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I found him - 1/2/2006 7:07:11 PM

MaitresseEden

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For many years, I have looked for Mr. Right, the perfect man who was submissive to me, and able to please me in the ways that I needed to be pleased. I wanted someone who would fit into my vanilla life, my family, and my friends, be able to integrate himself fully into my life while still being submissive and dedicated to me. My perfect compliment. Someone who loves the woman and the Mistress and they are integrated together.

I am pleased to say I have finally found him, and I found him here on this site.

I have spents years sorting through profiles on various sites, and it was his well written one caught my eye, and when I saw he had added me to his favorites, I perused it.. and simply sent him two words.. "Wonderful Profile".. he replied in detail, showing that he had paid attention to my profile and my posting.. and we have been inseperable ever since. The holidays we spent together, and meeting families....and we have both fallen head over heels with each other. He is my lover, my soul mate and my friend, the ellusive dragonfly who landed gently on my finger and who I am looking forward to growing old with, and we are slowly making plans toward starting our lives together. He fills me with happiness and his complete and total submission to me feeds my soul.

I just wanted to let those of you still searching and still seeking that it does happen, and often when you least expect it and it DID happen here on collarme. It only takes honesty and perseverence, and the right one will come along. I wish everyone the same good fortune.

Much love,
Ms. Eden

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RE: I found him - 1/2/2006 7:24:40 PM

LadyHibiscus

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Many congratulations!!! I wish you even more happiness in the future!

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RE: I found him - 1/2/2006 9:14:34 PM

Misstoyou

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A fairy-tale ending...congratulations!

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RE: I found him - 1/2/2006 11:27:24 PM

veronicaofML

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MaitresseEden<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<

yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeehaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaw

i am SO happy for Ya.

i am always happy to hear someone found their happiness.

now if You 2 get through the honeymoon phase...it will be much better.......

have a blessed year of '06.

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RE: I found him - 1/2/2006 11:52:41 PM

BeachMystress

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Oh Eden, how wonderful! Isn't it the BEST feeling in the whole world to have finally found the one who completes you and submits out of love. I was lucky enough to find mine at a local party. It's been an incredible journey. I do suggest that both of you start blogs or a diary. It is wonderful to go back and read how things have gone over the past year!
My Blog Mine takes five clicks on "older" to get to the beginning.. Which details the party I first met him. At the time I didn't know he would turn out to be so special in my life, but I did know our experience had been special.
toyboy's blog (his is only one page. I'm a more prolific writer than he is.)

We wish you both health, happiness and the fortitude to overcome those obsticles that are unique to BDSM relationships!

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RE: I found him - 1/3/2006 5:19:30 AM

FTopinMichigan

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It's always very nice to hear a good story for a change. Thanks for sharing yours, Ms. Eden. Sometimes the personals sites get such a bad rap, and it's wonderful to hear the success stories. It DOES offer hope to all of us.

I wish you two the very best!

K

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RE: I found him - 1/3/2006 5:29:03 AM

MstrssPassion

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It does take time & it will happen when you least expect it... truer words could not be written.

I too was without a partner for many years.

People complain about the frustration they have in finding a partner, sometimes after only looking for a week or so. Finding your true one will require real dedication & commitment to goals. Wavering from those goals is tempting but the rewards of finding that special one is more than words can describe.

I wish you & yours all the best. What better way to start off the new year!

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RE: I found him - 1/3/2006 1:12:25 PM

BlkTallFullfig

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I'm thrilled to read this MaitresseEden... I wish you continued love, peace, and happiness.
It also gives me hope for my own future. M

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RE: I found him - 1/3/2006 1:18:05 PM

Oumae

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Wishing you a long and happy future together.

Oumae

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RE: I found him - 1/3/2006 1:48:57 PM

MHOO314

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My dear MaitressEden, I have read your posts for a year and enjoyed your insights--I wish you all the very best, throwing roses to Y/you both--I hope to be able to say the same--your words of patience and diligence, communication and honesty should be lessons for U/us all.

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RE: I found him - 1/3/2006 3:32:32 PM

cloudboy

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It seems your soulmate stole your profile along with the rest of you.

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RE: I found him - 1/3/2006 5:49:52 PM

MaitresseEden

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Thanks Beach, I made a mistake once by blogging my relationship and found that I ended up trying to live my relationship on other peoples terms, not to mention the judgement and hardships that can occur if blogs fall in the wrong hangs, so I think I will skip that part. Personal journals however are an intregral part of my life, and I treasure them dearly.

I don't forsee having to overcome the commone obstacles a BDSM realtionship has, as we both choose to NOT have it define our relationship, it is merely one facet of our multifaceted relationship, not the primary dynamic of it. All relationships take work regardless of the structure of it,so on that note, we will need patience and understanding, something I have no doubt as to our commitment to.

Ms.Eden

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RE: I found him - 1/3/2006 5:53:09 PM

MaitresseEden

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quote:

People complain about the frustration they have in finding a partner, sometimes after only looking for a week or so. Finding your true one will require real dedication & commitment to goals. Wavering from those goals is tempting but the rewards of finding that special one is more than words can describe.

I agree 110% I have been seeking for 12 years, I have met plenty with passion, but none with the insight, passion and dedication and commitment my dearest dragonfly has, not to mention, his love and submission.

Eden

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RE: I found him - 1/3/2006 5:55:30 PM

MaitresseEden

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quote]ORIGINAL: cloudboy

It seems your soulmate stole your profile along with the rest of you.
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He stole nothing.. I gave my love and dominance freely.. however, I did reactivate my profile for the time being so that you might see what it was that worked and compare it to those that don't.

Ms. Eden

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RE: I found him - 1/3/2006 6:06:10 PM

fergus

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MaitresseEden,

CONGRATS!!!!!

I know that both you AND your new subbie must feel equally and profoundly lucky to have found each other :)

May you be the object of each other's erotic nightmares for many years to come.

fergus

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RE: I found him - 1/3/2006 8:56:17 PM

cloudboy

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Yes, I read your announcement and clicked on your pofile, and poof, you were gone. But, I see you have returned, if but briefly. I think you should stay around and be social.

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RE: I found him - 1/4/2006 12:00:38 AM

Dragonflyredux

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I am him.
I can unequivocally state that my search paid off for myself. Through detailed introspection, I was able to approximate that I had over the last eight years reviewed nearly 100,000 unique profiles. I had and was willing to look at profiles internationally. I had met and gone out with some pleasant and sometime very interesting people over the years. I understand that many members’ priorities may differ radically from that of myself. Nevertheless, I knew in my soul that I could find the one for me. I was not looking for a playmate but a life partner. (You know….. until I die type of thing) I can’t tell you how many times over the years that I have been in tears thinking that I would not find that special one for me. There has been definitely a couple of times when I have given up hope completely, only to get back in the saddle again. As for my profile, I was as true to myself as possible of what I looking for in a relationship, as well as, what I was looking for in a partner, with zero BS. I know that with a previous partner I was ecstatic if we were compatible in 9 out of 10 things. In our case, it’s 999 out of 1000 if not higher. Our vanilla and D&S relationship is constantly, dynamic and ever-changing, but when viewed from a third person perspective truly unified, as in a Lava lamp.

I had not responded to her profile because she was very adamant about long distance relationships, as stated in her profile. So I simple placed her in my favorites list. Knowing to myself that if the chemistry is truly right the 300 miles would be meaningless. All I wanted was a conversation just to see if their was any possibility, and not to disregard me, simply for the fact that I was not local.

It can happen; we have both put forth an enormous amount of time and effort prior to our meeting. We have stood by our standards and were not willing to compromise when coming to our partners. I am in my 40’s and have never been engaged or married, because I am not willing to settle. I am so glad that this chapter of my life is in the past, and I am looking forward to this new chapter with Eden.
I just want to say that anything is possible, through perseverance, intelligence, and a little luck.

Dragonflyredux

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RE: I found him - 1/4/2006 10:36:35 AM

fergus

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Thank you Dragonflyreduex,

Hearing success stories like this is inspiring and encouraging :)

fergus

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RE: I found him - 1/4/2006 10:51:48 AM

thetammyjo

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Congrats, MaitresseEden!

And good luck in the future, too.

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Love, Peace, Hugs, Kisses, Whips & Chains,

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Check out my website at http://www.thetammyjo.com Or www.tammyjoeckhart.com

And my LJ where I post fiction in progress if you "friend" me at http://thetammyjo.livejournal.com/

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RE: I found him - 1/4/2006 12:12:47 PM

RumpusParable

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Congratulations! Am so glad you've found what you were looking for!

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