darchChylde
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darchChylde wrote:
While I myself use the term domme on occasion, I tend to use female or woman dominant. I think that the term is, at it's root, an attempt to make the idea of a female dominant as less than the male counterpart by specifically differentiating between the two.
But you're quite happy to use words like `woman' or `female' which seem to have exactly the same properties.
Actually, using woman or female before the term dominant implies one of a different gender but with the same rank. But in using a feminine derivative of the term, such as stewardess as opposed to steward; it is generally considered as an implication of being inferior to the masculine version.
I think it's useful to have different terms simply because, for most people, there is a fundamental difference between men and women. Most people aren't bisexual and are looking specifically for a man or for a woman. That doesn't mean that men are better or worse than women; just that they are different. To that extent, I think it would be useful to have a separate term for male and female submissives, too.
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Look at it this way: why is it a Mistress and not a Master, with the negative connotations associated with the term mistress (example: the other woman or a kept woman)?
I don't buy that the term Mistress is used because of those connotations; it's used because it's the feminine[1] version of `Master'. I certainly don't intend any negative connotations when I address my Dominant as `Mistress'.
I never said anything as the intention of the person using the terms, but that I personally dislike the term mistress because the negative connotations of the term are both already in extant and also widely accepted definitions.
In regards for the terminology used for a male or female slave or submissive, I feel specific terms defining the gender to be unnecessary and (in some cases) biased in the same way I feel about the terms concerning a master or a dominant.
As I previously stated, but will further specify here; the above is my own opinion in why I dislike using the terms, but is not in any way a judgment upon others' uses of the terms.
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