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special gifts - not tributes - 1/3/2009 5:56:04 PM   
jstmi


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Status: offline 		Hi - i am hoping i could ask the Dominants, if You live away from Your sub, what kind of gifts would You appreciate receiving? be it cards , perfume, flowers what really makes You happy if You cannot be with Your submissive?
 
thank You in advance for Your replies
 
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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/3/2009 6:08:27 PM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		Shoes.  I love boots and shoes.  And pretty stockings.  Although I have also received corsets, earrings, dresses, BDSM toys and even purse latches to use on my hand made corset.  Most expensive item to date was a slightly used f**king machine and stocks.  None of these items was ever required, so I don't call it tribute.  Polite and generous men just like to send me gifts and I greatly enjoy and appreciate every single sweet little token of affection that I have received.  I still say the best gift was a replacement set of keys to my old handcuffs because that one was heartfelt and intuative.


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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/3/2009 6:27:54 PM   
jstmi


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Status: offline 		thank You Ms Starlett
yes i know She loves boots and shoes but i was thinking something on a smaller scale perhaps?

hmm what if the sub didn't have then means to spend alot ,, what simple gift would You appreciate?

thank You
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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/3/2009 6:41:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		I just got a lovely pair of earrings from a boy overseas.  They are delightful. I knew he had to watch not only the price of the item, but it's size and weight as well to avoid major shipping costs.

Hmmm... The only thing I really wanted for Christmas / New Years was to have my sweet Westie looking up at me with his beautiful hazel eyes.  It was quite depressing when that didn't happen.  He did phone me and that helped a lot.  I enjoy just hearing his voice. 

A few of my boys have sent very thoughtful voice messages here on CM that I found quite touching.  One even sings to me.  The gift of your time, your thoughts, your love and adoration are far more valuable than trinkets. 


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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/3/2009 6:42:00 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		Books!!!  Also, DVDs, music CDs, and Godiva dark chocolate truffles are all good choices.

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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/3/2009 6:45:06 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: jstmi

thank You Ms Starlett
yes i know She loves boots and shoes but i was thinking something on a smaller scale perhaps?

hmm what if the sub didn't have then means to spend alot ,, what simple gift would You appreciate?

thank You
jstmi


Each woman is different. You really have to ask your partner for suggestions or get to know her well enough otherwise you risk giving something that will not be appreciated or worse. I bet you want to make the best impression possible.

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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/3/2009 6:59:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		the gift i ever want is something that has meaning. the financial value is really unimportant. i would rather have something that was free (like a rock from someplace special) than something i didn't want or had no meaning that was worth $10,000. But that's just me

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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/3/2009 8:19:16 PM   
AcademyForSlaves


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Status: offline 		I like getting homemade gifts that the slave makes for me. A Mistress friend of mine gets things like a coffee cup with the slave's pic on it, and music cds that musicians made for Her, and oil paintings that slaves painted of Her. I would love to get gifts like that. It shows that the slave put thought and time into it. It shows he really cares.

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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/3/2009 8:24:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have always loved post cards from places my boys have been. Angel used to do missionary work when he was mine, and he used to bring me home post cards, and other LD pets I had would send me post cards of places they thought I would like. My obsession with the Sydney Opera House is no secret, and I love Angel statues and the like, so finding little things like that is not hard, but it also shows me that someone was thinking about me enough to go out of their way to find one.

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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/3/2009 8:27:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		A good morning and a tuck in at night as he calls it-his notes online---and he has been the ONLY sub who ever remembered to send me an e-card for My birthday. I pretty much have anything I want--so those things to me are priceless. So far, he's hit the ball out of the park.

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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/3/2009 8:46:58 PM   
jstmi


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Status: offline 		thank Y/you for all the wonderful replies, my Ma'am is very special to me and i appreciate the imput from everyO/one.  She does have my thoughts, my love and my adoration , but i would love to send Her something else She can hold and think of me when She does.
 
best regards
 
jstmi

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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/3/2009 9:02:42 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I have to say that it does depend on what your mistress likes, but you knew that already!  I like nice things, but to me, something that shows that the person thought about *me* and what I like is much more meaningful.  A neat guinea pig link, a youtube clip of a mandolin solo, knitting needles (you can never have too many), a book or magazine...  I can be easily pleased for less than $20, or even for free!

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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/3/2009 9:45:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		I always enjoy a heartfelt thank you. Or shoes... or new toys and shoes... did I say shoes??  But no matter what the thank you is, I will always appreciate something more than others if it was heartfelt and given with thought and feeling.  

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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/3/2009 11:07:20 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Add Me to those who say it doesn't matter what a thing is, as long as someone sent it because they were thinking of Me and it's something that was chosen because it was Me that the person had in mind. 

I've said time and again on these boards that the best gift clip ever gave Me was a small tag that he had made.  It looks something like a red dog tag.  On it, he had them stamp "Proud Owner of LPs_littleclip purchased 08-25-07."  The date was reflective of a slave auction that we attended together, where I literally "bought" him.  That thing means more to Me than anything else he's given Me, because it's a physical reminder of a time we shared.  I'm kind of mushy that way.

So, My advice to you is, if you want to give her something, make it something that has a symbolic meaning that is special between the two of you.  Of course, this means that none of us can really give you a suggestion.  It has to come from you.


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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/3/2009 11:19:02 PM   
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I'm a crafty type, so most of the gifts I give people are handmade. Various friends, both here and offline have gotten things like:
1. crocheted/ knitted hats, scarves, slippers (takes a bit of practice, but snuggly warm and not expensive to make)- *waves to fellow yarnaholic Francine*
2. rope floggers (VERY inexpensive, easy to make, and feel very sensual on the skin)
3. leather floggers (more expensive than rope, but niiiice)
4. handmade jewelry (doesn't have to cost a fortune to look awesome, and you can do it if you can put beads on a string)
I like being able to put a bit of "myself" into a present, and being able to choose colors/ materials that will please the person who receives it. So far, the only person who hasn't appreciated the effort taken to make something just for him is my ex.... which is part of why he's now the ex


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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/4/2009 2:48:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		Something that the submissive made for me would be top on the list, whether that be a poem, song, card, etc.  And they do well to ask what I would like rather than just guessing.  One of my boys is very clever at finding useful devices that I would not think of buying for myself.  This year it was an ice tea maker that makes an entire pitcher in just a few minutes.  He is really good at finding items for the kitchen, car and yard.  Perfumes and clothing are personal and better left to a joint shopping expedition.  Knowing my favorite local stores or Online shops is a good start and a gift certificate/card to one of those is great.

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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/4/2009 2:59:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		depends on what is importamt to your Domme and you.for me,Mistress is quite satisfied with the little things that mean soooo much.i keep my eyes and ears open when we speak of such things.it is wonderful to surprise her and ne there for her at every turn humanly possible.

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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/4/2009 10:16:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		from my pet, i've received postcards from the places he's visiting while on business and flowers however merely hearing his voice on the phone is special too.

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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/4/2009 1:48:08 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: jstmi
Hi - i am hoping i could ask the Dominants, if You live away from Your sub, what kind of gifts would You appreciate receiving?
jstmi

Now I could reply on this question,
but then I would spoil all the fun right? grinz.


smooch My lovely girl.


GoddezzT`

 


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RE: special gifts - not tributes - 1/4/2009 6:29:37 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: hereyesruponyou

the gift i ever want is something that has meaning. the financial value is really unimportant. i would rather have something that was free (like a rock from someplace special) than something i didn't want or had no meaning that was worth $10,000. But that's just me

No, its not just you.   I agree 100%.    It really is the thought that counts. 


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