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LaTigresse -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 4:08:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 Not an issue. This is not a hypothetical situation for me, either. Me either.

graceadieu -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 6:23:38 AM)
It'd only bother me if there was sex involved, and that's just for safety reasons.

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 6:27:47 AM)
Absolutely not. In fact, I'm actually considering a request from someone that I do some (nude) modeling for a life-drawing class in our neighborhood, myself. (I can't imagine why, but she said that I would provide visual "texture" that is different from the usual muscle-bound dancer-types who usually sit for the class.) If someone I cared about or was interested in wanted to explore nude modeling, erotic photography, or spending cast time in erotic movies, I'd do what I could to help them find ways to enjoy the experience, and I'd revel in their joy... and in the joy of sharing them with the people who got to -see- what I enjoyed.

YoursMistress -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 6:35:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Maxwell67 No It would not bother me. I have been naked on stage in front of 3000 people, including my in-laws. I think that a certain amount of care needs to be exercised in doing something like this, but done right, it can be fun and very hot. Hmm. (...doesn't remember getting an invitation...now feels left out and disappointed...) yours

MistressLamia -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 6:36:03 AM)
Not everyone is in a position to live openly. In the real world some people are offended by porn and, what I consider, everyday things. I have a business that takes me into private homes. I'm sure my livelyhood would be hurt if someone saw some of the pictures I have taken that's why I am very careful who takes pictures of me and where they end up.

thishereboi -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 6:41:20 AM)
FR- If that is what she wanted to do, I wouldn't have a problem with it. I would never force someone or try to talk them into it though.

thetammyjo -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 7:11:29 AM)
Apparently not since Fox was in two rubbermen movies a few years back... Sadly they were very cheap and only available online and he got nothing but the fun of the moment and free membership in the club for helping with them. I got to find a way to make money off my pretty boy... wink

FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 7:19:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Vendaval If you were interested in someone and found out that they had posed for nude photos or in pornographic movies or kink photos for publication would that cross a hard-limit for you? No It wouldn't matter to me much that he had done nude modeling. I have an uneasy relationship with the model mentality anyway, but don't judge people based on that alone. Most of what someone has done in the past, doesn't much bother me, as long as there isn't a current attachment or excessive baggage as a result. quote: What if your current partner(s) wanted to explore being this type of model or actor? Would that end the relationship? If I began dating someone who didn't previously have these aspirations, but developed them, I would possibly have a problem with it, to the point of it possibly affecting our relationship. I cannot say for sure, being this is such a hypothetical question, and I have no emotional attachment to consider losing/being hurt by. M

Vendaval -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 11:35:58 AM)
Do you have still photos from the shoot? Those can be very revealing. [;)] quote: ORIGINAL: thetammyjo Apparently not since Fox was in two rubbermen movies a few years back... Sadly they were very cheap and only available online and he got nothing but the fun of the moment and free membership in the club for helping with them. I got to find a way to make money off my pretty boy... wink

Jeptha -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 11:44:49 AM)
So, to all who have answered with the unequivical "nope, doesn't bother me!", does that mean you would have no problem with your partner poking others as long as someone took pictures? ~Quite a liberal bunch!

akisha -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 11:48:35 AM)
If it was just photography and no porn or penetration I would have no problem with it at all. I'd want to be there to watch tho g I'm not sure how He would feel about it if someone wanted to take pictures of me though, probably if they promised him copies and he was there the whole time he'd be ok with it. Though honestly if I was ever approached and asked to model nude I'd probably either faint or suspect it was a gag. lol

CreativeDominant -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 12:28:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: curvyslavegirl How exactly could someone's past behaviors be considered a "hard limit". It doesn't affect your current relationship (unless they're actively doing porn). It's just being judgmental. I disagree. This is not jumping on you in particular, slavegirl but against those who think the past is just that...the past. That's a wonderful way to think and if you can do so, more power to you. However, there are those on here whose professions could be damaged if a partner's past behavior were known. And oddly enough, the fact that a person had done a porno film or posed for porno/kinky photos could be more of a problem than the fact that the person had been a criminal of some sort (depending on the crime, of course). That happens because many tend to look at past criminal behavior as an indicator and study the person closely now to see if they really are remorseful for their crimes. They tend to do the same thing with someone who has a known sexual past when that sexual past has a lurid nature to it BUT along with that scrutiny comes the hope/anticipation(?) that they will fall back to their "sexually deviant, wicked ways". There's things I've done...and have owned up to...that were a detour from the route of my life; a route I'd followed up to the detour and since the detour. Those things have cost me, though they are well in the past and when looked at in terms of time, took up only 1/26th of my life. Doesn't matter to some...I am just as bad now---in their eyes---as I was when those things occurred. And that is their right to feel that way, rightly or wrongly. I've said it before...we all judge. We do so the minute we express an opinion on any subject. You might think that I would not judge others, based on my own experience. You'd be wrong. There's a thread about belief systems and the fact that, no matter how flexible you are, if you don't have some core beliefs---you are nothing but a chameleon. And those beliefs are...in and of themselves...judgments.

beargonewild -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 1:21:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant I disagree. This is not jumping on you in particular, slavegirl but against those who think the past is just that...the past. That's a wonderful way to think and if you can do so, more power to you. However, there are those on here whose professions could be damaged if a partner's past behavior were known. And oddly enough, the fact that a person had done a porno film or posed for porno/kinky photos could be more of a problem than the fact that the person had been a criminal of some sort (depending on the crime, of course). That happens because many tend to look at past criminal behavior as an indicator and study the person closely now to see if they really are remorseful for their crimes. They tend to do the same thing with someone who has a known sexual past when that sexual past has a lurid nature to it BUT along with that scrutiny comes the hope/anticipation(?) that they will fall back to their "sexually deviant, wicked ways". There's things I've done...and have owned up to...that were a detour from the route of my life; a route I'd followed up to the detour and since the detour. Those things have cost me, though they are well in the past and when looked at in terms of time, took up only 1/26th of my life. Doesn't matter to some...I am just as bad now---in their eyes---as I was when those things occurred. And that is their right to feel that way, rightly or wrongly. I've said it before...we all judge. We do so the minute we express an opinion on any subject. You might think that I would not judge others, based on my own experience. You'd be wrong. There's a thread about belief systems and the fact that, no matter how flexible you are, if you don't have some core beliefs---you are nothing but a chameleon. And those beliefs are...in and of themselves...judgments. In relation to the OP's question, No I will not judge nor will I condemn a partner who posed for nude photos or made a porn movie. I have to say No I would not end a relationship because my partner wanted to try their hand at porn. In my eyes, I have no right to condemn a dream or wish that my partner has, to do so would be demeaning their desires and conssequently demeaning my partner as a person. CD: Yet a person also has to understand that what I have done in the past is strictly in the past. I does not accurately reflect who I am now. Granted the experiences of my past helped create who I am now as a person though it is just one of hundreds of experiences I lived up to this point in my life. Yes there are several things in my past I am not proud of yet without me doing what I doine, I would not be the person I am today. In the context of the OP's query, it is far to easy to condemn and make a negative judgement on another because of their past history. If that would be the case then I should be dammed as my own past includes: excessive drinking and drugging, whoring myself out for recreational drugs, being a willing participant on numerous affairs with married men, among various other things. All those activities I engaged in happened in my past and that is where they remain. This I can guarantee as the circumstances which were in place at that time is impossible to reoccur in the present or the future. The main thing is to understand that people can change and they do change.

pixidustpet -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 2:53:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: curvyslavegirl How exactly could someone's past behaviors be considered a "hard limit". It doesn't affect your current relationship (unless they're actively doing porn). It's just being judgmental. there are nude photos of me floating about the internets. they arent recent, but they are still recognisably me. TheEngineer has been dabbling in politics. it would not take much to find out that he moved me here without me being divorced or that he knew me for some 9 years and knew me in the biblical sense while i was still living with my now ex. the nude photos on top of that could be an embarassment to him if someone decided to use me against him. could be. he happens to be of the mindset that his private life isnt the issue, his platform is. he may never get elected to anything...but to some other person, my past could have been enough to make him pass on me. kitten whose photos are pretty damned mild.

tornaway -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 3:40:27 PM)
Not as long as I was given copies of all the videos and photos to enjoy ! [:)]

aravain -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 5:01:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Hardly. For people in certain professions, having a partner who could be seen having sex would ruin their lives. Politics, education, religion. All areas where past behaviors could easily erode present respect. Do you think a middle or high school teacher would get the same respect after the students watched her on the net be pissed on as she would if they hadn't seen such a thing? This is where my only issues come up with it (and why I indicated it would need to be a discreet relationship. Not to mention the fact that I'm going to be a gay teacher, so there is already a semi-scandalous (in many communities, if not most, throughout the US. I believe there were 48 states, last I checked, which do not include 'Sexual Orientation' under discrimination laws... which mean it can be a fire-able offense!) angle to my personal life, just by HAVING a partner. EDIT: To add: quote: ORIGINAL: Jeptha So, to all who have answered with the unequivical "nope, doesn't bother me!", does that mean you would have no problem with your partner poking others as long as someone took pictures? ~Quite a liberal bunch! Not really, s'long as he is being smart and not secretive about it. Sex is not a 'relationships only' thing for me. It's a very animalistic act, and a relationship is something more that should be able to stand without sex. Don't get me wrong, it's important to me within a relationship, too... I don't want him to be fucking other guys (I'm kinda pissed at bi men right now so I'm not even considering them) and never fucking me. Likewise I would hope that any partners I have wouldn't mind, either... though if they're habitual monogamists and require me to be too, I can be. It's just not all-important too me. It takes a delicate balance :)

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 5:08:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeptha So, to all who have answered with the unequivical "nope, doesn't bother me!", does that mean you would have no problem with your partner poking others as long as someone took pictures? ~Quite a liberal bunch! Actually, yeah... I probably would. In fact, now that you mention it, as long as my mates happened to mention that they were going to do some 'poking'... on film or off... I'd be pretty cool with it. It would only be if they hid it or snuck around or lied that I'd be peeved... and lying would be a hard limit.

yourMissTress -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 5:16:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeptha So, to all who have answered with the unequivical "nope, doesn't bother me!", does that mean you would have no problem with your partner poking others as long as someone took pictures? ~Quite a liberal bunch! Jeptha, ever heard of open relationships? poly? swinging? As a few others have said, my problem would come if my partner neglected to mention that there would be "poking" involved.

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 5:18:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant However, there are those on here whose professions could be damaged if a partner's past behavior were known. This is one reason that I've always told myself that if I had to lie about myself or those I loved to keep my job, I wouldn't want to be working in that place anyway. I don't think that I could work somewhere where I would have to be worried that something that someone I loved did joyfully could be twisted into some evil, horrific thing that could be hung over our heads to manipulate us or threaten us. I do understand what you're saying CD. It's actually been a bit of an issue for me for the past couple of months. I've been considering politics -- a few folks around here have been encouraging me to get involved in some local, small-scale political stuff and run for office in 2 years. One thing that has been a sticking point is that I refuse to deny my relationship to my Darling... either the folks believe in what I stand for, and accept that I am honest about my life, even if they don't understand it, or obviously, political office isn't in my cards... I'll be happy to stay behind the scenes and mind my garden if I can't be openly who I am and still serve the greater community.

MidMichCowboy -> RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? (1/15/2009 5:33:58 PM)
The past is the past. I don't hold anyone to actions in the past (as long as they weren't really serious felonies [:D] ). But, the future, I don't want to share and I don't want to be shared.

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