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Pain, Sex and Orgasms

I can orgasm from pain alone.

11% (10)

I can orgasm from sex alone.

22% (20)

I can orgasm from a combo of sex and pain.

37% (33)

I cannot orgasm WITHOUT pain.

4% (4)

I cannot orgasm without sexual stimulation.

24% (22)

Total Votes : 89

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Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/12/2009 10:42:27 PM

CalifChick

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Just because I'm curious (yeah, yeah, that's my story and I'm sticking to it). Choose as many as applies to you.

For my purposes, "sex" means any sexual activity you want it to mean that does not involve pain. Jeez, I'm making my own brain hurt.

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< Message edited by CalifChick -- 1/12/2009 10:46:46 PM >

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/12/2009 10:44:06 PM

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/12/2009 10:45:41 PM

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My computer went wacko and thought I was done. I've edited.

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/12/2009 10:46:58 PM

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ok, I've responded LOL I thought I was losing it!!

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/12/2009 10:47:07 PM

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when i read that i was thinking, wow not a lot of options here lol

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/12/2009 10:48:34 PM

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I wish I could orgasm without being sexually stimulated... I'd be a coming machine

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/12/2009 11:36:45 PM

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bah......Where's my option? You know the one: "i can not orgasm unless God himself makes the earth and me move"
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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/12/2009 11:42:32 PM

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I know these polls aren't supposed to be useful for anything, but still, could you put a "none of the above / don't know / don't care" option on them? You'll get a lot less people clicking random options so they can get to the results.

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/12/2009 11:43:56 PM

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I'm sorry Kali. It was a selfish, me-me-me type of poll. Apparently I'm worthless because I can orgasm from just sex, or sex with pain, but not pain alone. Apparently the ability to orgasm easily doesn't count unless it's driven by pain. Wanted to know if it was "just me".

And interestingly enough, although the response is small at the moment, no one has chosen "pain alone."

Cali
(Me? Need an attitude adjustment? WTF do you think I was working on?? So just bite me.)

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/12/2009 11:45:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: NormalOutside

I know these polls aren't supposed to be useful for anything, but still, could you put a "none of the above / don't know / don't care" option on them? You'll get a lot less people clicking random options so they can get to the results.

You don't have to choose any options to see the results. You just click the words SHOW RESULTS under the poll options.

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/12/2009 11:48:46 PM

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Cali, my love,
Just give me the cock sucking mother fucker's name and let me go do a testicle removal on him.... And i will do it in my new "kalism"way of torture. Which involves (but does not exclude) many versions of torture...My current favorite is where you get a man *ahem* all 'excited' and then freeze it that way... Nothing like shattered cock and balls to deflate a man's increased sense of superiority...
or perhaps it's just me...Perhaps i'm a wee bit hateful tonight...i doubt it...but maybe...
i'll be awaiting the necessary documents and information to give me clearance to 'teach' him.
Kali

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/13/2009 5:13:07 AM

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so... wait...

somebody is downplaying your ability to orgasm if he can't get you to do it by just inflicting pain on you?
oh cripes.
well, perhaps he should see if HE can orgasm that way.

what a spaz.

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/13/2009 6:33:44 AM

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I'm confused. When I make my submissive come, I use every trick in the book - spanking, nipple clamping, digital stimulation, headspace, and fucking - to bring her off. The idea is to give her a huge orgasm to feed my Dom ego.

If his stated goal is to use only pain, then he doesn't care about your orgasm as much as whacking you.

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/13/2009 6:36:09 AM

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Okay it is TRUE, I have had an orgasm from PAIN ALONE!!! BWAAAHAHAHAHHA!!

And I am not even a masochist! And I am never trying that experiment either let me tellllll you!!!

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/13/2009 8:11:52 AM

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I can come from nearly anything. It has been said of me that a slight breeze can make me come. I don't need actual physical stimulus, although that will make my orgasms much more intense. So I picked all three of the top options.

I wasn't always this way, in fact when I was younger, it was a very rare event unless I was masturbating or the planets were properly aligned.

Apparently there are advantages to getting old!!

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/13/2009 8:12:51 AM

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beth's been asked this a few times and she compares it to trying to pry open a peanut butter on Wonder Bread sandwich that you've been sitting on all day. In the right context and circumstance, you can't separate pain and sex. Pain is sex. Sex is pain. The sensations of BDSM are sexual foreplay. We use them as a end to a means as well as a means to an end.

The usual caveats apply; migraines, foot pain, a stubbed toe, don't have the same effect. Spankings, floggings, canes, the application of clips on various body parts and even things more on the 'humiliation' pain scale all can and have resulted in orgasms regardless if any other 'sexual' contact. Although beth requires less stimulation than most; she isn't unique in my experience. With enough time, and a desire to do so, intensity can be built to get the same effect with just about anyone. The key is the mind. It's a whisper at the right moment while applying the right prop to the right location at the right intensity. A mindset, shared emotions, self awareness, and a connection are the building blocks; but the catalyst agent is surrendering inhibition and allowing yourself the freedom to process the sensations as sexual.

Sometimes that mindset gets in the way of opportunities for 'casual' play. When someone comes and asks to join us on either end of the flogger they don't always understand that we consider the request as if we were being asked to share sex. Not that we resent or turn down those opportunities, but just like any intimacy shared with another - we like to know the person.

Ideally life with a partner is 24/7 foreplay; using all the senses to keep the embers stirring to take advantage of any opportunity to turn them into flames. A compatible partner with complimentary desires, fetishes, and sexual drives is important too. A redhead and a Sicilian Italian seems to be a living up to the stereotypes in that regard, but beyond genetics it still takes a willing mind and functioning body to make it work.

From another perspective the build up to orgasm is more 'fun' than the orgasm itself. All orgasms are not 'equal'. One permitted after an hour long build up may generate screams. Another, induced by a remote vibrator while riding the Tram up Mt. San Jacinto, may only be indicated by whitened knuckles resulting from a tightening grip on the window bar. Sometimes you need a nap afterward, sometimes they are little dips in an ongoing roller coaster ride.

At this point, orgasms are 'commas', pauses, between sessions that start soon after the last one ends. With or without pain as the spirit moves me.

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/13/2009 10:54:31 AM

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I have been known to cum on my dad's front porch just by Him wrapping His strong Hand around my neck. It only took like 5 minutes if that of His squeezing, and releasing (That was after I said that I couldn't have sex anymore. I needed to get my head straight. He said "Ok, Well, that doesn't mean that you can't have some fun, and get off once in a while. Just no sex." Freaking jerk! lol). I have also been able to orgasm from nothing but nipple stimulation, or even just reading naughty words, and THINKING that it was really happening to me. When I'm "In the zone", I Can get to the O-place just by Him biting the back of my neck really hard. But I can also get off without any pain at all. (And I love that once in a while) I chose the first 3.

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/13/2009 12:26:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: girlygurl

I wish I could orgasm without being sexually stimulated... I'd be a coming machine

You just need to be better trained is all... *Evil Chuckles*

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/13/2009 12:39:03 PM

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Impossible without stimulation

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RE: Pain, Sex and Orgasms - 1/13/2009 1:17:54 PM

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is squirting while having the cock of someone you are emotionally connected to in your mouth/throat....considered sexual stimulation?

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