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personal slave/sub training - 12/25/2008 10:26:59 PM   
MistressDevina


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Status: offline 		I'm considering training a newbie being my sub/slave nonsexual playpal. This takes patience & time. First order is going out socially seeing how he exhibits sub type behavior. Most of this I've had to inform him how to behave he's not been trained not even being a vanilla gentlemen until I pointed out how to behave, ugh. I am not ready to invite him to my pvt space. In the interim how where do I proceed. This is trying me and I haven't even begun serious training. Advise what books he can read etc. Any experiences training a personal slave etc.
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RE: personal slave/sub training - 12/25/2008 10:54:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you are already saying ugh... how long before you say... fuck this shit?  This early on if I was having an ugh moment... I wouldn't waste my time.  I do think parents have a large roll in life and then as an adult people need to learn some social skills even as a vanilla.  If an adult doesn't have some skills... I have to wonder why that is.  The helpless submissive act... well.. it in my opinion is a manipulative ploy or something seriously wrong.

You have more something than I have because I am not willing to take on someone who is so clueless that they will frustrate me.  My time, efforts and calm life are worth too much to have it disrupted to such a degree.  Teach a man how I like things... sure.  Teach a man how to do things he doesn't know... sure... but to have to start from scratch in even vanilla social skills... not my job.  It sounds like you need to start with Miss Manners.

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RE: personal slave/sub training - 12/26/2008 2:23:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		I found this to be decent. Have him do some research about what it means to be a gentleman. See if he can find this site. I found it by googling "how to be a gentleman".

http://www.askmen.com/money/successful/41_success.html

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RE: personal slave/sub training - 12/26/2008 2:50:04 AM   
submgreenbay


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I found it by googling "how to be a gentleman".


I always found the goddess club site a good pointer for suggested behavior:

http://www.goddessclub.com/memberarea/sections/fetishdept/goddessworship.html

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RE: personal slave/sub training - 12/26/2008 3:04:56 AM   
E2Sweet


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ORIGINAL: Lockit

...You have more something than I have because I am not willing to take on someone who is so clueless that they will frustrate me.  My time, efforts and calm life are worth too much to have it disrupted to such a degree.  Teach a man how I like things... sure.  Teach a man how to do things he doesn't know... sure... but to have to start from scratch in even vanilla social skills... not my job...


I'd have to say this seems pretty fair. I don't think its wise at all for submissive types who are searching for a dominant to think its OK to come to the table not even possessing basic manners and expect to be considered high value by any stretch of the imagination. It really doesn't take all that much effort to figure most of the  basics out while you're in the queue to meet someone...

But, for the dominant types, there's the other side of this to sort of balance things out: Life indeed is like sex, the more you put in, the more you get out of it...

...I saw it on a T-shirt once...


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RE: personal slave/sub training - 12/26/2008 4:39:33 AM   
chezzy71


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Status: offline 		I do not have much experience in the lifestyle but i do have life experience which basically means i know the difference between right and wrong.Mistress has taken me under her beautiful wing and will mold me to her likeness.I am sure i will hit a bump in the road here and there but i am also sure that whatever it may be,it isn't something that can't be resolved or corrected.Hop[e everyone hads a blessed Christmas.

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RE: personal slave/sub training - 12/26/2008 4:55:26 AM   
beeble


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MistressDevina wrote:
I'm considering training a newbie being my sub/slave nonsexual playpal. [...] ugh [...] This is trying me and I haven't even begun serious training.

This seems a strange thing to be trying to do.  Why put so much effort into somebody who already makes you go `ugh'?  Are you really going to be able to change his ways?  Is it really worth the effort?  It doesn't sound like a satisfying relationship for either of you.

beeble.

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RE: personal slave/sub training - 12/26/2008 4:56:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		If I'm reading it right, I think a late Christmas present of a book on etiquette might be a step in the right direction.

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RE: personal slave/sub training - 12/26/2008 8:50:32 AM   
CatdeMedici


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Status: offline 		Perhaps there is a canyon between your reality and his fantasy or vice versa-what in the world does he have that you are willing to use ugh and trying in less than three sentences? For someone as experienced as you--maybe you need to step back and decide what the heck is the draw?

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RE: personal slave/sub training - 12/26/2008 10:10:53 AM   
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RE: personal slave/sub training - 12/26/2008 1:15:51 PM   
thetruemaster07


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Status: offline 		there are many reading on the internet for him to read one of them is the best slave training

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RE: personal slave/sub training - 12/26/2008 4:00:43 PM   
MmeGigs


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ORIGINAL: MistressDevina
Most of this I've had to inform him how to behave he's not been trained not even being a vanilla gentlemen until I pointed out how to behave, ugh.


If they don't come to me with a well-developed set of basic manners, I have no use for them.  I don't do remedial training. 

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RE: personal slave/sub training - 12/26/2008 9:10:06 PM   
dominalisa


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Status: offline 		If I were you, I wouldn't waste my time. But IF you think he's worth the time then see if he's sincere/serious about it. Give him some tasks to do to prove his sincerity and see how he does.

Also have him write an essay about what it means to be a gentleman or 50 things a gentleman can do or say when in the presence of a Lady.

Also make sure both you and him are on the same page about what each of you is looking for.

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