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Daddysgoodgirl02 -> Collaring ceremony question (1/8/2009 7:21:14 PM)

Master and i were never able to have a collaring ceremony for me as the time that i came to be with him happened to be extremely hectic and stressful time in my life. I was going through divorce and quit my job to be with him, something that my family was not very happy about. It was ALL worth it as he is my true love and a wonderful Master (also my husband btw). We have discussed with regret  the fact that we did not get to share this very meaningful experience. Would it be okay to have a ceremony now, even though I have been collared for many years?



GreedyTop -> RE: Collaring ceremony question (1/8/2009 7:22:41 PM)

of course :) There are no hard and fast rules about it, except do what feels right to the two of you.. look at it kinda like renewing wedding vews :)



mc1234 -> RE: Collaring ceremony question (1/8/2009 7:26:33 PM)

I don't see why not.  Definitely a cool thing to do, especially as it's so meaningful to you both!



StrangerThan -> RE: Collaring ceremony question (1/8/2009 8:46:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Daddysgoodgirl02

Master and i were never able to have a collaring ceremony for me as the time that i came to be with him happened to be extremely hectic and stressful time in my life. I was going through divorce and quit my job to be with him, something that my family was not very happy about. It was ALL worth it as he is my true love and a wonderful Master (also my husband btw). We have discussed with regret  the fact that we did not get to share this very meaningful experience. Would it be okay to have a ceremony now, even though I have been collared for many years?


In the interest of WIITWD, it is what you need to do. Would you even bother to ask if it's ok to renew wedding vows?

nooooo so in the land of kinksters who try to be accepting of everyone else's kink, why bother asking? Just do it. Anyone who would rain on that parade is an idiot anyway.




MasterFireMaam -> RE: Collaring ceremony question (1/8/2009 11:10:41 PM)

Why are you asking us? Ask HIM. If he says it's ok, it's ok for you.

Master Fire



steviemichael -> RE: Collaring ceremony question (1/9/2009 1:12:23 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

of course :) There are no hard and fast rules about it, except do what feels right to the two of you.. look at it kinda like renewing wedding vews :)

kinda like renewing weddings vows ? the op says she already had been given a divorce  and like most collering or some knida seal dont mean its makes that realtionship better or worse for that matter .
of course a ring or a outward symbol can express to others what is indeed going in side a person.but contracts are made and broken.



GreedyTop -> RE: Collaring ceremony question (1/9/2009 1:21:22 AM)

she has been collared for several years, per her OP.  
quote:

Would it be okay to have a ceremony now, even though I have been collared for many years?

I got the impression from the OP that this is a sincere, LT and HAPPY relationship...

so yes, kinda like renewing vows.

SOrry you're so bitter.

Not everyone is.



CelticPrince -> RE: Collaring ceremony question (1/9/2009 2:17:13 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Daddysgoodgirl02

Master and i were never able to have a collaring ceremony for me as the time that i came to be with him happened to be extremely hectic and stressful time in my life. I was going through divorce and quit my job to be with him, something that my family was not very happy about. It was ALL worth it as he is my true love and a wonderful Master (also my husband btw). We have discussed with regret  the fact that we did not get to share this very meaningful experience. Would it be okay to have a ceremony now, even though I have been collared for many years?


goodgirl,
it seems a bit anticlimatic to me after so much time has gone by, but if it is a real issue with you try to tie it into atime issue such as 5 years etc.

CP



GreedyTop -> RE: Collaring ceremony question (1/9/2009 6:16:15 AM)

why tie it into a timeframe? If they want to do it after 1 year, 3 yrs, 98 months, or 10,000 days/22hrs/43 mins/18 secnds...what does it matter?  and anticlimatic? 
Jeez, cynical much?
Obviously, this is somethng that is important to her/them.

saying it's anticlimatic is kind of like saying "oh, you've gotten engaged.. a wedding is anticlimatic"

OP:  I stand by what I originally posted...  there are no hard and fast rules.. since this is important to you two.. DO it!!  Do it WHEN and HOW feels right to you.

*grumbles* anticlimatic, my ass.



mc1234 -> RE: Collaring ceremony question (1/9/2009 7:03:20 AM)

I fully agree that it's not anticlimatic!  It's a celebration of how far you've come with your relationship and a reaffirmation of your dedication and devotion to one another.  Geez, with so many relationships failing these days (lots in my personal life this past year, sadly), it's lovely to see a couple who've been together and want to *stay* together!



CatdeMedici -> RE: Collaring ceremony question (1/9/2009 7:06:59 AM)

People renew their "vows" all the time---perhaps a good time for a new soldered collar, a brand or a tat as well.



Daddysgoodgirl02 -> RE: Collaring ceremony question (1/9/2009 11:57:10 PM)

TY Greedy Top for your kind words, and also to everyone that responded. I just wanted to get everyone's opinion and insight. I have been collared since 2002 and married him in 2004. He was my Master first. When we met i was actually very reluctant and gave him kinda a hard time lol I really made him prove himself before i let my guard down. Obviously, it was all worth it.
Catde, I have never heard of a soldered collar, but tats are something that we have wanted to do for years but just never had the money. We also wanted to be careful about the design choice as well since it's something that's gonna be with me forever. Beautiful tats btw, GreedyTop. You are one of those women that wear tats well. I hope i will also.



GreedyTop -> RE: Collaring ceremony question (1/10/2009 12:07:23 AM)

thanks for YOUR kind words, sweetie :)  It sounds liek you two are very happy... CELEBRATE it!  *hugs*



MaamJay -> RE: Collaring ceremony question (1/10/2009 12:13:08 AM)

I'd say go for it! It's what is special between you 2 that matters, and a ceremony can be meaningful whenever it's held. As GT said, lots of people renew their vows, this is a different way of doing so. If you want to tie it into an anniversary fine, that's when Master chose to collar me (2 years exactly after We set off to move Him to my place to live together) ... but if not, just go with it!

Lovely to hear about a happy relationship!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]



LinnaeaBorealis -> RE: Collaring ceremony question (1/10/2009 12:47:06 AM)

The day that His Evilness decided that I was worthy of his collar, he was in Oregon & I was at a truckstop in Ogden, Utah.  My instructions were to find a place to get my nipples pierced & a tat on the back of my neck.  His only guidance was that the tattoo should be an "M" with some tribal around it, it should be petite & tasteful.  When it was done, I sent him pics & he told me I chose well.  I haven't missed having a ceremony, because for me it's in our day to day dealings that the collar becomes significant to me.  If he were to decide that a ceremony & words were what he wanted to have, that's what we would do.  I suppose that if I were to tell him I wanted that, we would do it.  Because then it would be meaningful to us, no matter at what point in our relationship we decided to do that.  Heck with what others' opinions are on when is the correct time to have a ceremony.  The correct time is when the 2 of you feel it's the correct time.

As an aside, when I texted him one day that it had been 6 months since I became his, his reply was, "No shit???  Happy Anniversary, pet!"  We do just fine with each other without outside influence.



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