 8. Are you consistant? 9. Is there anything originial about yourself in your communications with others? 10. Do you present a positive, upbeat personality? Hope this helps. MzKim

veronicaofML -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 10:43:06 AM)
Why is it that I find myself back to "square one" after chatting, then proving that I am for real. Is it my breath? Is it my attitutude? Am I too old? I am an old fucker, btw. I'm real old, LOL. I'm 44, and my face looks like 34, and I only weigh 145. Why am i getting this ignoring? i play by the rules. i follow the lead. i Respect whom i am speaking with. I have a normal attitude, I'm subby, and never pushy. Can anyone help me on this one? Thanks in advance EDIT: i just came to edit this post, and i cannot find a single thing to change, except that there might be a whole lot of FAKERS on this board. =============== if you are old..what in hell am i? i'm 52 dudes....holy ass shit man. ok..so ya play by the rules..there are trouble makers everywhere ya go in life...i keep finding em myself. i find 9.5 people out of ten are jerks. define fake? because they do not open their arms to you in 30 seconds? you really have-to..take time...get to know someone. nothing GOOD happens overnight. a lot of bad---- will...but not GOOD. take your time...be patient. take care best wishes

AAkasha -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 11:15:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cbt4me2006 Why is it that I find myself back to "square one" after chatting, then proving that I am for real. Is it my breath? Is it my attitutude? Am I too old? I am an old fucker, btw. I'm real old, LOL. I'm 44, and my face looks like 34, and I only weigh 145. Why am i getting this ignoring? i play by the rules. i follow the lead. i Respect whom i am speaking with. I have a normal attitude, I'm subby, and never pushy. Can anyone help me on this one? Thanks in advance EDIT: i just came to edit this post, and i cannot find a single thing to change, except that there might be a whole lot of FAKERS on this board. Having a nickname like a job description and a sour attitude is probably not helping you. Can a femdom take a guy seriously whose nickname is about what he wants done to HIM? It's not all about you. Akasha

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 11:16:10 AM)
You sound very negative, and that usually doesn't attract people, so try and take a deep breath, and make your next post more upbeat and interesting, as that tends to catch women's attention. You shouldn't come to the boards to call people fakers; if you know they are, simply stay away from them. You're not too old in my opinion; I'm not sure why 145lbs is a quality to brag about, and hope you show slight more depth when writing to ladies. I wish you luck, M

cbt4me2006 -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 11:16:51 AM)
That was very unattractive of me, for a first post i was venting, and looking for guidance at the behest of being frustrated. i apologize, from my heart! regarding the age issue, is was joking. i'm proud of my 44 years, and hope that i will be of service for another 25 years. thanks to all, for the thoughtful remarks! The nice and not so nice remarks. i needed that. Kind of like a reality check. Each and every reply really spoke to me, on a personal level. and Your words really did help! i really appreciate all of the advice! i will work on the "attitude" issue. i promise! i won't make any future posts, or chats without thinking through what i am trying to express. Thanks so much, again, for each reply. There are some Truely great People here. Happy New Year to each of You!

cbt4me2006 -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 11:25:06 AM)
this one is a reply for Akasha, i have been following your site for a few years now. Wonderful advice, and i just emailed the admin about the name change. If i need to create a new account, with a nicer toned name, i will. if the admins can change it for me, then even the better. i will reply here with my "better/improved, and more realistic nickname. Wonderful advice, i don't know what i was thinking! Happy New Year to all, and thanks so much!

LadyBeckett -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 11:35:55 AM)
you forgot the "...on my knees" part in your come back apologetic post. [;)] Welcome to collarme. It only gets better from here.

veronicaofML -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 12:57:01 PM)
you forgot the "...on my knees" part in your come back apologetic post. Welcome to collarme. It only gets better from here. ============ 0hhhhhhhhh nice touch.......... oh my gawd i can feel YOUR Dominance sitting right here.

KatyLied -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 1:20:33 PM)
quote: except that there might be a whole lot of FAKERS on this board. Oh, you are gonna win a ton of board buds with that comment.

MHOO314 -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 1:29:09 PM)
ahem LadyMorgynn and MistressPassion---I have it ALL on you two, I am newly 54--and keep an 8 hour daily schedule with an enormous ( at the sake of getting wankers) energy and sex drive and wield one hell of a flogger---smiles, age dont mean shit... LMAO veronica?>> martinis please and card the young kids---LOL

KatyLied -> RE: Any Takers? a REAL Question (12/31/2005 1:43:42 PM)
Miss Hathor: quote: veronica?>> martinis please This is the evening for something a bit more sparkly.

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