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natasha66 -> RE: Doms piss you off?? (1/16/2009 11:00:45 AM)

Some people are asshats....get over it.




parakeet89 -> RE: Doms piss you off?? (1/16/2009 11:50:45 AM)

Yeah there are a lot of shady people on this site unfortunately. It'll happen again if you're not careful.

I've gotten messages from Doms being disrespectful right off the bat too. It's not fun, and I know that sometimes if you're already in a bad mood you just want to flip out at them. But it's not worth it in the end. It's better to hit block and delete.

And in response to one comment I saw, I don't see what's so wrong with a sub saying that certain Dom/mes piss them off. There are lots of Doms that piss me off too -- the disrespectful ones! I'm sure that's just what the OP was getting at here.




Usako -> RE: Doms piss you off?? (1/16/2009 2:26:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: undonework

i wish Y/you guys weren't so..mean to him. i mean he is used to having people you know be equal. some Dom's dont like that they like having power over the submissive(duh, right?)

but right from the get go to be like that it's jarring for someone who is new. It was jarring for me.


Geez, I dunno what women you're talking to but that's one of the easiest ways for a submissive guy to piss me off. I HATE when they want to all meek and submissive and throw around adoration without even knowing me. I WANT them to address me as an equal, as a woman...the BDSM stuff can be address letter if/when it's the right time. Perhaps if more people used the term dominant woman instead of domme, domina, or mistress, subbie boys would remember that the person they're talking to is still a woman, a person and not just some leather and latex fantasy.

As for the OP...this is the internet, it happens. It has nothing to do with BDSM and everything to do with people being tools. There is a reason why I rarely give out my instant message handle, especially on this site.




oceanwynds -> RE: Doms piss you off?? (1/16/2009 3:49:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

You're gonna be really mad when you find out that "she" was probably a 56 year old man living in south Florida... [;)]



hey watch the wise quacks about south florida..lol..i am located there ..chuckles




SthrnCom4t -> RE: Doms piss you off?? (1/16/2009 4:16:09 PM)

And you think she is Dominant, why? I agree with the poster who said you get to choose who you submit to. If you want respect, then I suggest you get to know a person better prior to giving of yourself.

From personal experience, you will find a lot of people out there that have NO CLUE. For myself, my time is too valuable to spend much time dealing with such. A polite 'no thank you' or 'I appreciate your interest, but I'm not interested' allows you to keep your own grace and dignity. If that is not accepted, the 'block' option is beautiful. I often wish I had that choice at work. <grin>

If you choose to get upset, then you've already given that person WAYYYY TOO MUCH control. Be mindful, you are ultimately responsible for your own feelings and actions.

Sthrn

quote:

ORIGINAL: UniqueIndv

So check this. I had this female dominant hit me up asking for pix..nothing in her profile..no pictures, no hobbies...just a location from some girl in DC. Mind you I live in Chicago. So she hits me up on yahoo messenger...shes like I want pix..I was like w.e Ill show you pix...I show her pix and shes like your cute...get on cam.

WTF bitch..i ain't no fuckin cam boy. But I didn't say that, instead I RESPECTFULLY asked for one of her pix, she was like after you cam..so I'm like ok its a means to an end..ill do it. BUT this sony vaio I was on doesnt have the right system requirements for me to install the lifecam program. I tell her that...and the bitch got the nerve to call me a flake. Coming from a bitch that registered 2 days ago...

Has anybody else encountered situations like this? Or people male or female just demanding respect off the bat?






Shamansub69 -> RE: Doms piss you off?? (1/16/2009 5:04:50 PM)

Dude I think I had the same chick! She was from DC but she had no pics or anything filled out. She sent me pics after I went on cam and she's actually pretty hot. But she's crazy though. She didn't tell me anything about herself until after I went on cam. And she got real nasty when I asked her questions. I don't think I'm going to talk to her anymore.




corsetgirl -> RE: Doms piss you off?? (1/16/2009 8:22:48 PM)

I have had situations like that and when someone is being insulting to me, I just hit delete, ignore and block the user. It is simple and I don't waste my time and emotions over some cyber troll.




BondageBarbieX -> RE: Doms piss you off?? (1/17/2009 2:46:08 AM)

I have had  quite a few like that...I block them 




windchymes -> RE: Doms piss you off?? (1/17/2009 5:57:20 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

You're gonna be really mad when you find out that "she" was probably a 56 year old man living in south Florida... [;)]



Or, a couple of 14-year-olds, giggling hysterically over the computer while one of them's mom's out with her boyfriend.

Tip:  Just because someone identifies themself as "Mistress" in a chat box, it does not mean they really are one.  Use discretion, and don't whore yourself out as a "means to an end".  It ain't worth it.




GoddessTeaze -> RE: Doms piss you off?? (1/17/2009 7:10:47 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: UniqueIndv

So check this. I had this female dominant hit me up asking for pix..nothing in her profile..no pictures, no hobbies...just a location from some girl in DC. Mind you I live in Chicago. So she hits me up on yahoo messenger...shes like I want pix..I was like w.e Ill show you pix...I show her pix and shes like your cute...get on cam.

WTF bitch..i ain't no fuckin cam boy. But I didn't say that, instead I RESPECTFULLY asked for one of her pix, she was like after you cam..so I'm like ok its a means to an end..ill do it. BUT this sony vaio I was on doesnt have the right system requirements for me to install the lifecam program. I tell her that...and the bitch got the nerve to call me a flake. Coming from a bitch that registered 2 days ago...

Has anybody else encountered situations like this? Or people male or female just demanding respect off the bat?



I so do understand where you're coming from.
And this is a great example, why subs wouldn't post anything anymore, simply as thier head gets chopped off, as that's the case right here.

you know why UniqueIndv,
They all we're born with all the knowlidge, and never
had to hit their heads for that matter.
They never had to learn anything in their lifes.
They've never been hurt before, they don't even curse
when they smack their head, or toe for that matter.
Maybe they do get off on the fact to put you down.
I simply don't know what fun this is to
behave this way, but don't hold it to them.

Seek the people who are out there and mean well ok?


When you're new to Bdsm you've got to learn the hard way
that there are imposters out there,
there are asholes out there, fakes, wanabees.

And when this happends, one is truly furious.

So yes, since I've been there too with fake subs,
because there are enough of them out there too,
I've learned to grow more patient, and not asume right away
that they are real.

Untill the opposit is proven.

When "Dommes" speak small sencentes,
when they want to see pics,
when they've white profiles,
when they want to see you on cam,
while you can't see them,
or a way too good fake pic,

you can bet your ass on it,
that they r male.


you had to learn it the hard way,
and Wwe all live and learn
in this jungle which is called Bdsm.

I wish you enough UniqueIndv,

Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`




NYLass -> RE: Doms piss you off?? (1/17/2009 8:28:34 AM)

I've been called worse things than bitch simply because my profile stresses that I'm not a submissive or slave, just a masochist.   When ordered to post a pic, I was then censured for having one without my face.  You can't please everyone, so make sure you please yourself.






DominaSmartass -> RE: Doms piss you off?? (1/17/2009 9:08:47 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressAinCT

However, if a Domme who MIGHT be interested in you reads your post, this will certainly turn her off-I know I'm turned off reading it. 


I disagree...

Given the frustration of these types of situations, I can understand and sympathize with someone's desire to just rant. I usually rant to my friends or in my livejournal but if someone is new and has no connections in the scene I can see it being logical (in the moment) to rant here. I don't think it makes him a bad person.

OP - I'm sorry you experienced such a bitch, but it happens. And yes, I'm calling her a bitch, based on what you've described and yes, I do have an inherent respect for women and people in general. Doesn't mean she wasn't still a bitch. Any doms out there who think it's appropriate to message someone they don't know and demand *anything* from them qualifies as a not only a bitch but an ignorant bitch in my book.

It's life on CM...it's life in the real world too. There will ALWAYS be "doms" making demands of you and then telling you you're fake or a flake or a player or not a true submissive because you won't obey them. Being submissive doesn't mean you have to obey everyone but generally you'll get further with a polite "no thanks" or just deleting and blocking the people you can tell are going to waste your time than you will by letting each one affect you personally.




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