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daredevil865 -> RE: Pictures (1/2/2006 6:45:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BalletBob Does your Boss belong to Collarme, to see your pictures? Now if he did belong to Collarme and did see your picture, wouldn't it give him away if he mentioned seeing your picture here? I do post my pictures and have done for some time. I do have my Session and Posed pictures in a Private Yahoo Photo Album, so people have to request to see them, and then I can decide who does. Exhibionist at heart, balletBob No I do not think my boss belongs to Collarme...besides his name is Robert...wait a minute.....Robert/Bob...if that is a wig you are wearing..could it be... DareDevil

LadyJC -> RE: Pictures (1/2/2006 7:13:43 AM)
I agree with you daredevil, I've told a lot of my vanilla friends, but those people are extremely respectful and don't hold a lot of judgement. My one friend told me he knew there was something different about me lately. When I first told him. Another friend is always asking questions, and informed me she was actually interested. (I may have curropted another individual...my job might be done here) 1 down a lot more to go. However in a workplace environment no I wouldn't divulge that out, although I do have a photo of me on b.com and you have to actively look for me on there in order to find it. So I'm not worried. LadyJC

MizSuz -> RE: Pictures (1/2/2006 7:23:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MHOO314 My picture is posted and has been for over a year and I work for one of the most conservative companies still---last year I shared I was Wiccan and I am still there--I think at times we are too afraid-- after all, My question would be, well Mr Employer, you found Me on such and such a site under a screen name----what were YOU doing out there? smiles--- Being outted at work can be a total pain in the ass. Someone at work got hold of my website while I was on vacation and the entire building went nuts. My site was getting 1000 hits a day from my office building. When I returned from vacation I got reprimanded simply because they assumed that I was soliciting for clients at work since it was a pro site and word got out (I wasn't). I didn't bother to tell them that there is a woman in the midwest who has made harassing me her hobby for the last few years, emailing and calling anybody who would listen to her, and for all I knew it could have been her who did it. Once it got out it was never allowed to die. I was smeared across industry message boards, people from the internet took it upon themself to email the owners of the company, the CEO, the VP of HR, my boss (I worked for an exec). My company's policy was 'as long as it's not at work it's her business' but I never got a promotion after that. I got more responsibility and more money (they were very generous with the raises), but they wouldnt officially promote me. Three years after being outted I had to leave because I realized I was never going to go anywhere at that job because of this outting. Now I'm starting all over again in a new job (and it's going very well). I've never been 'in' - not to anybody. I do, however, have a reasonable sense of appropriate and inappropriate conduct in the work place and I do NOT date or see people I work with (old Italian saying - don't get your bread and your meat from the same store). Didn't stop the BS from flying once word got out, though. I still put my pics on the internet but I took a good bit of the website down. With the current political climate, and since I haven't considered taking a new client in a number of years anyway, it's probably a good thing I did. I have no interest in being the poster child for fighting the current administration.

MasterLark -> RE: Pictures (1/2/2006 7:55:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daredevil865 How many wish they could post their picture??? Myself, I cannot after 28 years have too few years left .....and I need the pension ...and yes I would be let go if I did..... DareDevil Wish I could but know for certain I can't. Just the way it is.

nelbot -> RE: Pictures (1/2/2006 10:15:57 AM)
I post my photos (can't figure out how to use it as my avatar photo on the message boards but its in my profile). I have been occassionally outted to vanilla friends and I don't really worry too much about work, though there would be minor embarrassment at first. The thing that worries me more than anything in the world is my son's father outing me. He has lost custody and almost all visitation rights for good reason that I won't spell out but if armed with knowledge about my kinky endeavors (that would never in any way effect my son, hard limit) he might see it as a tool to make life miserable and I'm not sure that the conservative Virginia family court system would not similarly view "consensual slave" as much better than homosexuality (still an unspoken grounds for losing custody in Virginia). Taggard I respect your view that how could someone else control you if you don't have enough control over your situation to have to worry about being outed but it is not so cut and dried for all of us, there are a lot more grey areas out there and no man is an island unto himself. It is a very personal choice for people how they survive being kinky in a vanilla world, what the consequences for them might be and what they can live with, as for the control aspect that's all where the fit comes in. People that believe they can't afford to be outted try to pair up with other people that have no interest in making their proclivities public and vice versa. Just as how a person fits themselves into society is personal so is the power exchange relationship unique to the participants.

IrishMist -> RE: Pictures (1/2/2006 10:18:51 AM)
I don't post mine for the simple fact that I like to get to know someone before I see what they look like, so, I kind of do the same. My family knows about me, and most of those that I work with know ( I work at the county prosecutors office, so it makes for some really interesting discussions at times ). Sometimes I get the occassional rude or crude comment, I just smile and go on my merry way.

caitlyn -> RE: Pictures (1/2/2006 10:29:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty I don't want to sound harsh, but this is quite sad. How can you possibly expect anyone else to let you control them completely without having enough control of your own life to be honest to the world about who and what you are? Taggard ... aren't you some sort of dance performer, or something like that? People would probably be shocked if you weren't part of some sort of alternate lifestyle. [;)][;)]

DungeonSpain -> RE: Pictures (1/3/2006 12:55:49 AM)
Hello Focus We are probably being thick here, but we cannot find the place where you are able to upload a photo just to the profile ...plenty about avatars,but nothing about photos ...HELP !! Jane and Stewart www.bondagedominationspain.com

redheadedfire4u -> RE: Pictures (1/3/2006 1:21:00 AM)
I post pics simply because I choose to, should I be "outed" so to speak I feel it would not be a big deal. My family either know and choose to ignore it or they know and choose to uderstand it and speak openly about it. Live and let live policy. Most at work suspect or know and I have had few problems, to meet me is to know I am a little different lol. I do how ever have reservations about my upcomming change of employment. I will be very discreet while working in the mines as I feel perhaps it could cause me problems with some of the men who work in these places but I will not know untill I am up there. I think if it became commonly known that the new woman driving trucks on site was into kink, I may have more unwanted attention than I would choose to have, but then again I am over 40 so perhaps this would put some off, anyway I refuse to worry about what ifs, I will find out when I get there. warm smiles to all

TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: Pictures (1/8/2006 8:41:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: caitlyn Taggard ... aren't you some sort of dance performer, or something like that? World champion, in fact, but I hate to brag...wink quote: People would probably be shocked if you weren't part of some sort of alternate lifestyle. [;)][;)] That's probably true...I'm also a rather unusual individual...so I doubt anyone would be shocked that I stray outside the mainstream for my pleasures. Taggard

shigglyboom -> RE: Pictures (1/8/2006 9:15:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daredevil865 How many wish they could post their picture??? Myself, I cannot after 28 years have too few years left .....and I need the pension ...and yes I would be let go if I did..... DareDevil Everybody makes the decisions they do for unique reasons. I admire the people like Taggard and Caitlyn for their courage to be so public, and I admire people like Sunshine who have the courage to do important work even though it makes their lives less "convenient". It's something to be proud of to understand what's most valuable to you - be it career, family, social change, open disclosure, etc., - and have made the decision to prioritize that. Thanks for the reality check, Suz.

xxblushesxx -> RE: Pictures (1/8/2006 10:43:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daredevil865 How many wish they could post their picture??? Myself, I cannot after 28 years have too few years left .....and I need the pension ...and yes I would be let go if I did..... DareDevil I do...[;)]

Petruchio -> RE: Pictures (1/8/2006 5:28:24 PM)
quote: Myself, I cannot after 28 years have too few years left .....and I need the pension ...and yes I would be let go if I did..... quote: I would love to I wish he world could see me dress as a siisy slav e being whiped All good reasons why photo posting is not a good idea. quote: There are definitely ways that you can have a picture without showing your whole face, but still show who you are. I've tried that, but CM has resolutely refused my picture. Ironic, nudity would be fine, but an obscured face is not? Scru'em.

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