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typesgirl -> Small gestures in public? (1/4/2006 3:01:50 PM)
Hello all. I'm curious if any of your Masters have little, subtle Dom-like things they do in public. My Master and i pretty much keep our D/s side on the down low in public but there are little things He does like put His hand on my back (where i have His tattoo) and sometimes He'll subtly play with the back of my hair and give it little invisible tugs which make me melt. What little things does your Master do? typesgirl

Notanaddict -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/4/2006 3:06:23 PM)
I have never been in a full time 24/7 relationship with a sub or a dom, but I do like to subtly "claim" my woman in public.. like putten my hand on her lower back, touching her when we meet new people or hold around her from behind.. haha, maybe thats just a jealous thing

ownedjulia -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/4/2006 3:27:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: typesgirl Hello all. I'm curious if any of your Masters have little, subtle Dom-like things they do in public. My Master and i pretty much keep our D/s side on the down low in public but there are little things He does like put His hand on my back (where i have His tattoo) and sometimes He'll subtly play with the back of my hair and give it little invisible tugs which make me melt. What little things does your Master do? typesgirl Hell yes. A few times when we have been out he may decide to pop into a coffee shop and it's largely a case of him saying 'I want a coffe' tehn we go into the coffee shop and sometimes he will ask me what I want and if i hesitate for a second he takes charge and orders for me. it's subtle but its rather dominant.

sweetpettjenny -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/4/2006 3:34:06 PM)
there are alot of things he does in public..sometimes calling me pet, touching and holding my lower back, he is pretty clear to me in what he is in public in a subtle way.

littleone35 -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/4/2006 4:46:10 PM)
Well i only remember one thing really well evnr thoug i am sure ther are others. We went out to unch and he told me to order what i wanted. So i ordered a veggie burger and the waiter asked if i wanted regular or delux. Without even giveing me time to think Master said she will have the delux. its a little thing but actions speak louder than words. littleone

sub4hire -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/4/2006 5:01:50 PM)
Taking my hand leading me around. Though I see that as rather vanilla. I gues after reading the responses here maybe it is not? Ordering for me, well he has done that since day one. Thought that was a vanilla thing as well. Maybe we have just been together so long everything seems normal to me. The only thing he does that catches me off guard at times is he will grab my breast in public when he knows no one can see. Yet, I don't know no one can so I'm always surprised.

kyraofMists -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/4/2006 5:33:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sub4hire Maybe we have just been together so long everything seems normal to me. I am not sure if it so much length of time you are together or just the frequency with which the behavior occurs that makes it normal. So many of the interactions between my Lord and I are normal for us and I do not give them a second thought and we have only been in a formal relationship for just over 8 months. As for the OP’s question, we do not behave much differently in public than we do in private. The most noticeable differences in our behaviors occur around family and friends who are not in the lifestyle, otherwise we interact the same. Some of the behaviors that are almost always there for us whether in public or private are: Call him “my Lord” Allow him to walk through an entrance first (unless told otherwise) Walk on his right if we are alone or if alandra is with us, whoever is the primary server walks on his right and the other on his left Ask permission to ask a question or to share thoughts (verbally or with hand signals) Ask to be excused (verbal or hand signal) Help him with his coat Serve him his drinks or food Obey instructions – He does not ask us to do things, he instructs Ask permission to touch him – this is only done in public; in private we always have permission to touch There are probably more that alandra or my Lord may be able to recall. All of these behaviors are normal to us and it is more difficult to remember not to do them as opposed to doing them. Knight's kyra

foxglove716 -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/4/2006 5:48:43 PM)
I love this post because I truely believe that its those little gestures that mean everything. My previous dom and I were never big on holding hands in public, but he always insisted on holding my hand as we crossed the street. It always made me smile!

KatyLied -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/4/2006 6:20:17 PM)
A M/s couple I know -- anytime, anywhere they eat....she is not permitted to touch her food until he takes his first bite.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/4/2006 7:57:56 PM)
One of my all-time favorites is to drop something in front of them so you have to kneel to pick it up :) Heck you can do almost anything that you do in a dungeon with subtlety and no one will really notice or care.

nonuts4thshoney -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/4/2006 10:03:44 PM)
i have to walk (most of the time) with my arm around Her arm. Like the way military wives or old fashioned wives hold their Husbands arms. Also like Sub4Hire, i get my Ta Ta's grabbed when i least expect it. i always think someone saw and Master gets a kick out of it. [8D]

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/4/2006 10:53:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sub4hire . Thought that was a vanilla thing as well. Maybe we have just been together so long everything seems normal to me. Vanilla as in not kinky thing to do or ordinary vanilla daters do it, If you mean the second meaning then nope none of my bf's have ever ordered for me.

Petruchio -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/5/2006 12:25:55 AM)
Generally subtile, but I've had my sub wear a choker or dog collar, the kind of thing you'd have to look twice at. - Instructed her not to wear panties, of course. I've had a sub wear nipple jewelry, although usually with a heavy shirt. Subs have done little things to claim me: - Opened doors for me. - Given a quick kneel as if picking up something. I dated a young Massachusetts girl who used to drive her mother nuts with her submissive gestures. Once in public she bound her wrists in rope licorice and put on a little display of calling me Master. Another time we were watching entertainment in a public park and she was behind me leaning against my arm. When I went to move, I discovered she had undone and redone her halter top so that my arm was caught between her breasts. (A taste of bondage for me?) Most of the time when we'd sit in private, with friends, or especially with her mother present, she would not pull up a chair next to mine, but sit on the floor, leaning against my leg. You begin to see why her mother hated me. Curiously, her aunt found us intriguing.

Mercnbeth -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/5/2006 7:32:43 AM)
quote: like put His hand on my back (where i have His tattoo) quote: like putten my hand on her lower back quote: touching and holding my lower back quote: he will grab my breast in public when he knows no one can see. quote: holding my hand as we crossed the street aren't these just Public Displays of Affection that folks do? Master does those things and also orders food or drinks for His slave, but this slave doesn't see them as subtle "Dom" gestures. perhaps because this slave has experienced those things within previous vanilla relationships. quote: What little things does your Master do? this slave does not sit until Master has pointed to the chair or seat she is to occupy at a restaurant, this slave also must ask permission to leave the table for any reason when we travel Master instructs His slave to flash her breasts so that He can take pictures in various famous places, however that really isn't subtle is it?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/5/2006 7:44:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth aren't these just Public Displays of Affection that folks do? Master does those things and also orders food or drinks for His slave, but this slave doesn't see them as subtle "Dom" gestures. perhaps because this slave has experienced those things within previous vanilla relationships. Any act can be dom sub or vanilla. It's what it means to the people doing them that matters. THe back and neck are very vulnerable places as well as very sensitive areas that cause a lot of "happy chemicals" to be released in the body. Touching those areas tends to be very intimate for anyone. For some doms, they require the sub to wait for the door to be opened for them, some doms require the sub to open the door for the dom. It's not the act, it's the meaning and agreement.

Mercnbeth -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/5/2006 8:27:34 AM)
quote: Any act can be dom sub or vanilla. It's what it means to the people doing them that matters. THe back and neck are very vulnerable places as well as very sensitive areas that cause a lot of "happy chemicals" to be released in the body. Touching those areas tends to be very intimate for anyone. thanks for the opinion, LA and this slave can see the point you are making. however, if this slave was doing the exact same things (acts) as slave that she would be doing as vanilla, just calling it by a different name, than she wouldn't be slave--make sense? regardless of how intimate it might tend for anyone to be touched on the back, PDA isn't something this slave attributes to relationship orientation. this slave isn't saying that's how ANYONE would tend to react to the comments made, just that it is this slave's perspective that the things that Master does IN PUBLIC that vanilla's do IN PUBLIC don't strike this slave as "Dom-ly" gestures, so guess we'll just have to disagree[:)]

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/5/2006 8:36:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth however, if this slave was doing the exact same things (acts) as slave that she would be doing as vanilla, just calling it by a different name, than she wouldn't be slave--make sense? No because she's doing it for a different purpose and towards a different motivation. Opening the door for someone because you want to be nice is completely different from opening the door because the person in authority told you to do so.

fyreredsub -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/5/2006 8:38:26 AM)
certain circumstances do not allow for pda in public... knowing Master, he would order for me tho,in a restraunt etc.... however, i can be my affectionate self in private as long as i dont stick my tongue out at him....[8D].... (WEG,he'll get my nipple w/ the cell phone clip,lol)

Mercnbeth -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/5/2006 9:12:45 AM)
quote: Opening the door for someone because you want to be nice is completely different from opening the door because the person in authority told you to do so. well then this slave totally misunderstood the post to mean what sort of "Dom"-ly gestures does your Master do in public, not what sort of things that other vanilla folk typically do for each other, like open a door, that when it is done within the context of your relationship you see it as being "Dom-ly".

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Small gestures in public? (1/5/2006 9:23:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth well then this slave totally misunderstood the post to mean what sort of "Dom"-ly gestures does your Master do in public, not what sort of things that other vanilla folk typically do for each other, like open a door, that when it is done within the context of your relationship you see it as being "Dom-ly". Ahh I see. Yes, "distinctly kinky acts" as different from "acts that you attribute a Ds meaning to"

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