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RE: What have you learned? - 12/31/2008 12:04:13 AM

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Mostly, I learned that "your kink is not my kink" YET...
I used to think so many things crazy, and not sexy, but now, there are very few things I absolutely cannot conceive. Though, I still consider myself kink light, I've basically learned to almost never say never. M

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RE: What have you learned? - 12/31/2008 1:58:01 AM

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Let's see.. I've learned what furries are.. had no clue before CM .. and swirling was a new term as well. Also, slosh .. had no idea what that was and when I found out discovered it was something I've been doing for several years.. lol. Also, have gotten some ideas on different ways to use familiar toys, so that's a good thing. Mostly I've gotten some gems which reinforced certain beliefs, changed others or caused me to view things in a fresh way with a different perspective and many, many which have enhanced my view of my fellow man. I've also had tons of laughter reading the RS boards even though I don't participate all that often down there. Some people just cause me to laugh my ass off at their creativity and love of fun in life and I appreciate those souls a great deal. :D

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RE: What have you learned? - 12/31/2008 4:33:30 AM

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Happy New Year to you

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ORIGINAL: Reigna

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ORIGINAL: MistressRouge

CM is one of many messageboards/forums that I frequent, and I must say, it has more "keyboard bullies" as the lovely Dr Phil quoted on his show today then any of the other sites.

Some of the private BDSM message boards are positively vicious. I find this board to be, in comparison, wonderfully diverse--all kinds of kinksters here--and with quite a few people whose viewpoints closely parallel my own--people willing to look at the good, the bad, and the ugly, and who think that Your Kink Is OK. Also, lots of what Usako said upthread. Myself, I mostly ignore keyboard bullies (great term, despite the source--Dr. Phil, yech!) wherever I find them, although there are a couple of topics on which I will go to the mat.

This site is more of a serious tone to it, however isnt BDSM/fetishes/ the "lifestyle" about fun and enjoying, embracing it in a positive manner?

Absolutely not. It's about power. Wipe that grin off your face.

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RE: What have you learned? - 12/31/2008 5:05:36 AM

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I've been learning exactly what I came here to learn. Lots of new terms for things that I've been doing for years. ie. "Cuckolding Mistress" or "Poly" sounds SO much nicer than "Cheating Bitch".

As mentioned before, I have learned that even in BDSM, there are many different ways to do things, but most people still believe that their way is the best. That's cool. I'm an artist and a crafts person. I've known that all my life. There are many techniques to just about any endeavor, one just has to try them all until they find what works best for them.

I have found that people are quite free with information if the OP sounds sincere in a personal quest for opinions instead of sounding like a slacker asking others to do their required research tasks for them.

I have learned to be more tolerant of the kinks of others. Have even tried a few things that I never thought I would enjoy, but did find them amusing. I still have some tolerance issues to deal with, but I'm working on them.

Hey! It's a New Year! We should all try something new.

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RE: What have you learned? - 12/31/2008 8:47:07 AM

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BitaTruble,

I learned something new today, thanks!

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RE: What have you learned? - 12/31/2008 9:55:39 AM

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So much!

While I can point to few specific instances, the amount of what I have absorbed and mental processing I have reached are evident as I contrast where I am today with where I was years ago.

Specific examples of what I have learned include safety related issues (some types of dog foods are hazardous for humans, putting tobasco in the urethera can create permanent scar tissue) which relay the greater message that what might seem to be a fun idea might instead be a bad idea without adequate research.

I recall posts by one poster in particular which introduced me to the concept of processing in BDSM, and demonstrated the overlap between BDSM and spiritual practices.

Various threads have broadened my perspective and made me more tolerant towards others with respect to practices such as public play or financial domination.

Forced activity of choice can be considered forced even if desired.

One of the ways BDSM has broadened my thinking is by taking me to social circles I would otherwise have not encountered.

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RE: What have you learned? - 12/31/2008 3:54:49 PM

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I will let you know once I have stopped learning.

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RE: What have you learned? - 12/31/2008 5:32:17 PM

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What I've learned here? A mistress doesn't have to be a size zero or wear four inch spike heels to be a mistress. I don't have to give up liking to have sex with guys. I don't have to be a bitch if I'm not so inclined. I've learned a lot of words for a lot of things, and learned a lot of what not to do through other people's examples.

I've really learned to trust my instincts and my experience, that even here it will, with appropriate modifications, work fine.

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RE: What have you learned? - 12/31/2008 7:12:48 PM

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This is a repost of something I posted recently elsewhere regarding things I've learned in this online community:

1: It's possible to become emotionally invested in folks online.

2: I have learned: Domiants are people and not two dimentional cardboard cutouts wearing boots.

3: It's possible to be subby without a Domme, to be property without an owner.

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RE: What have you learned? - 12/31/2008 9:57:19 PM

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I've definitely learned to be more open-minded.

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RE: What have you learned? - 1/1/2009 12:38:53 AM

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Nearly every time I visit the boards, I find out something new. Especially from links posted.
Where to find amazing corsets, what to buy at Domme Depot, how to care for leather, history of old guard.

Just the other day a poster mentioned the author of article on caning technique. I browsed to it.. and came back to post the link; it was a superb article.

I also learned that the first replies to a question can sometimes be sarcastic, nasty, thoughtless. So that anyone who does ask a question should probably wait til a page is filled before they read responses. Otherwise they might feel discouraged.

Discovered too how many people enjoy flirting with each other in the midst of a thread, or refer to "inside" jokes or references that confuse me.

Have found perspectives on issues that were different from mine, and enjoyed seeing wide ranges of opinions.
I made some good connections with others through their posts and gained a lot of personal information about strangers I'll never meet.

Probably the most important thing I learned, just for myself, was that to realize that I now think awhile .. take a pause...before replying. So far, I haven't said anything in haste. For me, this is good news, to affirm that I finally have near total control over my temper and/or my excitability factor. Nice to realize I finally won that particular personal battle.

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