Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco

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LuckyAlbatross -> Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 7:50:10 AM)
Direct from Miss Manners: In any case, a lady does not respond to an indecent proposal. Doing so only suggests that she is willing to negotiate. To Some Things, Don't Even Say No

xxblushesxx -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 8:20:03 AM)
LOLOL!! I generally don't either, but if it's tff, I will write them back...laughing at them. The ones I am laughing at ususally don't see the humour...oh well... Christina

KatyLied -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 8:34:13 AM)
I tend to ignore people who can't read a profile. Unless they amuse me.

SweetSarijane -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 8:46:48 AM)
I like that, and, as stated before I ignore generally unless amused by them.

MsIncognito -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 9:38:59 AM)
Well. I'd say that's pretty much the definitive source, isn't it? [:)]

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 12:29:22 PM)
The fact that she said a Lady should not respond to an "indecent" proposal, should have kept you away from it since we're all kind of indecent... It is from my perspective a good aproach to take with men who are clearly married/attached, and still aproach women with a profile which clearly asks them not to. M

MHOO314 -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 12:41:33 PM)
You never cease to amaze Me where you get content! LMAO

girl4you2 -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 12:48:33 PM)
i've gotta go check my profile to make sure i made it clear that i don't want any married men...sheesh, the things a girl has to think of!

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 12:49:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MHOO314 You never cease to amaze Me where you get content! LMAO LOL I'm a researcher at heart and read the Washington Post everyday. Miss Manners is my Wednesday highlight.

Petruchio -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 4:38:13 PM)
quote: I tend to ignore people who can't read a profile. The problem is that it says more about you than the people who are (mistakenly) seeking to know you. Courtesy and graciousness has always been paramount to me. I was surprised when a friend on here (sub-F) told me she also didn't respond to messages that didn't interest her. I contended that it was better to politely decline, but she shrugged it off. Of course she's still looking. I wouldn't have a problem, though, if up front her profile said something like, 'Sub– snooty and seldom responsive.' Then people would know what to expect.

IrishMist -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 4:38:45 PM)
LMAO, now that is cute

windchymes -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 4:50:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: girl4you2 i've gotta go check my profile to make sure i made it clear that i don't want any married men...sheesh, the things a girl has to think of! It won't help![:D] chymes

AAkasha -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 4:55:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Petruchio quote: I tend to ignore people who can't read a profile. The problem is that it says more about you than the people who are (mistakenly) seeking to know you. Courtesy and graciousness has always been paramount to me. I was surprised when a friend on here (sub-F) told me she also didn't respond to messages that didn't interest her. I contended that it was better to politely decline, but she shrugged it off. Of course she's still looking. I wouldn't have a problem, though, if up front her profile said something like, 'Sub– snooty and seldom responsive.' Then people would know what to expect. It has been posted in many threads on this topic: The simple issue is that if a woman politely responds to all the emails she gets, people keep on emailing, even if the note said "Thanks but no thanks." If a woman has limited time online and wants to sit down and spend 15 - 20 minutes responding to the 1 or 2 emails that she chose, she can't respond to the others. For every 5 minutes she is online, another 3 - 4 new messages pop up. For every 10 emails she says politely, 6 write back "Why not? Can you at least tell me why?" If she responds to those 6, 5 will write back again, and not drop it. Then 5 more will write to insult her. Meanwhile, 7 new messages pop up. If she receives an email that clearly is not suited based on her clear profile, there's a good chance if she responds, all she is doing is opening up an invitation for correspondence. At SOME point she HAS to ignore him. He will keep on writing. That's why women don't respond to every single email. Even the ones that respond favorably to her "thanks but no thanks" often still don't "close" the correspondence -- they ask "Do you have any advice for me? Do you know anyone who might be interested?" or "can I at least ask you a few questions? Can we be friends?" It never ends. Akasha

KnightofMists -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 5:16:44 PM)
mmmmmmmmmmmmmm well ok so she's a lady in the parlour... but happens when you get her in the bedroom..... should she accept those indecent proposals?? Indecent fellows want to know!!!!

girl4you2 -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 5:45:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes quote: ORIGINAL: girl4you2 i've gotta go check my profile to make sure i made it clear that i don't want any married men...sheesh, the things a girl has to think of! It won't help![:D] chymes sheesh, now you tell me! you mean like all that other stuff in there, too?

girl4you2 -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 5:48:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists mmmmmmmmmmmmmm well ok so she's a lady in the parlour... but happens when you get her in the bedroom..... should she accept those indecent proposals?? Indecent fellows want to know!!!! i'd think once you've entered the bedroom, she might be more inclined and thus inclined to accept proposals of a heretofore indecent nature. i should send that opinion to noah!

KnightofMists -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 5:53:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: girl4you2 [i'd think once you've entered the bedroom, she might be more inclined and thus inclined to accept proposals of a heretofore indecent nature. i should send that opinion to noah! NOTE>>>> meet girl in bedroom instead of a coffee shop.... nods yeah that's the ticket... right environment is always critical for successful negotiations G.

Quivver -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 6:04:48 PM)
I used to always try to return a polite response. But who ever said they try to sneak back in with the "let's be friends" thing continually happened. So I went to the Ignore approach. Every so often one of them would hit high on my BullShit meter and I couldnt help myself, I let my claws grow and batted them around some. Finally I added a few words to my profile that seem to be warding off the evil HNG's. It say's: "Be advised that although she Identifies as a Submissive, her demeanor can become less then pleasant with those that ignore the fine print" So far, so good. I get a few your no sub notes, but all in all the mail i've recieved has been extremely pleasant. Q

newflowers -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 6:11:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists quote: ORIGINAL: girl4you2 [i'd think once you've entered the bedroom, she might be more inclined and thus inclined to accept proposals of a heretofore indecent nature. i should send that opinion to noah! NOTE>>>> meet girl in bedroom instead of a coffee shop.... nods yeah that's the ticket... right environment is always critical for successful negotiations G. you crack me up - that is too funny! Seriously, though i think i receive a fair number, i am not overwhelmed with email. it seems to me that if you acutally open the email to see if it says something you want to hear, it takes another 5 seconds to type "no thank you" and hit send - two times. it doesn't take much of my time and i happen to consider it rude to not respond. certainly, there are times when you know immediately that some are just playing, but so what - five more seconds to be polite seems better manners than following a list. For those who write and are serious but are unacceptable for whatever reason - age, distance, interests, etc., these do deserve a no thank you. on the rare ocassions when i am brave enough to write to someone, i am appreciative if they send a note. i imagine that even for the domliest doms, while expecting a percentage of rejection, still takes some courage to write the note in the first place. it hurts nothing to say no thank you and real manners - the consideration of another's feelings - is a greater reflection of you. newflowers

xxblushesxx -> RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to Strangers Emails?" fiasco (1/4/2006 6:25:20 PM)
I don't know...I wrote one quick note today...prolly spent five minutes on it, and when I hit send there were six new ones...they're like Gremlins or something... Not that I don't appreciate the letters, but, sometimes there are just too many and not enough time. Really.

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