The scope of a household

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CallaFirestormBW -> The scope of a household (1/16/2009 8:32:40 AM)
This came to mind for me when I was reading through one of the threads in the Ask a Submissive forum. The question there was whether or not a submissive woman would be bothered by a lesbian dominant who lived within the purview of a male Head of Household and accepted his status thereof.... which brings me to my thought/question. [To the Moderators: I wasn't sure where to put this, so if it's in the wrong place, please feel free to move it.] How prevalent is it that the choice of where to "hang one's hat", so to speak, is based on the sexual identities of the household membership? In other words, if one had the choice to live in a loving, caring family where one or more members of the household -didn't- share one's sexual proclivities, with the understanding that, if one -did- choose to live there, one wouldn't be expected to interact sexually with anyone who didn't share one's own preferences, would the fact that there were members of the household of other orientations, some of whom had leadership roles in the household, keep you from considering that household?

CalifChick -> RE: The scope of a household (1/16/2009 8:34:35 AM)
My respect of a person, and acceptance of their leadership, is not based on what parts they have and where they like to put them. Cali

aravain -> RE: The scope of a household (1/16/2009 9:51:09 AM)
I don't think it would really bother me too terribly much, as long as there were clearly defined rules. I'd imagine, though, that were I to join a household I would likely take on many different relationships and roles within it. For instance, in a situation similar to yours where your partner is looking for a dance partner, I wouldn't have any qualms about having a platonic relationship and even showing deference to others in leadership for the household... but I would also make it quite clear that I would be highly unlikely (if at all likely) to get in any sort of sexual situation with any women. Scenes and even light service without sexual contact would be a different matter altogether, and one that I'd need to examine more closely before ever making the 'leap' into joining a household. One of my best friends is a woman and I love it when she hits me [:D] so I clearly would have no problems with that aspect. Focusing more on the impact of the original thread, however, I would have to say in the long run it wouldn't matter, as long as I could stand everyone in the house.

BondageBarbieX -> RE: The scope of a household (1/16/2009 2:24:12 PM)
I do not care what parts a person has when it comes to respect for the head of my house

CallMePatches -> RE: The scope of a household (1/16/2009 3:51:57 PM)
It wouldn't bother me in the least. In fact it may make me consider them even more. A place where a person can really be themselves? I would be all over that.

DesFIP -> RE: The scope of a household (1/16/2009 6:06:09 PM)
Not being poly, well yes. I do need a sexual relationship with my dominant. Beyond that, I think in the thread referred to she didn't believe that the woman who contacted her was a lesbian, but instead had a sexual relationship with the male HOH, and beyond that, she wasn't interested in someone who was a switch and actively submitting. That set up would bother me. It's difficult for a lot of people to see their dominant submit. I get the feeling she felt it was a bait and switch set up. Supposedly lesbian domme was actually a sub female trolling for a third to serve them both or at the very least have him watch. Anyway, some of us want sex with our dominants. And some of us are monogamous. Not everyone could accept such a situation, especially as in the thread referred to when a cynical person (raises hand) would suspect that things weren't as they were described.

SlaveIndigochild -> RE: The scope of a household (1/17/2009 3:32:35 PM)
i think i understand your question and therefore i am going to say that the concept/my understanding and indeed my ideals accrue greater sanctity to the household rather than individuals or individual predilections..... i might allow myself the luxury of feeling differently when the fledglings have flown

alittleevil -> RE: The scope of a household (1/17/2009 3:49:31 PM)
Greetings to You, To answer your question as asked (i have no idea of the other thread), no it would not matter in the slightest. Best, aj

MasterFireMaam -> RE: The scope of a household (1/17/2009 8:59:49 PM)
I know MANY Masters, including myself, who have, and are open to, relationships with people of mismatched sexual orientations. When the focus of the relationship isn't sex, then usually sex is off the table. Master Fire

submittous -> RE: The scope of a household (1/17/2009 9:07:14 PM)
Gender and sexual orientation have nothing to do with dominance and submission for us... as a Dom/me couple we look for someones submission not their body parts.

faithfulfemme -> RE: The scope of a household (1/18/2009 3:51:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: submittous Gender and sexual orientation have nothing to do with dominance and submission for us... as a Dom/me couple we look for someones submission not their body parts. Not everyone has this philosophy. Several years back, i had an opportunity to enter into a household well-known for it's integrity and above-boardness (if there is such a word) as i had petitioned them for a mentoring position. i knew one of the women in the household personally, i think she might have been an Alpha slave, or not, i really don't know, and probably got as far as i did with my petition on her references. However, when it came right down to it, the male Master of the household insisted i had to concede to His sexual wishes, even though He knew i was queer and had no desire to interact with Him in that way. i only had mentoring in mind; He had something else in mind. Maybe that was just His way of blocking my addition to the family, i don't know. However, it worked......i rescinded my petition.

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