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lusciouslips19 -> RE: What are the characteristics that Dom/me's seek in a submissive/slave (1/1/2009 8:50:21 AM)
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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida
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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19
I just drop my hankie and put my hand to my head and talk about the vapors.
LOL that made me laugh. I do know what you mean with regard to the "woe is me" attitude. Is that what you were referring to in your OP?
no that was a joke in reference to the 'captain save a ho" reference that LA was talking about. My OP is sort of out of context because it was borrowed from a post I made on another thread. A thread where a person can try to be helpful but is getting nowhere with their help. It was getting rather frustrating but it did start me wondering about the characteristics of a submissive and what Dominants may be looking for.
My personhood itself is quite a dichotomy. In some ways strong and in other ways not a strong. I prefer to have a Dominant I can lean on. There was a time I had it all together. A friend of mine said there was a time there wasnt anything i couldnt do. Right now I am going through a lot with unemployment and a sick mother. But I look back at the time where there was nothing I couldn't do and I was a stressed out mess. Lashing out at everyone. I am not saying that life isn't stressful right now. There is a search for the happy medium between being in charge and not being in charge but still successful.
But in many ways, I am strong and brash. I am very vocal about my wants and feelings and opinions. When i was still in the process of finding out what makes a submissive, i was listening to all the cliches that said I had to fall to the ground and be a doormat. I thought,"I must be an awful submissive". But through growth, and learning here and acceptance of myself and R/T friendships and relationships with Dominants and submissive's I have learned that I have the characteristics of a good submissive's because of my style of being vocal and communicating what's going on in my head and body. A dominant is able to keep me emotionally and physically safe because of the feedback i give.
A Dominant poster on this thread said he wanted someone who would read his mind and do what he needed before he said anything. It is possible to get into a routine where I can anticipate my Dominants needs. Or he can sit there patiently while I figure it out ( really, that happened at dinner last night)! But really, no one is a mind reader and we would all be foolish to think that someone can just no what we need without us telling them.
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