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Dismissed - 1/1/2006 1:37:07 PM

blushingberry

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Has anyone ever been with a Dom/Master for a certain amount of time and then suddenly been told that she is let go...out of her contract...no longer needed? If so I would be interested in knowing how the person dealt with this physically and mentally. Were you given a reason as why you were being "let go"? Did you both discuss it before you parted ways? Sorry if there are too many questions, just trying to get them all in one post instead of separate posts...thanks to all who respond.

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RE: Dismissed - 1/1/2006 4:17:22 PM

littleone35

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berry i am so sorry this happened to you. I know what you are goint trhough it happened to me also. The way i delt was it to remember the good time we had and i also founfd a new hobby went out and met some friends and searched for a Dom after a while if you need to talk more please mail me.

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RE: Dismissed - 1/1/2006 5:59:43 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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Generally its the same as vanilla deal with in break ups.

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RE: Dismissed - 1/1/2006 6:25:02 PM

MHOO314

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ok here I go asking for trouble, but the profile says you are new, little experience but some knowledge, yet you state here that after some time you were released---a tad of conflicting info, IMHO

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RE: Dismissed - 1/1/2006 10:05:03 PM

sub4hire

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Personally I never have. I have been in the situation with people coming to me after it happens to them though.
Basically I am not the one who dismissed them. So, I can't offer a lot of feedback. Unfortunately communication is the only way to go. If they gave no reason for dismissal then they can't communicate to begin with.
You probably will never have the answer you desire.

I'd find solice in my friends if I were you. They are the ones who care and can help you mentally.

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RE: Dismissed - 1/1/2006 10:20:24 PM

Quivver

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Dont let the Verbage confuse you.
Dismissed = something isnt working
no different then the soft serve world of your neighbors.
we'd all been there before we got here, things honestly are not all that different in my humble opinion.

Q

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RE: Dismissed - 1/2/2006 2:28:38 AM

mons

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oh my this is hard, i think that when a submissive, slave whom ever is let go it is so different then a vallina realtionship i am wrong or does everyone who is a dominant see they really depend on us for love protect and many things. i am not saying they are weaker then others but just like i love mysubmissive they we love stronger they others much stronger we have trust that is the most important bond we have first and formost so i say it is much worse to get over faster and for the person who did that wow so wrong so very wrong

mons aka jane

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RE: Dismissed - 1/2/2006 3:17:30 AM

swtnsparkling

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I was a collared sub to a Dom couple- real time, would go to their house just about every weekend. They decided to bring another sub into the family and collar her as well. me and this sub got along fabulously no jealousy at all we really cared for one another.
Then 1 month after her collaring we were both told to be online one night and we both were released online! not face to face - no explanations, no reasons. She went kinda nuts, I just sat stunned.
The Domina called me the next day to explain why and proceeded to tell me the Dom was very Ill with a terrible disease and made me promise to never mention it to the Dom that I knew of his "illness". I never did but I did find out that whole story was a barrel of dog crap. The Dom is alive well and healthy. anyway I found out the other sub was taken back secretly a short time later. Nice eh? how did i handle it?
i put a spell on them LOL serioulsy- im not sure how i managed though it, i think a big factor was my best friend was there for me every step.

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RE: Dismissed - 1/2/2006 4:04:22 AM

DeSade401smo

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quote:

ORIGINAL: blushingberry

Has anyone ever been with a Dom/Master for a certain amount of time and then suddenly been told that she is let go...out of her contract...no longer needed? If so I would be interested in knowing how the person dealt with this physically and mentally. Were you given a reason as why you were being "let go"? Did you both discuss it before you parted ways? Sorry if there are too many questions, just trying to get them all in one post instead of separate posts...thanks to all who respond.

This is a tough one, and I really feel for you. By not knowing the reason for your release, your mind waunders for reasons that may have nothing to do with the release. Have you asked your former owner the reason? Perhaps if you approach respectfully and ask for an honest answer you may find that the reason for the release was out of your realm. If there was something that you need to correct or work on and that was the reason, it will be helpful to know for your own personal growth.

Let your lifestyle friends help you out. Cry and lean on them. Please keep me updated on how you are doing.

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RE: Dismissed - 1/2/2006 11:14:18 AM

MistressOfGa

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mons

oh my this is hard, i think that when a submissive, slave whom ever is let go it is so different then a vallina realtionship i am wrong or does everyone who is a dominant see they really depend on us for love protect and many things. i am not saying they are weaker then others but just like i love mysubmissive they we love stronger they others much stronger we have trust that is the most important bond we have first and formost so i say it is much worse to get over faster and for the person who did that wow so wrong so very wrong
mons aka jane

I absolutely agree 100%. A D/s relationship is much more intense than a vanilla relationship, so breaking up/being dismissed/setting free (You choose the verbage) is much more painful than any other relationship break up. I have been in both vanilla and D/s and I must say that losing a submissive was one of the hardest things I had gone through in a very long time. The release was not mutual, he had asked for his release. I spent countless nights worrying about him, how he was doing, if he was alright and how could I help him adjust. I didnt stop caring or feeling protective of him simply because he no longer wore my collar. I didnt worry about my nilla break-ups. I could care less if they were ok, mentally, emotionally and physically. I knew that they could take care of themselves. I worried about my released submissive, BECAUSE he is a submissive. I hear my submissive now say all the time he is like a puppy trying to bring a newspaper through the doggy door sideways, he needs instructions. I couldnt imagine leaving him or deserting him. I would feel like I have left a wounded child on the side of the road. I would never feel this way about a vanilla relationship.

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RE: Dismissed - 1/2/2006 11:22:17 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa
A D/s relationship is much more intense than a vanilla relationship,

No, it's not.

For you it may be. But not universally.

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RE: Dismissed - 1/2/2006 3:12:38 PM

fastlane

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RE: Dismissed - 1/2/2006 3:58:59 PM

sweetpettjenny

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Maybe im different as well but i find D/s Relationships much harder to get over as there are so many more dynamics involved.

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa
A D/s relationship is much more intense than a vanilla relationship,

No, it's not.

For you it may be. But not universally.

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RE: Dismissed - 1/2/2006 4:02:33 PM

KatyLied

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quote:

Maybe im different as well but i find D/s Relationships much harder to get over as there are so many more dynamics involved.

A D/s relationship is more intense in some ways, but I think difficulty in getting over any relationship depends on the level of intimacy that was involved. A vanilla relationship can be as intimate as a D/s relationship. Again, depends on the people involved and what has been shared.

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RE: Dismissed - 1/2/2006 4:27:07 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetpettjenny

Maybe im different as well but i find D/s Relationships much harder to get over as there are so many more dynamics involved.

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa
A D/s relationship is much more intense than a vanilla relationship,

No, it's not.

For you it may be. But not universally.

Again
FOR YOU IT MAY BE. BUT NOT UNIVERSALLY.

If my sisters husband died tomorrow, could you look at her and tell her that her marriage wasn't as intense and won't be as hard to get over as your relationship with your master?

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RE: Dismissed - 1/2/2006 4:58:47 PM

MistressOfGa

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetpettjenny

Maybe im different as well but i find D/s Relationships much harder to get over as there are so many more dynamics involved.

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa
A D/s relationship is much more intense than a vanilla relationship,

No, it's not.

For you it may be. But not universally.

Again
FOR YOU IT MAY BE. BUT NOT UNIVERSALLY.

If my sisters husband died tomorrow, could you look at her and tell her that her marriage wasn't as intense and won't be as hard to get over as your relationship with your master?

I was speaking of my own experience. IMO a D/s relationship is more intense than any vanilla relationship that *I* have had. I dont expect anyone to agree with me, but that is how I feel and that is what I posted. I am not a big believer in "Universal" beliefs, so I wouldnt presume to speak for anyone else on these boards. So when I make comments like the one quoted above, it is based on my own opinion, I didnt think it was necessary to point out that I was only speaking about how *I* feel.

As far as your sisters husband goes, I would never tell her that. I would never tell anyone who just lost their loved one through death that their pain is not as intense as mine. But we werent talking about death, we were talking about a D/s vs. vanilla relationship in general.

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RE: Dismissed - 1/19/2006 11:18:42 AM

hazeydaisy

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Sorry to hear about your problem

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RE: Dismissed - 1/19/2006 12:17:39 PM

veronicaofML

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"You're Fired", someone pleased him more!

Life is full of competition....except it and excel!

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he he

yeah
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"i wanna divorce"

it happens
like my 1st domme
15 months
and out i went
aw hell
anyone anywhere...can be replaced

it aint fair
it hurts
but somehow ya get up and start over

take care

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RE: Dismissed - 1/19/2006 5:09:19 PM

BitaTruble

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quote:

ORIGINAL: blushingberry

Has anyone ever been with a Dom/Master for a certain amount of time and then suddenly been told that she is let go...out of her contract...no longer needed? If so I would be interested in knowing how the person dealt with this physically and mentally. Were you given a reason as why you were being "let go"? Did you both discuss it before you parted ways? Sorry if there are too many questions, just trying to get them all in one post instead of separate posts...thanks to all who respond.

I've never actually been 'released' without knowing it was going to happen and was in agreement it was the best course for both of us. I did, however, spend some time on line several years ago speaking with a Dom. I thought we might have a chance together and wanted to take some further steps towards that end. I asked him for references, which he, apparently, gave to me quite willingly then when he found out I actually checked those references, he dumped me because I didn't 'trust' him. lol Everything happens for a reason. If he hadn't dumped me, I'd never have been able to meet with Himself and that's been 9 years of bliss for me. So all's well that ends well.

Celeste

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RE: Dismissed - 1/20/2006 4:12:13 PM

blushingberry

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Thank you all for your opinons and advice. I didn't mean for this to sound whiny or pouty, i was just curious as to whether others had ever experienced it. Thanks again!

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