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offered this new lifestyle - 12/29/2008 11:28:59 PM   
angelbaby22222


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Status: offline 		HI,

I have some questions about this topic.  Can I be very submissive and Dominate ....very sub with my master..and very Dom when I am not with him...  He wants me submissive to him ....(which I am sorry I am totally lost in the huge directory of information as to what exactly submissive is)  I would do anything he asks of me...  But then he wants me strong dominate around others....He says he wants me in this Italian lifestyle...since he is from Italy....

Please let me know your thoughts on this ...thank you

Angelbaby
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RE: offered this new lifestyle - 12/29/2008 11:35:36 PM   
hopeful68


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Status: offline 		Angelbaby.. I am very submissive, in almost every situation.  My trainer/first Dom taught me to be that dominant person when I was not with him.  He allowed me to see that I could do it and that I could trust myself.  He expected me to be in control of my situation and myself, when I was away from him..

I am sorry, but I cannot describe submission to you.  I can only relate my personal experiences.  If you wish to talk further email me and we can talk further.  I can tell you that it is very intense, and for me, a desire to please my Dominant, in everyway.

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RE: offered this new lifestyle - 12/30/2008 12:16:26 AM   
IronBear


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quote:

Can I be very submissive and Dominate ....very sub with my master..and very Dom when I am not with him...


Of course you can. It's called being a switch.


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RE: offered this new lifestyle - 12/30/2008 1:05:08 AM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		Yeah, switcho in Italian.

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RE: offered this new lifestyle - 12/30/2008 3:18:34 AM   
BondageBarbieX


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Status: offline 		Interruttore  is what you are  

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RE: offered this new lifestyle - 12/30/2008 3:25:15 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Of course it can be done. I know many who have done it. I know many who don't see it as switching either because they separate Topping (the physical acts) from Dominating (the mental control in a relationship).

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RE: offered this new lifestyle - 12/30/2008 5:39:34 AM   
JustDarkness


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you sound like a normal person...dominant when not with your Dominant..


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RE: offered this new lifestyle - 12/30/2008 6:08:58 AM   
angelbaby22222


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Status: offline 		That is exactly how I am...I guess that is why I was so lost ...I love being submissive..but I am also very very strong ..dominate when not with my Master.  

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RE: offered this new lifestyle - 12/30/2008 1:11:43 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Personality is not the same as orientation, and being submissive in a relationship and dominant in general character is not the same as being "a dominant" or "switch."

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RE: offered this new lifestyle - 12/30/2008 4:51:04 PM   
AmbrosialWench


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Status: offline 		You speak of being in the Italian lifestyle. My step family is Greek, very similar to the Italian family structure. Women/mothers are very out spoken and typically are never yes women. However, they understand that in the household the king is the father and he has the final authority. Perhaps this is also what he is referring to.

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RE: offered this new lifestyle - 12/30/2008 5:41:54 PM   
mc1234


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Status: offline 		If I wasn't dominant in most of my life, my family would run amok.  lol  But for my dominant, I melt.  It's a beautiful dichotomy. 


quote:

Yeah, switcho in Italian.


ROFL!!  Thanks for a good laugh...

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RE: offered this new lifestyle - 12/30/2008 7:00:39 PM   
SteelofUtah


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Status: offline 		But you aren't "Dominate" you are "Dominant" You Dominate someting and you are Dominant as a person

Just think of it this way you are not a submit. you are a Submissive, submit is what you do.

Sorry for the English Lesson....... Okay everyone Carry on.

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RE: offered this new lifestyle - 12/30/2008 7:47:49 PM   
T1981


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mc1234

If I wasn't dominant in most of my life, my family would run amok.  lol  But for my dominant, I melt.  It's a beautiful dichotomy. 


A bueatiful sentiment, thank you!

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RE: offered this new lifestyle - 12/30/2008 8:18:30 PM   
mc1234


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Status: offline 		  You're welcome!

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RE: offered this new lifestyle - 12/30/2008 9:04:35 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		Dominant and submissive are descriptors; they aren't really sufficient unto themselves to express something.  Imo, they ought have a noun after them.  Examples:  Dominant manager (As in the workforce), submissive partner (As in your relationship).  Perhaps looking at things with more clearly elucidated identifiers would help you?
Best wishes,
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