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RE: Confused - 1/7/2009 4:09:29 PM

neastsub

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Thanks to all who offered me advice. No, I'm not afraid I'm going to get my heart ripped out because I feel as though my Goddess accepts me for who I am (her slave and someone she's also built a friendship with). I'll always have a special bond with her. After all, she accepted me into her life. I've already learned so much. And I know I'll always have continue to strive to be the best I can for her. It's an ongoing journey and one that I'm grateful to have.

Rather than suppressing my feelings, I'm leaning toward telling her how I feel. Is it risk? Yes. Is it something I'm scared about? Not really. She's always been understanding with me.

I love our communication. Everyone has different desires, fetishes they enjoy ... etc .. and I'm no different. One of the things I enjoy most with Goddess is just sitting by her feet and just talking about virtually anything (my submission, everyday things in the world). That's how I think I will approach the subject. Just going to let my feelings out and tell her how much I appreciate being one of her slaves. She means so much to me. There's no better feeling for me than seeing her smile and know that I've done something to make her proud.

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RE: Confused - 1/9/2009 2:54:47 PM

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I can't see any harm in telling her how you feel as long as you appreciate that she may not feel the same.
She might feel more for you than she does a lot of her clients and it's not always easy for a pro domme to make vanilla relationships even if she wanted to.
It does sound to me as if she at least likes you if your relationship isn't strictly professional and you never know what might happen in the future.
I certainly wouldn't advise you to seek another as you seem to have a good match which is pretty special.
The money is irrelevant as long as you can afford to pay it. Some wives cost a lot more and give less. It's not broke so don't try to fix it just be honest.

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RE: Confused - 1/9/2009 3:14:11 PM

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It is very normal for men to fall in love with any woman who meets their emotional and physical needs, even if she only does so for a fee. You are certainly not the first man to fall for a pro, and I would be very surprised if you were the first client to fall in love with this pro. Such situations can end well or poorly depending on the people involved.

You can tell her verbally or not as you see fit that you are in love with her; your behavior has been making your feelings clear for quite some time. She is well aware that you are emotionally involved and that your relationship is not strictly business; the behavior you're describing does not leave the matter in doubt.

If you feel the need to confront her verbally with your feelings as well, you might first want to ask yourself why you feel that is necessary. Usually people feel the need to verbalize feelings because they want change in a relationship; the reason they hesitate is that they know that "change" doesn't always mean "change for the better". I am sure there are professionals present who could tell you how they would react if one of their once- or twice-a-month clients came to them with a declaration of love; perhaps that might give you some perspective?

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RE: Confused - 1/9/2009 7:46:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

It is very normal for men to fall in love with any woman who meets their emotional and physical needs, even if she only does so for a fee. You are certainly not the first man to fall for a pro, and I would be very surprised if you were the first client to fall in love with this pro. Such situations can end well or poorly depending on the people involved.

You can tell her verbally or not as you see fit that you are in love with her; your behavior has been making your feelings clear for quite some time. She is well aware that you are emotionally involved and that your relationship is not strictly business; the behavior you're describing does not leave the matter in doubt.

If you feel the need to confront her verbally with your feelings as well, you might first want to ask yourself why you feel that is necessary. Usually people feel the need to verbalize feelings because they want change in a relationship; the reason they hesitate is that they know that "change" doesn't always mean "change for the better". I am sure there are professionals present who could tell you how they would react if one of their once- or twice-a-month clients came to them with a declaration of love; perhaps that might give you some perspective?

Thank you for your message. Everything I read gives me different perspectives on how to look at things. Thanks again.

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RE: Confused - 1/9/2009 8:06:13 PM

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I have to agree with the many post here-in some ways it is a similar relationship as therapist-client. You have strong feelings for her and she will respect and understand this, she is a Pro. This may have happened to her before. However, it may be very likely that she may not share your feelings. You are better served finding a relationship Domme in this situation and I’m sure she will help, she is a Pro after all.

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