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How the "No catchy title question" turned out - 1/13/2009 1:56:50 AM   
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Last month, I started a thread called "No catchy title... just a question."  If you weren't following along then, you can read it here http://www.collarchat.com/m_2322557/tm.htm.  If you don't want to read the thread, the quick premise was that, after being gone seven months, My husband had promised to bottom one time during his month home.  This is the follow up.

I waited literally almost the whole month that he was home (he will be leaving again tomorrow morning) for this scene to materialize.  Believe Me when I say this was an exercise in patience!  I did play with clip and others during the month, and those scenes were extremely good, but there was an added extra element to this scene that I was waiting for.  The anticipation of the scene alone had a good seductive quality.  That build up alone had guarantee of success written all over it.

My husband is not My sub, nor is he the other bottoms that I play with.  We negotiated the scene and set the ground rules.  We agreed that he would chose ten toys for the duration of the scene**.  There was some debate about whether matching pairs counted as one toy or two.  (I won this, as I consider matching sets one toy since they are used together.)

The scene was set by beginning with My shower.  During this time, he set up the room with candles and incense.  When I finished showering, he toweled Me dry.  I was then dressed.  My under the bust corset was laced with just a hint of an outfit underneath.  I decided to tell him that he would change into something more appealing for Me, which he did.

Play began with a nice warm up.  I started taking him up in intensity with the toys.  Since he is not a masochist, it was lighter play than what I would normally do.  I would take him up with a particular toy(s) and watched his reactions  to see where he was being pushed with any given instrument(s).  I also used this to My advantage.  It became a game of "if you want this type of pain to stop, you will do xyz to Me."  This translated into various forms of what could be called sexual service.  A few rounds of it and I was a very happy camper. 

I didn't *quite* make it through using all ten of the selections.  Both of us were in a wonderful head space.  As the number of orgasms increased, the more I wanted the sex rather than the play.  It was absolutely fantastic sex, which ended sometime around daybreak.

After a nap, I floated through the majority of the day.  When I have a good top space, the effects can linger for hours.  I spent My day being a very content, happy, sexually fulfilled woman who will be remembering this scene for a very long time.



**  The complete list of toys.

One pair of rope floggers

One pair of purple deer floggers (light)

One pair of of beige floggers (medium)

One pair of red and black floggers (medium thud)

One pair yellow and black floggers (heavy thud)

One single flogger with knots in two places in the falls (An Achella that has been affectionately named "The Dragon's Teeth")

One pair of bull floggers with completely knotted falls (Also Achella)

One pair of dragon tails

One leather slapper

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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 2:55:25 AM   
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LadyP, that sounds like a very sexy and fun filled evening! I am glad that you had your time together and got the scene.It sounds like it went even better than expected. Very Awesome!!

Did MrP enjoy it as much as you did?

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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 3:16:22 AM   
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I figured that I should answer this one.  Yes I did enjoy it.  It made Her happy, and when I can make Her happy I enjoy it.  I will say though that there is a definite reason why I am not a sub.  

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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 6:53:14 AM   
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What a happy story!! 


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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 7:07:57 AM   
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How absolutely wonderful!!

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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 7:14:46 AM   
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You two rock!


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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 7:17:49 AM   
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that is awesome!!

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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 7:22:51 AM   
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I figured that I should answer this one.  Yes I did enjoy it.  It made Her happy, and when I can make Her happy I enjoy it.  I will say though that there is a definite reason why I am not a sub.  

MrP

I have to say first, congratulations.  I am happy the scene went well, and that you both had a good time.  These statements almost do not jive for me, though.. almost.  Even as a dominant I have to admit there are certain people whom it pleases me to please, but almost never does it please me to do something I do not enjoy to please another.  Oh I will make sacrifices for the sake of others, but my sacrifices tend to be two edged. 

I guess what I am saying is that if this scene really worked for you, given the description, I wonder if what you really meant to say was that you are not a masochist.  I would be very interested to know if perhaps a future scene might be negotiated without pain play, and how you might react to that... but then, from what I have been able tp glean about your fine LadyP, she probably would not get much out of it.  She seems like the type who insists on that element if she is going to expend the time and enegry to top in a scene, and even if you did have a submissive streak, if it doesn't do it for her, it won't do it for you either... maybe I have answered my own question here.


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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 7:48:35 AM   
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Even as a dominant I have to admit there are certain people whom it pleases me to please, but almost never does it please me to do something I do not enjoy to please another. 

Dang, Maxwell67.  That's the first thing I've ever read by you that I thought was totally off.  Heaven knows, there's plenty of things about the US military that I don't support, but there's a lot to be said for instilling an understanding that the important thing is accomplishing objectives, not how one feels every single second of the day.  "Enjoyment" is overrated, frankly.  "Fulfillment" and "accomplishing goals" are where it's at.  Do something boring, painful, scary, that you don't like at all -- and then achieve something rare and amazing as an end product -- is totally worth it.

Don't you know people who keep running after short-term pleasure at the expense of long-term contentment?  It's a microwave HotPocket Pop-Tart approach to life.  Sometimes it's better to slave over a hot stove, and then sit down to a sumptuous meal at the end of the day.


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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 10:00:58 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Maxwell67

quote:

ORIGINAL: MisterP61
I figured that I should answer this one.  Yes I did enjoy it.  It made Her happy, and when I can make Her happy I enjoy it.  I will say though that there is a definite reason why I am not a sub.  

MrP

I have to say first, congratulations.  I am happy the scene went well, and that you both had a good time.  These statements almost do not jive for me, though.. almost.  Even as a dominant I have to admit there are certain people whom it pleases me to please, but almost never does it please me to do something I do not enjoy to please another.  Oh I will make sacrifices for the sake of others, but my sacrifices tend to be two edged. 

I guess what I am saying is that if this scene really worked for you, given the description, I wonder if what you really meant to say was that you are not a masochist.  I would be very interested to know if perhaps a future scene might be negotiated without pain play, and how you might react to that... but then, from what I have been able tp glean about your fine LadyP, she probably would not get much out of it.  She seems like the type who insists on that element if she is going to expend the time and enegry to top in a scene, and even if you did have a submissive streak, if it doesn't do it for her, it won't do it for you either... maybe I have answered my own question here.



OK.  Let Me clarify.
  As Her husband, it gave Me great pleasure to make Her happy.  I don't know how else to put it.  Would I negotiate a day of servitude (IE, bathing, dressing and serving)..... more then likely... but it would be pleasurable for Me because I am Her husband and love Her.  There is a whole lot more dynamically between a husband and wife, then just a D/s relationship.  I am glad She has a masochist boy who enjoys the "harder" side, for I know that I could not live that part for Her every day.  My personality will not allow it.

MrP



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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 10:09:31 AM   
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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 10:14:33 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

*adores LadyP and MrP*


*quick hijack*  Waves to GT and extends a congrats on upcoming nups.


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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 10:17:11 AM   
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thanks!  I hope that my marriage is as awesome as yours is :)

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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 10:25:32 AM   
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I thought I'd just pop on and address the comments.  I'd like to thank folks for participating in the thread and it's nice to see the folks who came on to read it and say that you were happy with the result.  Often, folks pose questions and we just never know how it turns out.

Maxwell, the reply you posted has some merit to it.  MisterP absolutely isn't a masochist.  Without taking the trouble to search My own original, I think I threw that in there somewhere.  He does, however, enjoy making Me happy.  Some of the things that I mentioned during the 'setting up' of the scene, such as drying Me off after the shower, etc., are things that he enjoys because it tends to make Me feel pampered a bit.  I tend to think any grown male knows that isn't a bad idea to provide for a female from time to time. 

On the pain subject and whether or not I'd have interest in a scene that didn't involve it.  Yes, I would, however this was the type of scene we had agreed on for this particular occasion.  We have done scenarios for service oriented  periods before.  Light sensation would have been an idea.  Wax would have been enjoyable.  You get the idea. 

RedM, your opinion was appreciated.  I wrote this regarding another subject very recently.  A man willing to fulfill a fantasy of their partner, is a pretty smart man.  That willingness can sometimes be seen as more exciting than the activities of the scene itself.

Edited for some transposed letters.


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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 10:44:19 AM   
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What a great topic!  Thanks for sharing this!  

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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 12:25:53 PM   
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Dang, Maxwell67.  That's the first thing I've ever read by you that I thought was totally off.  Heaven knows, there's plenty of things about the US military that I don't support, but there's a lot to be said for instilling an understanding that the important thing is accomplishing objectives, not how one feels every single second of the day.  "Enjoyment" is overrated, frankly.  "Fulfillment" and "accomplishing goals" are where it's at.  Do something boring, painful, scary, that you don't like at all -- and then achieve something rare and amazing as an end product -- is totally worth it.

Don't you know people who keep running after short-term pleasure at the expense of long-term contentment?  It's a microwave HotPocket Pop-Tart approach to life.  Sometimes it's better to slave over a hot stove, and then sit down to a sumptuous meal at the end of the day.


There are times when a great deal of effort doing something you do not enjoy pays off in the end.  Before I started directing, I was an actor, and I had to take direction that I often found painful but the resulting work turned out to be more than worth the sacrifice (sometimes).  Please note, I did say "almost never". I am not really goal oriented, though.  I am a process oriented person, so I tend to look for ways of doing things that consistently work for me.  I am absolutely not the "at any cost" type.  I am afraid I simply cannot agree on the importance of "accomplishing goals" unless the goal is to develop a system that works.

Back to the topic at hand, though.  I do not mix pain into all of my scenes either, for a variety of reasons, but the scenes where I really find my 'top space', as LadyP aptly puts it, are the ones where I am dealing out extreme sensations.  I have done scenes where I have pampered mine, and loved them.  A good shibari scene for me involves a lot of pampering, massaging her, bathing her and drying her and so on, with lots of work expended preparing the atmosphere.. but while I do enjoy that it is the second half of the scene (tying her into an awkward and uncomfortable position and watching her endure it) I am really anticipating.

Ultimately I must I admire MrP's resilience and dedication to his wife.  I could never have done that.  I suppose that is why I am only attracted to subissives and why I married one, hehe.

I have to agree, though, that it is both wise and rewarding to fulfill the fantasies of the woman I love and I would encourage any man to do the same.  I feel exceptionally fortunate that her fantasies are things I would enjoy doing to her anyway.


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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 1:25:52 PM   
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I am just smiling for you both. It is great to see two people in an awesome marriage.

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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/13/2009 3:09:03 PM   
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Yaaaaaay for you guys!  :> 
I'm glad that apleasurable time was shared by you both. 
And, thank you for your service (In the military), MrP. 
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RE: How the "No catchy title question" turned... - 1/14/2009 12:24:00 PM   
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Thanks to everyone who gave us such good thoughts.  Just wanted to acknowledge those who participated.

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