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Sensual Domme - 12/28/2008 1:04:05 PM   
MadamBell


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Status: offline 		I am in search of some answers to my questions. I am a rather new Domme and I have my likes and dislikes, however I am feeling that I am naturally a sensual person and I want that to come across in my sessions but I also want to keep my strickness. I am having a hard time combining the two. Any ideas? Madam Bell

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RE: Sensual Domme - 12/28/2008 1:22:37 PM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		You can be strict in your expectations and commands, yet sensual in style.  Perhaps concentrate more on seduction and rewards/witholding rewards rather than physical punishments.

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RE: Sensual Domme - 12/28/2008 1:37:04 PM   
MistressRouge


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Status: offline 		Hello Madam Bell :)

I too, am a sensual person by nature, so to inflict my sadism whilst intermingling my sensual touch, is a great combination.

So I label myself as a sensual sadist.

The sensual moments actually enhance it for the sub slave, especially in those restful moments inbetween activities, to punish, yet caress and soothe with the same hand that has inflicted pain, is totally ok, and do'able.

Be yourself always, and your style with flow naturally, a personal stamp of you!


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ORIGINAL: MadamBell

I am in search of some answers to my questions. I am a rather new Domme and I have my likes and dislikes, however I am feeling that I am naturally a sensual person and I want that to come across in my sessions but I also want to keep my strickness. I am having a hard time combining the two. Any ideas? Madam Bell


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RE: Sensual Domme - 12/28/2008 1:43:52 PM   
tornaway


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Status: offline 		      Strictness and sensuality can be well played together .    Because you've chosen the Domme path does not mean you cannot maintain the person you are while having someone under your control - exactly the way you want them .
 
     Sensuality is a great addition to any interaction .    Enjoy !

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RE: Sensual Domme - 12/28/2008 2:30:55 PM   
MsHoney2you


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Status: offline 		Great!  If sensuality is part of your core then enjoy it.  In the beginning the hardest part is finding YOUR way, what makes YOU happy then matching that with submissives you can practice on to obtain a comfortable place in your mind.  I have found when doing things the way I saw others do it, if it did not 'fit' me, I stopped.  What I do with my subs is important to me and to them, I want the experience to be enjoyable on both sides.  I too am a sensual Dominant and truly enjoy my twist of sadism.  It must be working since the subs keep coming back! 
Ms Honey

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RE: Sensual Domme - 12/28/2008 2:43:30 PM   
DrkJourney


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Status: offline 		oh I am totally a sensual domme....the original "cock tease" I believe I was called before....lol

you can punish with sensuality, I've made them cry by just talking and touching....more than one way to inflict pain and punishment....lol

but I'll never give up my paddles...lol

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RE: Sensual Domme - 12/28/2008 11:59:22 PM   
DelilahDeb


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Status: offline 		Verbal strictness, the dominant interaction and command presence, that is a place to begin. Depending on your preferences for formality, you may choose a "high protocol" style of personal interaction, while choosing to limit the sorts and styles of pleasurable intensities that you inflict on your sub/s. One of mine is a self-described pain slut, and I am bound by my own ethics as well as comfort zone not to do physical damage to him; yet, he has expressed not only (extremely sub-spacy) content after a session with me, but having been places he's never been before. Of course, every relationship is its own entity, so some of this effect is mutual fit. But an example of my strictness with him, and my command when we play, is a session recently when I began early by inserting a butt plug—and after a lengthy and complex session, I was quite high on endorphins, and gave him permission to get dressed. And as I drifted earthwards, I recalled the butt plug, and gloved up and summoned him to remove it…and had my hand down his briefs looking for it when he realized what I was after, and said that he had taken it out. He had assumed that my permission/instruction to get dressed had meant to undo everything. And he apologized promptly and again driving me home, and again by email the next day. (Yes, he paid for it, but not in "punishment". Mostly, it was an object lesson for him that, even thoroughly scene-high, I had intended him to be sitting on it until *I* removed it.)

Anyway, I wish you well on your domina's journey. It is always a voyage of self-discovery, and your recognition of preferred style is an excellent place to begin.

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RE: Sensual Domme - 12/29/2008 5:32:25 AM   
malloves69


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Status: offline 		you can always wear a big strapon  being a sub male i think that can be pretty sensual when you walk into a room wearing a big one between your sexy legs  you and the sub both know where thats going  have fun mal

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RE: Sensual Domme - 12/29/2008 10:07:34 AM   
MadamBell


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Status: offline 		Wow- Thank you to all that replied- all of you have very good stuff for me to think about and toss around! I am very greatful for your insight. Very nice stuff! Thanks all of you.

So I know what I like and what I dont like and I get the tease and control thing but I run agianst the wall when I need to come up with new activities that also reflect me. Is this normal or am I missing some secrect activity hand book lol. Madam Bell

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RE: Sensual Domme - 12/29/2008 10:28:39 AM   
SimplyIsaac


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Sit on our face. Slap our nuts. Best of both worlds.

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RE: Sensual Domme - 12/29/2008 11:00:47 AM   
Lockit


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MadamBell

Wow- Thank you to all that replied- all of you have very good stuff for me to think about and toss around! I am very greatful for your insight. Very nice stuff! Thanks all of you.

So I know what I like and what I dont like and I get the tease and control thing but I run agianst the wall when I need to come up with new activities that also reflect me. Is this normal or am I missing some secrect activity hand book lol. Madam Bell


You can watch porn or go to a site that has bdsm stories or even google serious sites on just about any type of sex or sexual turn on.   Think about sensation... what would this feel like?  Get curious... experiment.  Try rabbit fur... or a feather... something that pokes... or scratches... vibrates... blindfolds... smacker do dads... lol..  Sometimes you just have to play and learn and get comfy.  It all comes in time... don't worry... have fun! 

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RE: Sensual Domme - 12/29/2008 10:11:30 PM   
AlexandraLynch


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Status: offline 		I myself tend to have a very sensual style. I consider myself a control domme rather than a sadist. I personally enjoy being out with my boy with him in chastity restraints and under the protocol to ask permission to do quite a lot of things, but under the understanding he has to do so under the radar of the other people in the store, or the restaurant, or whatever. Do I enjoy spanking him? Absolutely. But I enjoy far more the moment when his submission to my control is naked in his eyes.

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RE: Sensual Domme - 12/30/2008 12:38:26 AM   
BondageBarbieX


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Status: offline 		I love sensual /pleasure Dom's and DaddyDom's the best ...nothing better IMO

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RE: Sensual Domme - 12/30/2008 12:59:34 AM   
MsMillgrove


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Status: offline 		Easiest way to maintain strictness while engaging in the sensual play you enjoy is your tone of voice.  Can you speak with authority? 
It's not that harsh, barking command you hear from the drill instructor at boot camp.  It's much more subtle and feminine. 

Practice in front of a mirror, Repeat a typical instruction several times.  Real simple one like Kneel Before Me. 

If you listen to yourself, maybe even tape yourself.. you'll hear the inflections.  You voice should never go up at the end of the sentence.. at the last sound. Put pauses in between the words.  If you sound high and breathy, try speaking from the diaphram.. there are great instructions available in books or online for learning to use your speaking voice as an instrument.  To some it comes naturally, but others need to learn. 

Tape yourself and see what you think? 

Imagine how many ways you can say, "Tea, please."  With practice you can make those two words sound like a caress, an order, an insult. You can convey disappointment, exitement, sadness, exhaustion, fury, disdain, contempt, adoration, joy, silliness.  Try it.  

With the right tone in your voice, you can bring your sub to instant obedience, make him smile, make him proud of himself or leave him close to tears. 

Best wishes to you, have fun!  

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RE: Sensual Domme - 12/30/2008 8:06:01 AM   
LadyMedusa


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsMillgrove

Easiest way to maintain strictness while engaging in the sensual play you enjoy is your tone of voice.  Can you speak with authority? 
It's not that harsh, barking command you hear from the drill instructor at boot camp.  It's much more subtle and feminine. 

Practice in front of a mirror, Repeat a typical instruction several times.  Real simple one like Kneel Before Me. 

If you listen to yourself, maybe even tape yourself.. you'll hear the inflections.  You voice should never go up at the end of the sentence.. at the last sound. Put pauses in between the words.  If you sound high and breathy, try speaking from the diaphram.. there are great instructions available in books or online for learning to use your speaking voice as an instrument.  To some it comes naturally, but others need to learn. 

Tape yourself and see what you think? 

Imagine how many ways you can say, "Tea, please."  With practice you can make those two words sound like a caress, an order, an insult. You can convey disappointment, exitement, sadness, exhaustion, fury, disdain, contempt, adoration, joy, silliness.  Try it.  

With the right tone in your voice, you can bring your sub to instant obedience, make him smile, make him proud of himself or leave him close to tears. 

Best wishes to you, have fun!  


This really is the best way to learn...

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