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The Need to Cum - 12/22/2008 3:35:42 PM

SanDieoSub

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Hello Ladies,

I am posting to start a discussion about a male's need to cum... This is essentially what makes me (and I know it's different for everyone) submissive. Because I recognize that you ladies have this over me.

I think everyone will agree that a male's orgasm differs from that of a female's. A female's is much more complex and stimulating, while male's is really more mechanical, and routine. But males really need it regularly, it builds up for us, and women have the ability to take that away. Even in vanilla relationships, this is seen, because the woman can usually hold out longer than the male... Therefore the woman can take control.

This is where I will open it up for discussion. I don't really have any specific questions, other than how have you Mistresses utilized this? This phenomenon can coincide very well with chastity & humiliation.... I recall a wonderful post from a "MyChastity4U" about an experiment she conducted with her sub (look at her journal).
Other than that would just like to hear what you think.

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RE: The Need to Cum - 12/22/2008 3:51:02 PM

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i need to cum in my brain more than in my groin...it's like a fucking war in my brain

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RE: The Need to Cum - 12/22/2008 3:52:27 PM

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I will speak only for myself here and half of what you said isn't true for me. I need it and want it just as much as any man I have known or been with and if mine is more intense than his... somebody is doin something wrong! I sometimes think that what I might have over a man in this area is simply our dynamic's or what he is feeding into his brain and entertaining there.

I do not have machanincal or routine lovers. If I get one... he either changes or is gone real quick because of how I want my sex life to go. If mama isn't happy there... well you get the picture. I can get a build up or need just as any man.

When I am holding back.. it isn't because I have something over a man because his need is stronger... it is simply because I love that dynamic and most my men have loved it as well. I say... tease to please... and that goes both ways my dear.

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RE: The Need to Cum - 12/22/2008 6:24:32 PM

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If you search this forum, you will find a TREMENDOUS amount of material on the subject. Every Domme I've served has controlled my orgasms as part of the relationship.

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RE: The Need to Cum - 12/22/2008 6:27:40 PM

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I will post some observations based on my experience. To my knowledge these apply only to myself.

Until very recently I've brought myself to orgasm 4-6 times per day for the past 25 years at least.

Recently I went for 3 days without orgasm and quickly becambe miserable. My abdomen and testicles began to ache and by the end of the first 24 hours I had begun to leak continuously. The second day I was distracted constantly by my fullness and ended with me a sticky mess. At the end of the third day semen was appearing in my urine. I could scarecly function due to the pain and discomfort..

My point in posting is that everyone's experience is certainly different. I seriously doubt that many wankers are as prodigious as I or would have as little tollerance for abstaining.

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RE: The Need to Cum - 12/22/2008 6:49:36 PM

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quote:

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Until very recently I've brought myself to orgasm 4-6 times per day for the past 25 years at least.

Wow, those are some impressive numbers.
Davan

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RE: The Need to Cum - 12/23/2008 4:09:47 AM

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Maybe it's because I'm getting older, but honestly, cumming isn't really the first thing on my mind anymore. It was when I was younger, but not anymore. Oh, don't get me wrong; with the right woman, it might all I might be desiring if that was what she was pushing in our encounter together, but I've discovered I actually receive quite a bit of pleasure in actually serving her or in just being a part of her life. Sometimes, it can be something as simple as a woman saying: "You're mine." It doesn't really have to be all that extensive for me.

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RE: The Need to Cum - 12/23/2008 5:11:45 AM

malloves69

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love cumming

what guy doesnt ? for that matter women too

used to jackoff lots in the younger days too but now that im older i would rather share that experience with my mistress ..love the ways she gets me to cum

whether its a prostate massage /fisting .....milking my prostate ...or if she allows me to cum inside of her ..love doing with her

and yes i love when she cums too ...sharing that with each other is awesome indeed

the lady is amazing

have fun mal

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RE: The Need to Cum - 12/23/2008 5:54:16 AM

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I've been on a bit of a sexual slump, but this morning I got down right furious after my boy jacked off and had to immediately go to work. I realize it's unrealistic, really sort of stupid, and like he said, I can do it myself. But just the idea that I've gone for a while without thinking about sex much to suddenly being furious that I'm not having it made my day. Maybe my slump is over!

Do I need it as badly as men? Yes. And, just like men, I go through periods where I don't care, where I'd rather masturbate, or where I can't get enough of it. Having a penis, testicles, and physical ejaculation doesn't make a man's needs more or less important than a woman's. Sometimes when I go for long periods of time without sexual stimulation when I'm really craving it, I get sore too.

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RE: The Need to Cum - 1/1/2009 7:33:26 PM

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quote:

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Until very recently I've brought myself to orgasm 4-6 times per day for the past 25 years at least.

Wow, you must be really, really freakin blind by now.

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RE: The Need to Cum - 1/1/2009 7:44:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SanDieoSub

Hello Ladies,

I am posting to start a discussion about a male's need to cum... This is essentially what makes me (and I know it's different for everyone) submissive. Because I recognize that you ladies have this over me.

I think everyone will agree that a male's orgasm differs from that of a female's. A female's is much more complex and stimulating, while male's is really more mechanical, and routine. But males really need it regularly, it builds up for us, and women have the ability to take that away. Even in vanilla relationships, this is seen, because the woman can usually hold out longer than the male... Therefore the woman can take control.

This is where I will open it up for discussion. I don't really have any specific questions, other than how have you Mistresses utilized this? This phenomenon can coincide very well with chastity & humiliation.... I recall a wonderful post from a "MyChastity4U" about an experiment she conducted with her sub (look at her journal).
Other than that would just like to hear what you think.

First off, a females orgasm has the same mechanisms as a male. Second it develops from the same tissue inutero. Male it becomes a penis, in females a clitoris. Many men have a high sex drive and some dont. Many women have a high sex drive and some dont. But your statements are pretty general and not at all factual.

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