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Dastan -> RE: Opinions on Shoe Worship (1/18/2009 6:44:24 AM)
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I may have a question regarding the subject of foot fetish vs shoe/boot fetish and it's context or meaning/goal.....
I once heard that a kink doesn't take sides. Meaning, a fetisk or kink (fetish = kink, right???!!!) can be the same without making the person sub or dom except when it's added to the game ina certain manner. I'll give you an example....
At a very large web group on yahoo, a "Dom" man who has been with 2 of the people on the group and many munches, with years of experience, said that although NOT a must for him to get aroused, it would be in his "Dirty Dozen" (the 12 things he found a trigger for excitement sexually) to see a woman wear boots. He said that his Sub Lady resisted and often teased him by caressing his body with her boots and sort of pushign him back, the same way you'd use a shield to defelct a blow, when he tried to kiss her belly or her thighs, and she taunetd him, teased and provocked him with them to make them lick them as he was about to tie her up or so. It was a "qui pro quo" situation as I once read, "If you do mine, I'll do yours" and it worked for him. He loved to wrestle, struggle for the power and control so his play sessions were very physical and flowing.
Just after that, a Sub Male said his Domme often denied him the sensual pleasure of kissing her feet and legs by pushing him back, kicking him and trampling him, stomp him down and pin his hands under her weight in boots and make him worship them by force (even though he liked it) before his plays started and she started her routine and the use of canes and whips. He also said she allowed him, teasing and taunting him like offering a cookie to a dog and make him beg and jump for it holding it out of his reach, to lick her boots out of the blue, in an impromptu way and in the meanwhile, in another "quid pro quo" whip him as he laid on the floor devoted to her boots. The boots were his carrot, so she could give him the stick, so in order not to spare the rod and spoil the child, she gave him the candy first, during or after, in another flowing manner of power exchange.
Now, the forum thread agreed that the behavior was literally the same. They both were on the receiving end, one as Dom and one as Sub and boots were just one more fetish, like wearing leather pants and suits to heighten the sensation play and the power exchange sensuality and the BDSM sex.
There are people who do the boots and shoe thing as a sensual play thing, or as a game without any BDSM in it. A guy can get an order or request from his girlfriend, or ask it himself, as a dare or a test, to lick or kiss her shoes in rpivate or public settings under the right context for him to not get harmed by the consequences of it as an act seen by others. Some men enjoy the feeling of their lovers wearing gloves and caressing them with them, but never delve into the BDSM aspects. I guess that deep down, these are the real or pure kinksters/fetishists (please ayone correct me if this paragraph is wrong as it is my definition of what "just" a kinkster/fetishist is vs the concepts of Subs and/or Slave in BDSM) outside the lifestyle of BDSM and also outside Vanilla, or on its edge or extreme of the grey tones scale or spectrum, sort of the last color of the rainbow before black....
Perhaps defining the Shoe Worship as a kink would help more than to define it as a "Sub/Slave" trait?
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