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Serving in Her Absence - 1/3/2009 8:32:31 AM   
womanworshipper


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Status: offline 		From the end of this year, Mistess and her husband will start living abroad six months each year (alternating every three months). i will not be going with them - instead, i will stay in the UK looking after Her home and affairs here.

i am sure that i cannot be the only slave in such circumstances and i would be interested in hearing from others how similar arrangements work for them.

ww
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RE: Serving in Her Absence - 1/5/2009 11:09:26 AM   
womanworshipper


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Status: offline 		Hmm...Maybe it's a more unusual situation than i thought!

ww

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RE: Serving in Her Absence - 1/5/2009 11:17:41 AM   
jen182


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Status: offline 		i have never been in that sort of situation....personally i dont think i could do it though because i cant stand to be away from my Dom when i have one

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RE: Serving in Her Absence - 1/5/2009 11:23:52 AM   
mc1234


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Status: offline 		I dunno ... I've never been in the situation, but I know there are others online who are in long-term long-distance relationships.  Yours is a unique circumstance, though - I'm not sure how I would cope with being on/again - off/again with the relationship - seems like as soon as I'd settle in again, she'd be gone. 




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RE: Serving in Her Absence - 1/5/2009 2:48:07 PM   
Chgolostnlooking


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Status: offline 		I also struggle with my submission when no one is available to accept it.  It's difficult.

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RE: Serving in Her Absence - 1/5/2009 5:43:22 PM   
WalterRego


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Status: offline 		How or why does this seem different to you than a LDR where a sub gets to see their Dominant fairly regularly but not all the time?

No, you will not have "playtime" or physical contact, but you can certainly maintain contact via e-mail, phone (skype) etc. And maintain the emotional comitment.

The fact that you will be looking after her home and affairs, able to inhale her fragrance, see and touch her clothes, possessions, to care for them all and all in the place where you do spend time with her, is more than many have to ground you in your service and commitment 

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RE: Serving in Her Absence - 1/5/2009 5:45:37 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		It's not that unusual.  I just posted a very similar thread in the general section.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2376848/tm.htm


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RE: Serving in Her Absence - 1/10/2009 9:14:49 AM   
womanworshipper


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Status: offline 		Thanks A/all, particularly Lady Pact for the link.

Yes, i will still be in touch by telephone and e-mail and Her Daughter will check up on me sometimes too. Three months still seems a long time but it is Her will and it will be a good discipline for me.

ww 

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RE: Serving in Her Absence - 1/10/2009 9:39:34 AM   
SassySarijane


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Status: offline 		And remember, by seeing to her home and affairs while she's away you are continuing service to her. You are serving her whether she's there or not. Maybe when you are getting down and such while she's gone, you can discuss those feelings with her in email or phone. Keeping her informed is very important and maybe she will have suggestions or ideas to help you get through those times. I know it's difficult and it's not something I've dealt with personally, but these are my thoughts on it.

Wish you the best,

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RE: Serving in Her Absence - 1/11/2009 2:16:57 AM   
womanworshipper


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Status: offline 		She is more likely to just tell me to pull myself together and get on with it , but thank You for Your thoughts.

ww

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RE: Serving in Her Absence - 1/11/2009 7:55:29 AM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		hey, i'm all for service and submission, but at the same time, i can't help but think of all the money that they'd have to put out to pay someone to do what you've been left in charge to take care of...

as for myself, if the relationship isn't an oldie-goldie one where i've been established for a good long time, as well as living with said couple, i'd consider your situation to be more of a get something for nothing deal from the master/mistress end of the equation and would feel very used from the submissive end of the equation...

so, i have no suggestions to offer.

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RE: Serving in Her Absence - 1/11/2009 2:04:40 PM   
womanworshipper


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Status: offline 		The relationship has been going on for some years and Mistress was my friend before She became my Mistress. i am practically live-in, though i do still have a home of my own.

Clearly, i am used by Her, but happily so. i chose to become Her servant and i am pleased to be such.

ww

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RE: Serving in Her Absence - 1/11/2009 2:12:28 PM   
SassySarijane


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ORIGINAL: womanworshipper

She is more likely to just tell me to pull myself together and get on with it , but thank You for Your thoughts.

ww



*grins* Well, there's one way for her to help you deal with it!

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