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RE: Physical Control - 12/24/2008 2:55:41 PM

celticlord2112

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Is there any way to tilt the field in her favor?

If wrestling and grappling is part of the fun, look around your area for a reputable martial arts teacher offering a seminar on Chin Na submission techniques.

Learn a few of those and you (and she) will understand the truth of "size matters not."

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RE: Physical Control - 12/25/2008 9:02:36 AM

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Thanks all for the replies. I'd thought of martial arts before, but part of the problem is I know a bit myself, and have had practice fighting people who know martial arts (I'm a marine), so I fear it won't do much unless she gets really good at it.

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RE: Physical Control - 12/25/2008 9:19:56 AM

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Smaller women have been controlling larger men for thousands of years without using martial arts. You guys need to tune in to those time-tested methods of seduction and manipulation. If you want to get more extreme, you're better off using some kind of restraints (locked chastity belts produce interesting effects) or perhaps blackmail play (the most intense form is signing a marriage contract -- then if she divorces you she gets half your money and the kids).

Bottom line: if you're a big, tough, fit, straight guy who needs a partner who can beat you up in order to feel submissive, then think about switching your sexual orientation.

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RE: Physical Control - 12/25/2008 10:47:11 AM

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ORIGINAL: Tinkerer

My lady and I were having a discussion after wrestling around on the living room floor. She's frustrated because one on one there's no way she can physically control me. I'm a big, physical fit guy, and I won't pretend that if it weren't for my mental submissiveness to her she couldn't really make me do anything. Is there any way to tilt the field in her favor? I'd rather not have her waving a weapon at me, but is there was anything she could do or have or I could wear that would at least even the odds? I'v thought about martial arts, but as I'v had training myself I'm not sure how effective it would be.

So what do you all do about this? Or does this just mean that she has to get that much better at using what influence she has?

A very simple way for her to control you is the use of a shock collar. (think the planet of the apes) There are several companies that make excellent collars of this type. I have just modified a dog training collar, but that is not strong enough for some people.

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RE: Physical Control - 12/25/2008 10:48:15 AM

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he acquiesces, and in play games like that feels no need to demonstrate strength, for it takes a man of great strength to kneel--he acquiesces.

end of story.

You're missing the point. He's looking for a situation where she can physically control him without the need for him to "take a dive". You're entitled to your philosophy and interests, but he's clearly looking for something different. Acquiescence just isn't very exciting for a lot of people.

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RE: Physical Control - 12/25/2008 11:04:43 AM

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To even the playing field, you can approach it two ways: handicap yourself, or augment her ability.

To handicap yourself, some form of physical restriction is the most obvious. Several people have suggested forms of bondage that would work. Personally, I find the least handicap that still puts her in control is the most exciting. Something small like thumb cuffs, or one hand chained to your balls. Maybe a corset that only allows you shallow breathes; if you exert yourself much at all, you can't get enough air, so you can't resist her very strenuously. Perhaps you're naked and blindfolded, bondage mittens (or hands taped up so you can't get a good hold on her).

To augment her ability, I like the idea of a shock collar, particularly one that's locked onto your genitals. A long leash locked onto your balls would also give her a serious advantage, especially if you combine it with some other minor handicap of your own.

Here's an idea: give her a limited amount of time, say 2 minutes or so, where you let her do anything whatever she wants before you are allowed to resist. She's allowed to tie you, apply any form of bondage or device she wants until the countdown timer goes off. Adjust the time as necessary to make it competitive.

Good luck, and please let us know what you try, and how it works! I'm interested in the same kind of thing myself, although I've got no one to do it with right now.

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