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bound4more -> Dominant/Master skills (1/7/2009 10:16:59 PM)

I hear about Dominant or Master skills. What are these? I'm not referring to how well one uses a flogger, but what are the skills you have learned/developed that arouse and inspire submission or surrender?



cagliostro -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/7/2009 10:51:56 PM)

Confidence.  Assertiveness.  Strength.  Knowledge.  Psychology. 



Focus50 -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 2:24:05 AM)

I don't know what they are exactly but I've noticed they tend to be quite attractive to the fem/subs who've been in my life.  Perhaps if you asked submissives, instead...?
 
Focus.



JustDarkness -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 3:59:11 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: bound4more

I hear about Dominant or Master skills. What are these? I'm not referring to how well one uses a flogger, but what are the skills you have learned/developed that arouse and inspire submission or surrender?


I have no clue to be honest. I never think about it.



IronBear -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 4:55:42 AM)

I am just me ~ what you see is what you get. if I don't know, I'll tell you and I'll try to find out..Basically, if you give me a foot, I'll give you a fathom. 



GreedyTop -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 5:57:02 AM)

I don't think it's so much 'skills' as it is something innate within the person.



DesFIP -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 6:17:15 AM)

Confidence, humility, knowledge, natural leadership skills.

He is confident about the stuff he knows and can do, humble enough not to think he knows it all, has a huge knowledge base and will learn about stuff he doesn't know well before making a decision in that area. And he naturally tends to take the lead with me: such as "we're going here first and there afterwards".



Lordandmaster -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 6:18:34 AM)

Yeah, ditto.  If I've learned one thing, it's to trust my instincts and pay attention when my brain is trying to visualize something.

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

I don't think it's so much 'skills' as it is something innate within the person.



GreedyTop -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 6:21:50 AM)

:: thuds :: thats twice in one week that we agree on something, LaM!!  LOL




Lordandmaster -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 6:23:03 AM)

I think the only thing we ever disagreed about is whether breaking things is always a mark of abuse, and I'm not going to get into THAT again.



GreedyTop -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 6:24:03 AM)

awww..c'mon ;)



Lordandmaster -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 6:24:53 AM)

OK...breaking things is not always a mark of abuse.  Done!



GreedyTop -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 6:26:09 AM)

*snort*

(Happy new year, LaM :)  )



Catgirl711 -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 7:54:57 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: cagliostro

Confidence.  Assertiveness.  Strength.  Knowledge.  Psychology. 


Those are the things that inspire me to submit.
Add in a little humility for being human, and a little patience because, well, I'M human....
and I've got a Dom I can believe in



T1981 -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 8:00:24 AM)

The things that inspires me to submit to my husband are a quiet sort of confidence, a willingness to let me play cheeky once in awhile (but without warning me for when he's going to make toe the line - keeps me on my toes!), and while I do love the harsh "forced" ways he has of making me serve, sometimes it is the fact that he will very gently, very lovingly encourage and coach me that makes me want to serve him.

I guess, through all that babble, what I'm trying to say is a well rounded mix of a human being whom, above all, expects me to do my best for him, no matter what???



Musicmystery -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 9:24:42 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: bound4more

I hear about Dominant or Master skills. What are these? I'm not referring to how well one uses a flogger, but what are the skills you have learned/developed that arouse and inspire submission or surrender?


I agree with what others have offered, but it's also important to look into her and know her. Anybody can throw around a bunch of commands. A girl who sees and feels he really gets her will melt to the core, as he's looking at her, not just any available girl.

In other words, she should want to follow, not just any man, but this man.




colouredin -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 9:31:33 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Musicmystery

I agree with what others have offered, but it's also important to look into her and know her. Anybody can throw around a bunch of commands. A girl who sees and feels he really gets her will melt to the core, as he's looking at her, not just any available girl.

In other words, she should want to follow, not just any man, but this man.




This gave me the fuzzies, this is what I look for, sure there are many other qualities I like but it is the ability of a Dominant to look inside me that i find most heady. It is this type of person that can read a situation, knows when to push and when to hold back. This is the type of person that makes you feel special and in that you know you can allow yourself to do as he asks without fear of recrimination. Thats an amazing thing



SteveAndJaz -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 10:20:01 AM)

I think there also must be a want/hunger from him to dominate. Too many dominants find it hard work or get stage fright at the first hurdle or dish it out like its some sort of play acting. A man or woman for that matter that really has that genuine need to dominate will do it with such ease and confidence that its mind blowing.

Maria



mc1234 -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 10:26:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: colouredin

This gave me the fuzzies, this is what I look for, sure there are many other qualities I like but it is the ability of a Dominant to look inside me that i find most heady. It is this type of person that can read a situation, knows when to push and when to hold back. This is the type of person that makes you feel special and in that you know you can allow yourself to do as he asks without fear of recrimination. Thats an amazing thing


Yes, precisely!  And now you just gave me the fuzzies, colouredin... [:)]



Jeptha -> RE: Dominant/Master skills (1/8/2009 11:55:16 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: bound4more

I hear about Dominant or Master skills. What are these? I'm not referring to how well one uses a flogger, but what are the skills you have learned/developed that arouse and inspire submission or surrender?

I don't know exactly, but I think that at this point I have a certain amount of psychological stability that is probably comforting to others if they recognize it.
Not that I can't be immature or occasionally crash and burn or whatever else, but given life's typical ups and downs, I generally know that I can roll with it pretty well and be alright.

Otherwise, I don't know if I have any particular universal quality. I think that's a very personal thing. I would not be a good dominant for most, probably, but for some few, I might make a very good dominant.

You know, one thing that I think I have that is not a particularly domly quality is gratitude. I think that, combined with a sense that I know what I want (not always; I can't read the future or make it happen, for example, but for the most part), makes a good combination.

Edit to add; I think at this point I'm imaginative, but my expectations are not unrealistic....entirely.

Again: only attractive to some (perhaps some very few), not all, but it's helpful to me.



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