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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 5:33:08 AM

immoral

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Smiles, Quid pro quo, personally id say take things slower in the future and try to extrude some conversation/ try to get a feel for the person you are talking to, if they are genuine /nice/people it should'nt be beyond their remit to accomodate you with polite conversation.and if they arent.....its your choice....isnt it?when you made the decision to send pictures and would have cammed if you could( like putting out on a first date ),it gave out a signal that you were easy?/desperate?/just looking to play/be exploited?,if that isn't the case then maybe you need to behave differently.
at least that way if they turn out to be *place chosen expletive here* you may have salvaged some self respect,

the view from the moral high ground is a good one!.

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 5:37:25 AM

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First off, everything you stated makes me think it was a gay guy instead of a Mistress. A genuine Mistress would have loads of prospective subs and have better things to do than get a webcam performance from a stranger.

That said, I think your question, stripped of the anger, should be what to do when a relative stranger Dom/me asks for a webcam performance right off the bat. I would expect a reply of, "I'm sorry, but I would like to know more about you first."

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 6:22:49 AM

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so yeah dude, like wow man, I mean whoa, like you got roped into something, like man whew--

clean up your mouth and deal with it.

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 6:32:28 AM

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"Doms piss you off?? "

I'm not even going to address the body of this post. The answer to this question is "NO" because I am in control of my emotions, not some cyber conversation with a faceless set of fingers on the other side.

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 6:38:18 AM

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Does anyone see the problem with a Sunmissive saying "domms piss me off"?
Go back to vanilla land where you can have more control over people, m'kay?
Or better yet, dont rant just dont play the game. I dont cam with anyone and say bu-bye gladly to those who are playing games. But i dont come online and bitch about it.

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 6:53:36 AM

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Well Luscious, OmegaG, your both more mature than I, so props to you.

To all other replies, thank you for your responses. Very much appreciated!

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 6:56:03 AM

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Unique
Maybe fast anger over something so small can be a positive for you? It would surely show me that I need to learn patience and self control over my emotions. Actually self control over emotions is a good thing for all people, especially when we let little insignificant things eat at us and feel impel to throw a hissy fit.

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 7:00:16 AM

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quote:

Does anyone see the problem with a Sunmissive saying "domms piss me off"?

Nope. Dommes piss me off all the time.

But I think that if I'm going to be starting an argument about it on a public forum like this, it's probably a good idea to step back and ask myself if the problem is what I think it is.

In this case, for example, a few minutes' thought might have led the OP to the same conclusion some other commenters have already reached: the person he was dealing with was probably neither a woman nor a dom. Hence whatever grievances he may have against Dommedom in general don't apply.

In other words, sure it pisses me off that the site has a number of anonymous fakers on it. But it's not the fault of the genuine doms.

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 7:00:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: UniqueIndv

Ok forget it. More people concerned with how I wrote my post than the content that lies within it. Great, and thanks for all the help!

Mods please delete thread when available!

I don't have any problem with your original post. People do crappy things, and it's understandable when someone feels the need to air a complaint.

However, I don't understand what "help" you were looking for. Nobody's really going to suggest anything for you that shouldn't already be perfectly obvious to you.

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 7:08:05 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: UniqueIndv

Well Luscious, OmegaG, your both more mature than I, so props to you.

To all other replies, thank you for your responses. Very much appreciated!

Well, lessons learned. You're young, you will grow. Dont ever do anything for anyone that doesnt feel right. Everyone in the world doesnt have to like you and you will learn to be okay with that as you mature.

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 7:13:10 AM

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Let me guess, you're not a Scrabble champion, are you?

I think you seriously need to chill, big time. You're taking this or yourself way too seriously. Your OP makes you out to be so anal that if a domme gave you an enema she probably wouldn't get a single drop back.

On the other side you're going to find people who take this all too seriously, and some who don't take it seriously at all. It's worth striking a balance.

In the immortal words of Frankie Goes To Hollywood 'Relax'.

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 7:15:26 AM

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OK I am now cleaning up coffee off the keyboard! I do so love your wit.

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 7:25:07 AM

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You're gonna be really mad when you find out that "she" was probably a 56 year old man living in south Florida...

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 7:58:25 AM

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Thank god I wasn't drinking anything just now......

Be careful or the boy will have a seizure or something!

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 9:10:31 AM

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I must have missed a lot of foul language in your unedited post because I don't see anything that a normal person would not react to with annoyance. Heck.. get on cam? BS. I am not a puppet who is going to comply with any tom, dick, or harriet. Just because I am sub does not mean I have to show, converse, or darned well be obsequious to someone because they call themselves dominant.
Big deal. If they think otherwise or get offended when I get annoyed then they are probably stuck in the terrible two phase of development.
I can see you being pissed off. But, if it were me it wouldnt even have gotten that far. Someone wants a pic? How about making it mutual? Cam? LOL.. like I need anyone that badly! Hell no.
Regarding the rest of this thread.. Unless I missed a heck of a lot of foul language I simply do not understand the reaction. We all have these experiences. We are all human and have a right to vent frustration. However, this is the ask a sub/slave forum.. and venting is not asking, so I can see how it might be misconstrued.
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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 9:13:59 AM

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i wish Y/you guys weren't so..mean to him. i mean he is used to having people you know be equal. some Dom's dont like that they like having power over the submissive(duh, right?)

but right from the get go to be like that it's jarring for someone who is new. It was jarring for me. I did the same exact thing once and the Dom said wait until you get in a better place then we'll do it. That's not the same as calling someone a flake of course, but it's sorta of the same thing i could have said "fuck you, i don't want to wait be excited then realize your not who you say you are." Eh but your the submissive your the one who is advertising himself as that. So you must be like that. and if that doesnt make sense to you..then maybe you shouldnt be doing this. You have to be calm, and not be an agitator. i don't mean fake it, i really don't. hopefully ya'all understand where i am coming from.

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 9:20:36 AM

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well my first thought on this was.... how did she get your yahoo? and i agree with the poster above, we all get these type of things.... Being a female submissve you can't even imagine the garbage that comes across my screen. I'm pretty genuine and can spot equally genuine people. The rest? i just blow off. I suggest you do too.

That's my .02

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 10:10:39 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: UniqueIndv

You could put it like that. It's just that for someone that I don't even know, did nothing to offend, for them to call me a flake and tell me to fuck off out of nowhere just changes things. Like had she given me respect vs cussing me out, then I would have gone about my business no harm no foul. But no respect for me, means no respect for you. With that said, it DOES NOT make my reaction ok, or right/mature by any means, but that's why I said called her one so many times. Hell I even apologized for it and she still cussed me out. Maybe your all just much more grown up and mature that I am, but I only show respect and maintain respect for people, just for being people. Besides the M/s scenario, I respected her off the bat because its just how you approach people. But when someone disrespects me for no reason, it just makes me mad. Generally not this upset, but none-less it bothers me.

the first week i was on collarme, i got a c-mail from a female dominant.

now, i had specified that i was only looking for a male, older than i am. this girl was 21, snotty as all get-out, and told me i should be grateful that she was even deigning to LOOK at an old bag like me.

dont know what planet she was from (planet arrogance) but i simply blocked her and went on about my day. there WILL be idiots out there. sooner or later you WILL interact with them. reacting gives them the power because they upset you. *shrugs* dont know what more i can say about it.

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 10:18:40 AM

Loliita

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Why are you upset about what some random-no picture-no profile-far away- domme did to you?

You did respond to her and you did try to cam with her but you didn't like the way she acted so you got upset? Guys get to choose their dominants, this is true, but you don't get to choose how your dominants behave once you choose them.

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RE: Doms piss you off?? - 1/16/2009 10:54:18 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: undonework

i wish Y/you guys weren't so..mean to him. i mean he is used to having people you know be equal. some Dom's dont like that they like having power over the submissive(duh, right?)

but right from the get go to be like that it's jarring for someone who is new. It was jarring for me. I did the same exact thing once and the Dom said wait until you get in a better place then we'll do it. That's not the same as calling someone a flake of course, but it's sorta of the same thing i could have said "fuck you, i don't want to wait be excited then realize your not who you say you are." Eh but your the submissive your the one who is advertising himself as that. So you must be like that. and if that doesnt make sense to you..then maybe you shouldnt be doing this. You have to be calm, and not be an agitator. i don't mean fake it, i really don't. hopefully ya'all understand where i am coming from.

Oh honey, if you think we've been mean......... you are sorely mistaken.

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