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BlackPhx -> RE: Super empathy (12/24/2008 7:43:57 AM)
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My thoughts..YMMV
Many who walk through life have empathy, the ability to touch other lives and know their pain, their joy, and share in it. To feel for them. We do it with family and friends constantly, and we do it on these fora to some degree regularly, but with the aid of their words, what they say and how they say it. Empathy is part of what allows us to live and function in a social environment.
Those who lack empathy completely often find themselves at odds with society. They walk through life untouched by feelings for anyone other than themselves. The sexual sadist who is fully paraphillic is one example. He feels nothing for his victim and rarely chooses victims who will enjoy what he does and does not see them as anything more than toys to be used up and broken, perhaps permanently. Generally speaking they tend to be classified as sociopathic personalities and/or serial killers.
Others who are not quite so far along that line may not have fully developed empathy but they still have some small amount that allow them to temper their desires with the survival (mental, physical and emotional) of their partners.
A super empath as you term it (Highly empathetic is how I would term it) would be someone who not only has the ability to feel for others but one who can actually FEEL for others. They can walk in a room and tell you who is feeling sad despite the outward behavior of the person, who is trembling internally with joy, who presents a clear and present danger for themselves or others, who is ill, etc. To me, in this life choice they are the Dom/ina who can dance with someone they have never touched before and know just how deep, how far that person needs to go, when to lighten up, to hit harder, they know where their dance partner is at all times, without asking. They can FEEL it, not just ask questions or watch the body. There are subs and masochists who will cry and protest everything that is done all the while loving it and needing to go even further..such Dom/ina are a blessing for them, as they can take them deeper, knowing that what is on the surface does not reflect the truth of what is within. They are also the sub or slave who can feed off of and feed into as well the Dominants need and go far beyond levels they would normally. The NEED within them to make the other feel the best they possibly can fuels their ability to do so.
These highly empathetic persons need to learn early in childhood to protect themselves to some degree. They need to learn to shield to keep from burning out, because they will continue to give of themselves until there is nothing left, their last dime, the shirt off their back, the last dregs of their energy and emotion. They will run and do for others until they drop in exhaustion because to even out and take care of the moods and needs of those around them becomes the driving force in their lives. Their need to have people like them, to do for others, to say the right thing, to be all things to all people around them will burn them out as surely as a gasoline shower and a lit match will, if they do not learn to shield, to stop and take care of their own needs as well.
Just my .50 for what it is worth... Your Mileage of Course may vary
poenkitten
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