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darchChylde -> Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 8:20:15 AM)
This is for those who see themselves as being in a strong, healthy, fulfilling and long-term D/s relationship... Nothing is forever; if/when for whatever reason your current relationship ends, do you see yourself as being able to move on and try again with D/s in the future?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 8:22:03 AM)
I put that in the "I don't know" category. Not because it's Ds or anything, just because the context is too vast.

sirsholly -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 8:24:55 AM)
no. i would be done with relationships...D/s or otherwise.

GreedyTop -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 8:26:30 AM)
I'm gonna echo LA. I thought I was done with relationships entirely... but I'm about to get married. :) smooches Darch

OmegaG -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 8:45:20 AM)
there are alot of variables to consider. If the relationship ended sooner rather then later, I would say that I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life alone. But there is a period of readjustment when a relationship ends and that period is in direct corrolation with how long the relationship lasts. I would think that especially in a M/s relationship I would have to "detox" and find myself as an individual before I should even consider another relationship. The longer I am in this relationship, the longer that period would be. But I'm getting too old for the dating/meeting/new relationship shit, this better last forever.

KatyLied -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 8:47:07 AM)
Yes, of course I would be able to move on and try again. I won't limit myself to just D/s though. If a person is otherwise compatible and a bit kinky it would probably work for me, regardless of the D/s element.

IronBear -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 8:47:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: darchChylde This is for those who see themselves as being in a strong, healthy, fulfilling and long-term D/s relationship... Nothing is forever; if/when for whatever reason your current relationship ends, do you see yourself as being able to move on and try again with D/s in the future? Been there, done that sucessfully..

sub4hire -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 8:48:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: darchChylde This is for those who see themselves as being in a strong, healthy, fulfilling and long-term D/s relationship... Nothing is forever; if/when for whatever reason your current relationship ends, do you see yourself as being able to move on and try again with D/s in the future? I would imagine it would depend on why the relationship ended. Was it a nice parting of ways? We don't want the same thing anymore? Or a bloody fest? Even if a bloody fest we all need time to heal. Reflect upon what once was and what we need to change in the next relationship. Everybody need to get to know who they actually are at some point in their lives. Who they really are. After the person did that. It would really depend if they wanted another relationship or not. If the relationship lasted 60 years in the first place before breaking up. Doubtful they would start another. My personal experience. I was with my first dom ten years when we split up. The reason we broke up was simple. We were both military...he was full time. Being transferred. He wanted me to marry him, up and move out of the country. He wasn't somebody I felt I could spend the rest of my life with. So I asked for release. I've never regretted my decision a day. I immediately started soul searching...and searching for my next and final dominant. Five years later he crossed my path.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 8:48:59 AM)
Yup, I will absolutely be able to move on. I'm a young vibrant women, I won't spend the rest of my life single pining for something that will never be again. quote: ORIGINAL: darchChylde This is for those who see themselves as being in a strong, healthy, fulfilling and long-term D/s relationship... Nothing is forever; if/when for whatever reason your current relationship ends, do you see yourself as being able to move on and try again with D/s in the future?

mistoferin -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 8:49:38 AM)
When I got married I really thought it was going to be "until death do us part". It turned out it wasn't. I moved on to a new chapter of my life and met my ex Master. To me, it was forever, I never thought it would end. But it did. He is deceased. I've moved on. I am now in another loving and committed relationship. We are both looking at it as our last relationship we will be seeking. But I don't have a crystal ball. I do know that should it end, for whatever reason, and I still have living to do...I likely won't do that living alone.

akisha -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 8:55:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: darchChylde This is for those who see themselves as being in a strong, healthy, fulfilling and long-term D/s relationship... Nothing is forever; if/when for whatever reason your current relationship ends, do you see yourself as being able to move on and try again with D/s in the future? Of course I'll be able to move on and re-enter into another D/s relationship. It probably wouldn;t be with in days, weeks or even a couple months but once I was ready again I would totally go back out and start looking for a new partner/Dominant. When my last relationship ended because of an non relationship issue, it took me a while to get back up on my feet, but i did, and i moved on. I tried a few times to meet new Dom's before I was actually ready and that didn't work lol. It's not something you can really force I found. It took me a year to actually be ready to go out and start trying again. Thing is when my marriage ended, i was back dating with in a month and had no problem with it at all. Each relationship is different. Some would say that they would never look again if their relationship ended. I'm not that kind of person. Might take me a bit to move on but I always do.

LaTigresse -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 9:06:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: darchChylde This is for those who see themselves as being in a strong, healthy, fulfilling and long-term D/s relationship... Nothing is forever; if/when for whatever reason your current relationship ends, do you see yourself as being able to move on and try again with D/s in the future? Of course!

trealeon -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 9:40:33 AM)
My relationship just ended so I can answer that question. Though I know I need to take some time to get over this past relationship, I know that I do want to continue to persue a D/s relationship.

ForAlways -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 9:52:45 AM)
Flippin' boards...ok, if this shows up three times, my apologies...: Finding myself currently in this position, I can answer Yes to being able to move on (and I never honestly thought I'd ever be able to say that). Whether or not a new relationship will have a D/s dynamic to it, though, will remain to be seen. I'm hopeful, but I refuse to limit myself.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 9:59:51 AM)
Of I course I will. I did it quite speedily over the summer. The attention I got soothed my broken heart. Now being back with my Warden I do feel guilt over the heart I broke. There was more to it than just wanting to get back together with Warden. There were the doubts I was having in the new Dominant i was seeing. Perhaps its advisable to give yourself more than 2 weeks after one breaks off with you to get involved with the next. (rebound guy made things fun though)

LadyPact -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 10:31:46 AM)
Yes, I would. I have no choice but to answer that way. There would definitely be a period that I would grieve the loss of My current D/s dynamic, but I also know that I want it in My life.

chamberqueen -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 10:37:19 AM)
I've actually thought about this quite a bit. I don't think that I would ever want another BDSM relationship unless I could find someone truly special. In my year of slavery I have undergone vast changes, had limits pushed to the point where they are virtually nonexistent, and given more trust that I thought was possible. While it has been a very rewarding journey I don't think that I could give that much of myself again unless the match was just right. Vanilla relationships take much less work.

BondageBarbieX -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 10:37:37 AM)
My first long term relationship to my MasterDaddy lasted till he died and we would still be together if he had not passed away...he was my true love.The relationship I am in now has been semi- long term...over 2 years... and I plan to be with him for the rest of my life.

agirl -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 10:39:42 AM)
I really don't know. Anything could happen, and in my life it tends to.....lol But in all seriousness, knowing how long it takes me to want to be around someone else to any great degree, I think the likelihood is slim; Mostly because of my personality and age. It's nothing to do with the D/s aspect, that's small stuff, and in fact not at all significant, in why I'd like a guy. I'm only in a D/s relationship because that's what was on offer. He doesn't DO egalitarian. ETA.......I haven't looked at any relationship as 'forever' not even my marriages. agirl

SailingBum -> RE: Your last relationship? (1/13/2009 11:02:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: darchChylde This is for those who see themselves as being in a strong, healthy, fulfilling and long-term D/s relationship... Nothing is forever; if/when for whatever reason your current relationship ends, do you see yourself as being able to move on and try again with D/s in the future? But of course! While going through my divorce after being married for over 15 years. Mom asked with concern in her voice "what are you going to do now?" My reply The same thing I do each day get up and put one foot in front of the other. Sure each day is different some less stressed than others. That is what keeps life intresting. BadOne

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