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SirJohnMandevill -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 6:01:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied Note to self: Find out what the dom wants to call you before agreeing to be his. ABSOLUTELY! And make sure they're all listed in your signed contract, along with the standard verbiage about "any names the Dominant may subsequently think of in any language or media (spoken, written or electronic), in this universe or any other." That usually covers it for me....[;)] (To keep on topic, I usually refer to "my submissive lady" here on CM. Fits her and our relationship pefectly.) [sm=abducted.gif]Les (Puveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

T1981 -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 6:12:48 AM)
My husband and I don't use any other names outside of our birth given ones to refer to each other, even when we're actively in scene. (Outside of the usual whore, slut, etc, but for us that's more about play than identification). I've asked him about titles, and he has said that he always found Master or Sir or whatever other titles subs often call their dominants to be a little off-putting for him, and the same for me, and so that worked out just fine. If she wants a nickname, ask her what she's always liked. That would probably be a great start. You may also want to set down some rules on when titles are appropriete - after all, calling your girlfriend your slave is fun at home, but how would her parents react to that if you two were over having Sunday dinner one night?

tsatske -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 6:14:36 AM)
quote: KatyLied: Note to self: Find out what the dom wants to call you before agreeing to be his. hehe. Yes, but maybe that's what he meant by 'doesn't matter in the least'. That He wanted her, as His, no matter what the 'name' - but, He kinda likes having a name, maybe. There may very well be a name that really WORKS for her. In a prevoius relationship, Cunt really, REALLY Did It for me. My dear sister like 'girl' - a LOT. It 'Does It' for her. Talking to her is a good idea. On a side note, you need to get used to that answer. 76% of the questions you could POSSIBLY think to ask on CM are going to get answered, 'Talk to her'. GL.

Kana -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 6:54:38 AM)
I'm the Master, she is... Mine

Focus50 -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 8:51:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lynnxz -fr- Heh, you'd do well to ignore some of the overblown egos in this thread OP. Find something that works for both of you, as long as you two are happy, nothing else really counts for shit. This rather obvious statement is also true for anyone asking virtually any question on any Forum - even for those who clearly see themselves as more enlightened than the rest of us; which is somewhat of a contradiction here, no? At least you didn't offer an equally insightful, "It all depends on the relationship...". wink Focus.

Lynnxz -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 9:04:35 AM)
You're grumpy today focus. I do what makes me (and mine) happy, I think it's a good philosophy to live by, at least, it works for me. [:D] I'm not enlightened, I'm just here.

Focus50 -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 9:35:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lynnxz You're grumpy today focus. I do what makes me (and mine) happy, I think it's a good philosophy to live by, at least, it works for me. [:D] I'm not enlightened, I'm just here. Grumpy? See, when I'm playing with my food or pulling wings off flies (flys?) etc, I'm never "grumpy" about it so much as rather contented.... I guess you're right afterall; you are "just here". Focus.

Lynnxz -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 10:16:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 quote: ORIGINAL: Lynnxz You're grumpy today focus. I do what makes me (and mine) happy, I think it's a good philosophy to live by, at least, it works for me. [:D] I'm not enlightened, I'm just here. Grumpy? See, when I'm playing with my food or pulling wings off flies (flys?) etc, I'm never "grumpy" about it so much as rather contented.... I guess you're right afterall; you are "just here". Focus. [8\|]

LaTigresse -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 10:42:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterTroyV Howdy all. Up until a few weeks ago being a Master was just a dream......Now I am. A friend of mine and I were talking and somehow the subject came up. Now im kinda new to this and I don't quit know what to call her. Not slave as she does not prefer that term but in our agreement it was agreed that she would be mine......until such a time as either one of us decides to end our arrangment. Calling her Sub isn't quite right either..... Any suggestions. Thanks Master Troy Cliche answer, talk to you and work it out between the two of you. What works for me............."This is ...given name..., she is MINE!!" (now I just gotta find someone that really wants to be......[:D])

KnightofMists -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 1:15:35 PM)
Why do you feel a desire to label her in some fashion?

MadRabbit -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 1:18:16 PM)
Enjoy the flowers and figure out what to call them later on.

KnightofMists -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 1:50:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MadRabbit Enjoy the flowers and figure out what to call them later on. stink weed? w

celticlord2112 -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 2:12:16 PM)
quote: My conclusion is that as long as we both understand what she really is then what I call her does not matter in the least........and should not matter to her. You have much to learn. Simple truth: what you cannot name you cannot claim.

MadRabbit -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 2:20:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: celticlord2112 Simple truth: what you cannot name you cannot claim. So it's completely impossible to have a mutually fulfilling power based relationship without deciding whether they are a slave or submissive?

KnightofMists -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 2:25:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MadRabbit quote: ORIGINAL: celticlord2112 Simple truth: what you cannot name you cannot claim. So it's completely impossible to have a mutually fulfilling power based relationship without deciding whether they are a slave or submissive? Gosh.. you much nicer than me... I was thinking .. Simple truth: Stupid! Referring to your comment earlier... Does one have to know what kind of flower it is to enjoy it's beauty or smell it's sweetness? It's a flower and one finds pleasure it and one can pick the flower and make it yours. Labeling is not awareness or ownership of anything. It is so much more comlicating than that comment "what you cannot name you cannot claim" doesn't have enough wisdom or truth to be a bumper sticker.

MadRabbit -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 2:32:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists quote: ORIGINAL: MadRabbit quote: ORIGINAL: celticlord2112 Simple truth: what you cannot name you cannot claim. So it's completely impossible to have a mutually fulfilling power based relationship without deciding whether they are a slave or submissive? Gosh.. you much nicer than me... I was thinking .. Simple truth: Stupid! Referring to your comment earlier... Does one have to know what kind of flower it is to enjoy it's beauty or smell it's sweetness? It's a flower and one finds pleasure it and one can pick the flower and make it yours. Labeling is not awareness or ownership of anything. It is so much more comlicating than that comment "what you cannot name you cannot claim" doesn't have enough wisdom or truth to be a bumper sticker. I've decided the path of the Asshole isn't for me. I am going to the Dark side.

KnightofMists -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 2:34:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MadRabbit I've decided the path of the Asshole isn't for me. I am going to the Dark side. aaaaaaww young one.. you will be back.. you can't deny who you are! lol

celticlord2112 -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 2:58:19 PM)
quote: So it's completely impossible to have a mutually fulfilling power based relationship without deciding whether they are a slave or submissive? Don't know about "slave" vs. "submissive." But if there is no deciding, there is not much of a relationship, power-based or otherwise.

Emperor1956 -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 3:00:06 PM)
FR: I dunno. All this namby-pamby "do what works in Y/your relationship" doesn't really get to the heart of CollarMe (note the use of the Y/y? Using that construct is one way you can tell the REAL Dominants from the chaff). As the OP is now a "Master", I think W/we should W/welcome Him in to Our ranks with sincere advice. Watch and learn, grasshopper. Viz: (those of you over 45 will understand the reference to "grasshopper"; for the rest of you think "strong this One is and Young, he is, too.") "cunt" sort of gets to her essence, but its a bit crude, and its so common. I vote for something a bit more esoteric. Call her "gash". It will show your True Dom nature, grasshopper, and it will set you apart from the crowd. I also like "mangopussy" Especially when she introduces herself at parent/teacher conferences. You really might also try switching, and "English" style play. Then you can call her "She who Must Be Obeyed." Esoteric reference, there, what? I asked my baby girl and she suggested "reason for breathing". Its what she calls Me, of course. Happy nomenclature. E.

SteveAndJaz -> RE: Im the Master she's the...???? (1/3/2009 4:23:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Troy, I already addressed this on your Introduction. You are NOT a Master. You may well be a Dom. You could just call her "yours" when talking to kinksters and your gf when talking to vanillas. But seriously, in the scheme of things, it's not a big deal. This is not a direct response to the original post but I felt I had to butt in here. The term Master is one that is given to you by the submissive/slave/housewife. It is entirely up to the dynamic of the relationship and it is not for anyone else to to decide weather you have earned that title. Stephen

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